Pumpkin's Rant of the Day: I wouldn't do this if it didn't pay so well!

United Kingdom
March 28, 2017 12:47pm CST
Good evening everyone. I was going to do a positive post but I thought I'd get this rant off my chest first. Isn't it better that way around? I'll do a positive post later/tomorrow. Well, there are a few things going on at the moment and I'm really getting fed up of having to put up with idiots. People who think they're better than you, get really condescending and patronising, yet don't actually listen to a word you say nor do they appear to make any point. This is bad enough most of the time but it seems to be getting worse - people who are supposed to be there to help and start off actually helping but who just end up nitpicking and looking for faults instead of doing their jobs, or people trying to tell you how to do something you've been doing perfectly well since before said person was born. Anyway, I would rather not go into too much detail about that. I'm just annoyed at these so-called professionals who seem to mistake helping an autistic child to transition and integrate with changing the child's personality. Today has been a day when I wonder if being well-paid is really worth it to work with certain people. I wonder if it is, somehow, ethically or morally wrong to continue working with such people. Now, I can, up to a point, put up with people who aren't academic or who just don't know/can't do things because they haven't learned them yet. The people with whom I work today are more than just a bit dim. They are racist, selfish, demanding, lazy, and unwilling to learn. They are the kind of people who will ask questions but then ask the same question five minutes later (or ask someone else) as if the answer will magically change. One will ask me to do something over and over again when it's completely pointless. The other will go on about what he thinks of things. In itself, expressing an opinion is fine. When that opinion comes across as racist (or anything else -ist) then that bothers me. When he's stating it as fact and repeating something as fact after finding out that the facts are something different, that's a problem. Neither of these people work. I'm not sure if they actually want to but one keeps telling me how it's too much to expect either of them to attend a course for 4 hours twice a week. I have pointed out several times that they'd be doing a lot more than that if they had a job. Also, they employ me on an ad hoc basis but they have someone else whom they employ for 15 hours a week and are moaning because that person wants one day off. So that, I think, also makes them hypocrites. They are also looking at moving house. Apparently, they MUST have three bedrooms (in case their niece and nephew stay occasionally) and they seem to think they should be a priority for getting something (council, private, or owned). This particularly bothers me because I'm desperately trying to get a place together with my partner. We have no option but to go through the council. We'd be glad to take a two bedroom but the council said we have to have a three (because of the children). We NEED a ground floor (because of my partner's disabilities - if it wasn't for that, he'd have just moved in with me). So when a couple with no children and no real need to move (they live in a nice area, they just like to complain about the cars parked outside) think they have the right to demand a three bedroom home, it does annoy me. I get paid well for the job, which is basically just driving them around, so the job is easy money. It just gets a bit stressful at times when I'm having to listen to people who don't seem to have a clue how the world works outside of their own little bubble. When, it seems, every other thing they say, I want to respond with 'how do you think everyone else does it?' or suchlike. I'd struggle to find another job which pays so well and which fits around my children and other work but I am not surprised that this couple (as I've been told) can't seem to hang on to their PAs/drivers for more than a few months at a time. I had been told that the woman was selfish and demanding. I'd spent over 20 years working with toddlers so I was used to selfish and demanding! But, seriously, if I didn't see it first hand, I'd not believe just how stressful it can be to work with her. That's all for now. Please feel free to let off steam in the comments about anything that's bothering you. :)
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• Ponce De Leon, Florida
28 Mar 17
I am right there with you with being frustrated with people like that. I HATE when people don't understnad anything besides their little bubbles.
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• United Kingdom
28 Mar 17
Yes, I get having different opinions and that's all good. I'm usually good at sitting on the fence about things and seeing things from all angles. There are times, though, when I just can't do that!
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@paigea (21562)
• Canada
3 Apr 17
That does sound frustrating. I would be tempted to mention a few things about what other people are going through I think.
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• United Kingdom
4 Apr 17
I would love to but that would be unprofessional of me!
@paigea (21562)
• Canada
4 Apr 17
@pumpkinjam Even if you said oh I know what you mean just like some friends of mine, they ended up having to........... Anyway I get it, professionalism first. I would just have to pretend to be listening and disengage myself from actively listening I think
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• United Kingdom
4 Apr 17
@paigea That's pretty much what I do. They don't listen anyway. They seem incapable of actual conversation. I mean, I'm all for conversations that can sway from odd socks to philosophy but these people just seem to say random things, then I'll respond and they'll say something completely irrelevant.
@Fleura (7054)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 17
I don't know how you can put up with it. You just have to take a sort of Buddhist approach I think - that every experience is sent to teach us something, maybe about patience, forbearance, how not to treat other people... who knows? I do hope you get some free time to do something completely different like a nice walk or some time in the garden to take your mind off them!
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• United Kingdom
29 Mar 17
Thankfully, I don't usually have to spend a lot of time with them! I've been told that I have the patience of a saint but an angel would throw his halo into hell working with some people.
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