I met a girl yesterday, but...
By Sambit Sukla
@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
Bangalore, India
March 26, 2017 1:16pm CST
I went to visit one of my old friends who was suffering from fever. One of her junior colleague also came to visit her. It was not a planned visit for both of us. I suddenly decided to visit my friend.
The girl is cute. We have some common interests like poetry.
My friend, her kid, the girl and I went for evening snacks to a near by mall. We had a great evening together. While returning, I dropped the girl to her home. We exchanged phone number as well.
But after that I don't know how to approach. I mean, I am an introvert person and hesitate to initiate communication, especially to a girl.
Any idea, how to approach?
I don't want that the girl to think something bad about me.
P.S. - The girl even came to my dream last night! It never happened to me that after the very first meeting someone came to my dream!
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
2 Apr 17
Finally nothing happened.. I messaged once she just answered.. But I felt is is too cheap to initiate conversation every time.. So ... no messaging...
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
3 Apr 17
@ShifaLk may be.. so better not to message again..
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@diosabella (4789)
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26 Mar 17
Duh! Just text her like wassup! You just need a start. Oh and don't forget to tell who you are and where you met. 
@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
27 Mar 17
I sent the pics over whatsapp on that very day. She saved my number as well..So I don't have to tell where we met and stuff.
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@diosabella (4789)
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27 Mar 17
@ichchhe_mrityu Even so its the polite thing to do. And besides thats your way in to a good conversation.
@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
27 Mar 17
@diosabella yes.. thank you. But thing is that after sending the pics, we did not chat more. And I am just thinking if I send IM how will she react. Like what will she think about me!
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@GardenGerty (157546)
• United States
26 Mar 17
Find a good reason to communicate. Call to check about the friend who was ill, see if this new friend has heard anything from her.
@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
26 Mar 17
I spoke to my friend, but they are office colleague and my friend is her manager, So my friend cannot speak something with her.
@JudyEv (325634)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Mar 17
I can understand this is hard for you. Can you ask her out for a coffee? Do you have poetry readings there? What about any other common interests? Visit to a museum or a tourist attraction of some sort? If she willingly gave you her number she will be hoping you'll call so don't leave it too long.
@JudyEv (325634)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Mar 17
@ichchhe_mrityu This is a really hard one for me as I have no idea what is acceptable in your country. So what is an acceptable way to meet a girl in your culture? Can you meet in a group? Does she attend religious services or whatever where you can attend too and hope to 'accidentally' meet up with her? Good luck but don't give up. Perhaps she dreams about you too!
@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
27 Mar 17
We exchanged the number because I had to send her the pictures which I took on that evening. I sent the pictures over whatsapp. After that we did not chat much. Apart from poetry we have a common interest in Bengali movies. But will it be good to ask her for a movie? Actually, in our country it is not well accepted for asking a girl out for a date. Some girls are open minded and some are not. And I am not sure how will she react if I ask her out for a coffee or a movie.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
27 Mar 17
@JudyEv We met accidentally but that is not possible. Because we work in different company and we have only one common person known to us. And she is her colleague and so not that 'friendship' kind of relation between them. So there is hardly any chance that we could meet accidentally. Yes, here we meet either in group (in college/school life, office party) or in common occasions where both are invited etc. Now-a-days another situation is happening - get to know each other over social media and then going for a date.
I am not very much hopeful considering the current scenario.
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