I Would Have Asked You to Leave

@Corbin5 (103085)
United States
April 1, 2017 3:34pm CST
My dad will be age 96 in June. His doctor alerted my sister and me that it was time to provide hospice care for our dad. We had Adventist St. Thomas Hospice provide care for our mother, and now Dad. The care provided is superb. My dad studied voice in New York, had a role in the opera Carmen , gave many solo performances, and also had his own radio show. The music-therapy lady called me the other day, and she said she spent time with Dad. She played guitar and sang some of Dad's favorite songs. At the end of the lady's playing and singing for my dad, she asked Dad if he would like for her to come back next week to play and sing for him again. Dad told the very nice lady, "Yes, I would like for you to come back. You have a very nice voice. If you did not, I would have asked you to leave." Guess this lady will make return visits. Bless her heart! Photo: Dad performing a solo.
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@shaggin (36666)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Lol well she was probably flattered rather then offended. I am so sorry he is on hospice though!
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Yes, Dad's nephrologist determined it was time for hospice, but the care Dad is receiving is wonderful. Saw him today and he was so calm and very happy.
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@shaggin (36666)
• United States
1 Apr 17
@Corbin5 aww that is wonderful!
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@amadeo (64027)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Maybe this is a good idea.They may have surmise something there. That woman there will keep his spirit up for him.How nice to do something like this.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Yes, I know Dad will enjoy her visits. He is getting great care and so much wonderful attention. Saw him today, and he is very calm and happy.
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@amadeo (64027)
• United States
1 Apr 17
@Corbin5 Good and he is living at ripe age there.They will know when it is time to go
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
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@TRBRocks420 (75555)
• Banks, Oregon
1 Apr 17
That was nice of her and, glad he enjoyed the singing.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Yes, he really did and she will visit him once a week. Perfect for a guy who loves music.
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@rebelann (39680)
• El Paso, Texas
1 Apr 17
Your dad is so lucky he is in such a wonderful facility. Are you doing ok?
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Thank you for asking, my friend. I am fine. My sister is having a hard time, but glad we both live just a mile apart. It helps have two people sharing the care of Dad.
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@rebelann (39680)
• El Paso, Texas
2 Apr 17
Yes it is a little easier but it's still hard @Corbin5 I'm praying for ya.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@rebelann Thank you for the prayers.
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@Hatley (164671)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Apr 17
What a nice lady and she m ust have made a great' hit with your dad.lol I feel young as Im 90 to his 96 lol
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Dad really does look pretty good for 96. My dad has a tendency to rally from whatever ails him, so I think he will be around for quite a while. He is so well cared for now.
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@GardenGerty (98148)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@Corbin5 When I was last working in long term care, a hospice worker explained to me that the focus these days is to provide just that extra bit of care and attention. Sometimes it is the end of life, and sometimes it is just the kind of care to help them rally and improve as you are anticipating.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@GardenGerty Yes, he has rallied before, many times. Beat bladder cancer at age 88, able to land his fighter plane despite being hit by enemy fire, broke 3 ribs and his clavicle from a fall and drove to my house for help, and beat a form of the SARs virus at age 94.
@louievill (18398)
• Philippines
1 Apr 17
Good things like talents and appreciation of beauty stay with us for a long time.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Yes, Dad has always loved music. So glad this lady will visit every week.
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@much2say (38813)
• United States
1 Apr 17
And thank goodness for her sake she had a nice voice ! I remember you mentioned your dad had a great singing voice - I hope he enjoys his music therapy!
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
He really does. Saw him today and he is so well-cared for and happy. Pretty sharp today too. Sis and I are fortunate that both our homes are just a few minutes from the nursing home. We check in on Dad all the time.
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@much2say (38813)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@Corbin5 That's great he is in good hands and that he's happy there - even better that you are local to be able to visit him often. Music seems to have been a big part of his life . . . I'm sure it must lift his spirits up even more to have this music time!
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@much2say Oh yes, music is his life. Those visits will do him so much good.
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@just4him (113259)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Apr 17
I'm sorry to hear your dad is going to be receiving hospice. I'm glad he liked the lady's voice. Very nice picture of your dad. He had a wonderful life.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
He really did have a great life. Sis and I kept him living independently until age 94.
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@Marty1 (32512)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
2 Apr 17
@corbin5 I am so sorry about your father being in hospice Know that I am praying for him and your whole family.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
Thank you for your prayers, my friend. Dad is getting wonderful care, and he was happy yesterday.
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@Marty1 (32512)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
2 Apr 17
@Corbin5 I am so glad he is happy.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
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@jstory07 (66085)
• Roseburg, Oregon
2 Apr 17
She must be very good or your Dad would have asked her to leave. I hope your Dad will do good for a long time.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@computerguy1980 Thank you for your prayers, my friend.
@allknowing (63399)
• India
1 Apr 17
Your dad is blessed to have a daughter like you.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
Thank you my friend. My sister's home and my home are just a few blocks from the nursing home, and we can check on Dad all the time. Dad loves "his girls." We adore our dad.
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@sueznewz2 (9875)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Apr 17
I think music therapy is very beneficial in lots of ways ...i'm pleased your dad enjoyed it... and is happy yo have her come back..lol
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
Yes, Dad will really benefit from music therapy. My brother, as a toddler, would follow Dad around when Dad was practicing at home. My brother would be singing songs from the opera Pagliacci during the day.
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@MandaLee (3695)
• United States
1 Apr 17
His response to her was so cute. Having a family member in hospice can be hard. Prayers.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Thank you for your prayers. We did go through it with Mom, and now Dad. Dad is looking really good and well-cared for. He seemed quite happy today.
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@Gillygirl (17277)
• Sutton, England
2 Apr 17
Sorry I must have missed this. A lovely photo of your dad again. I bet the lady will return. These therapists are wonderful.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
Hospice calls me and tells me what they are doing for Dad on a regular basis. To look at Dad, one would not think he is not doing well, and that is a good thing. He is calm and happy too. Thank you for your kind words, my friend.
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@Gillygirl (17277)
• Sutton, England
2 Apr 17
@Corbin5 You are welcome. I'm glad positive care is still taking place at the hospice. Big hugs to you.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
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@JudyEv (121299)
• Bunbury, Australia
2 Apr 17
Isn't that a great story? Your Dad has become very uninhibited again as do many with dementia.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
Yes, Dad has lost that filter. Oh well, he is happy.
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@JudyEv (121299)
• Bunbury, Australia
2 Apr 17
@Corbin5 And those that are working with him would understand his behaviour. It's a lovely photo.
@snowy22315 (45559)
• United States
3 Apr 17
@Corbin5 That's all you can hope for at this point!
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@Shavkat (60085)
• Philippines
2 Apr 17
I hope your father will still live longer. I like the snapshot. I am sure you love how he sings.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
Yes, Dad has a beautiful voice, and with excellent care, I do think Dad will be with us for quite a while.
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@Shavkat (60085)
• Philippines
2 Apr 17
@Corbin5 I feel sad about that. The feeling flashes back when I lost my father three years ago. I will pray for your father. I hope he will be fine.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@Shavkat Oh yes, I am sure reading this post brought back those memories that make you sad. Thank you for your prayers, my friend.
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@andriaperry (48659)
• United States
2 Apr 17
I love your dad already!
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
He really is a hoot!!
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@andriaperry (48659)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@Corbin5 Sounds like my dad.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
@Lubuto (2261)
• Zambia
1 Apr 17
It's hard having someone in hospice, my prayers go out to him.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Thank you so much for your prayers. So kind of you. He is doing really well and receives such good care. He was happy today.
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@Lubuto (2261)
• Zambia
1 Apr 17
@Corbin5 Happy to hear that .
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
1 Apr 17
@LeaPea2417 (19846)
• Toccoa, Georgia
2 Apr 17
That saddens me your Dad is in hospice. He is 95, wow, he has lived a nice long life, it is still sad though.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
Yes, it is sad, but we did keep Dad independent until age 94. He seems happy and my sister's home and my home are only a few minutes from the nursing home, so we check on Dad all the time.
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@LeaPea2417 (19846)
• Toccoa, Georgia
3 Apr 17
@Corbin5 That is good that the nursing home is near both your homes.
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• India
2 Apr 17
Your dad has been an achiever I must say. The lady must be happy to be approved by your dad.
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@Corbin5 (103085)
• United States
2 Apr 17
She thought Dad was "charming." I was able to tell her all he did with his career in music.
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• India
3 Apr 17
@Corbin5 thats the reason why she chose to come back. She must be really taken by the life your dad has lived.
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