Thumbing through my Parent's wedding album....

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As I sit here thumbing through my Parents wedding album, an album that I found buried deep among old books in my mom's storage unit. The same album they were likely placed in shortly after there wedding never to be removed. You can see the acidic plastic sheets with the sticky glue are slowly eating away at the photos. I tell myself, that soon I need to try and take these out of the album and place them in a safer acid free album. Maybe start a scrapbook project to include them all in. Then I remember that this is not necessarily a happy memory for my mom, at least not anymore. The happy moments she remembers about that day are having her best friend, and cousin there by her side as maid of honor, they we're shortly to add sister in law among those titles. My mom like many girls fantasized about her wedding day, and talked about it with who else but her best friend. Mom said they planned long ago on sharing the same wedding dress, and bridesmaid dress, she said they had even joked about one day marrying brothers, which they did. Her cousin married just two months prior almost to the day. Mom mentions how beautiful her wedding cake was and how the wedding topper was made specially by her Aunt Laree. She said she saved it for many years, but after all of the moves she doesn't know what happened to it. Her bridesmaid dress that she wore on her cousins wedding day, and that her cousin wore on hers still hangs in her closet. A beautiful baby blue color, with white lace. There wedding dress they shared her cousin, my aunt still has I am sure from pictures it is a a Ivory white lace, with seethrough long sleeves, when I mentioned that maybe my Aunt's daughter might wear it someday, Mom said the style has changed now, women rarely wear a sleeve on there wedding day. My Father and his brother, my uncle, did not wear the same tuxedos but on there wedding day he wore a matching blue tux with blue bow tie. Dad likely being himself probably decided against wearing that at his own wedding, instead he wore a basic white cloth long sleeve sweater, and white bell bottoms. Dad with his 80's hair always gives me a laugh, such a different look for him then I ever knew him to have. The memory of mom's old truck her dad gave her all dressed up in decoration for there wedding day, a truck that was later sold by my father. Her bad memories of the after-- of what looks like in photos a wonderful wedding day. It's a old blue chevy and in one photo they proudly pose in front of it. One of my mom's most cherished possessions that disappeared after time was the wedding band her father made her, he made it out of a silver coin. It is something I know that meant the world to my mom, as it was something hand made by her father. It obviously was not worth anything, but it was worth buckets of gold to her in the sentiment it held. I know her having her dad walk her down the aisle meant a lot to her, she had proudly said she was daddy's girl. It makes me sad to think that this special wonderful day of memories, was something that to my mom ended very sour, photos of the day instead of bringing back those good memories stirs up those memories that lead to her divorce. My mom will likely never remarry although I have always encouraged her to date, she is a beautiful person inside and out and any man would be lucky to have her. But I think unlike some people my mom has always been ok with the prospect of not having to have any man in her life, god bless her for being such a wonderful, caring and thoughtful mother, and grandmother. Photo is of my mom and dad on there wedding day, you can see my AUnt in the background in her bridesmaid dress my mom wore that dress on my Aunt's wedding day, and my aunt wore the wedding dress.