PAYING FOR COMPANIONSHIP.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (53679)
March 29, 2017 9:36am CST
How did she feel when his hands caressed a body that was no longer young and supple ? Did she wonder at any time if he inwardly recoiled whenever they made love?.
The other night I watched a movie starring Helen Mirren. Her character was an aging actress who became infatuated with a handsome young man. Fully aware that he was after her money, she accepted that fact, but at the same time hoped that he at least cared for her even just a little.
The show was kind of depressing because this sort of thing does happen in real life. Here is a woman , once young and beautiful - a woman who in her heyday had probably broken many hearts and had men falling all over themselves to grab her attention - now she has to pay for companionship.
I know men do this all the time, but it is pathetic when a woman who once had it all, ends up alone and becomes desperate enough to go that route. If you were in her situation how would you react? Would you try to recapture your lost youth or live with your memories?
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@JamesHxstatic (29237)
• Eugene, Oregon
29 Mar 17
Anne and I were both in our 60s when we met, so men can find older women attractive.
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@JamesHxstatic (29237)
• Eugene, Oregon
29 Mar 17
@FayeHazel Why, you are just a very attractive youngster with years ahead.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
29 Mar 17
Good... there is hope for me, yet. :-)
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
29 Mar 17
Ah @WorDazza you seldom fail to make me laugh.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
29 Mar 17
I think I would live with my memories,trying to make new ones could be horrible
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
30 Mar 17
I often wonder if I had a lot of money and was alone if I would do that. Perhaps I would. Men do it all the time so why not?
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
30 Mar 17
@Kandae11 We all would but it is a choice between living alone(which some people can't do) I can, or living with someone who you essentially have power over, A give and take of sorts - you both get something out of the relationship. It happens even when you are in a relationship that is based on "love" that is why the divorce rate is so high.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
29 Mar 17
That is a sad state of affair. Though on of my friends has gone through it. The guy was very handsome - almost like a model. And she would buy things for him, pay for his travel here, etc... my impression of events was that she got tired of paying for his very expensive tastes and he got tired of being with her because he's not around anymore.
The only strange thing is that my friend, while in her early 50s - is still considered by many to be very attractive...
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@diosabella (4789)
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29 Mar 17
Its a sad truth but still there must be guys out there who would want to grow old with us, with wrinkles and all. 
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
29 Mar 17
If you mean paying for companionship as a woman paying the bills, I see no problem with that. As it today's society it works both ways for men and women. I am 10 years older than my fiance' of 5 years.
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
30 Mar 17
@Kandae11 If she was happy doing that, I don't see why not. I have no issue with the difference in age thing. As long as two people are consenting adults, I believe they should be able to what they want. To me it is normal. My stepmom is older than my dad. My grandfather married a woman younger than my father when I was a teenager. I am ten years older than my fiance'.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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30 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty Men do it all the time and I certainly have no problem with older women marrying younger men - as they say - 'What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" However , you seem to be missing the point I am trying to make , therefore lets just leave it at that.
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@suziecat7 (3350)
• Asheville, North Carolina
29 Mar 17
I think we have to accept our aging. Where we may lose our looks, we gain so much more.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
30 Mar 17
If I get an inkling that someone is using me not necessarily only in the area of partnership I will move away from them. I am made to be loved and appreciated for what I am and not what I have.
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
29 Mar 17
as you know I was never in this situation.I met my man and forty five years later.So we are doing something right.
For the others.They are never ever satisfy with their lives.This is a pattern for them.Why most of them lose the love of their life or maybe this selfish?not us.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
30 Mar 17
that is sad. i would just remember the times i was in love, but now, i think my love goes to my son.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
29 Mar 17
Stick with people your own age, Because the men are the same way, they run after young women and cannot keep up with them.
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@aktivnyj100 (86)
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31 Mar 17
It all depends on the woman herself, what kind of lifestyle she leads, so will she look. There are women in their 45 years look better than young girls in 20 years.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Apr 17
Aging process is inevitable and no one could defy it, be it a man or woman. In old age everyone desires a companion and an old man/woman knows that no one has time to give company to him/her. In this scenario if one has the capacity to pay for companionship, s/he should go for it.
PS - I have not seen the movie.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Apr 17
@Kandae11 You see everyone can't be like you, who has the courage to stay all alone. Many feel need of a companion and if they are in a position to pay or compensate to the other person, they don't mind paying or compensating.
Imagine you have plenty of wealth and money and you are alone when you are older and someone offers to give company to you on consideration, would you go for it or not?
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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13 Apr 17
@dpk262006 I won't feel safe or comfortable, I'll keep watching my back wondering if he will kill me first chance he gets.
After all - he isn't with me for love - but for the money he can get. .As long as I am healthy I can find many ways to occupy my time. - and I can always get a cat - or a dog - they love unconditionally.
After all - he isn't with me for love - but for the money he can get. .As long as I am healthy I can find many ways to occupy my time. - and I can always get a cat - or a dog - they love unconditionally.
@Tampa_girl7 (48890)
• United States
29 Mar 17
I will be content with my memories and fortunately they are all with my husband
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
27 Apr 17
I've never paid for companionship, Kandase, but it wouldn't upset me if I did. The only way paying someone for companionship would/should bother anyone is if the other person made it obvious they are only there because they are being paid.
Yes, I know I am on this thread long after everyone else has been and gone. I do that for a reason. Many times what I think and believe about things don't match up with what the majority on myLot think and believe.
I actually wrote quite a bit more, but I deleted it, and then deleted again what I said. It is no matter.
I will stand by what I wrote in the first paragraph.
