Youngsters and depression

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@allknowing (60323)
India
April 5, 2017 6:17am CST
More and more youngsters today are victims of depression and it is not difficult to guess what causes it. With just one or two children in a household the tendency is to mollycoddle them giving into their every whim and fancy. When the time comes to face the cruel world they find it difficult and hence become victims of depression resorting to short cuts namely drugs. You as a parent or guardian do you think children should be brought up keeping in mind what they have to face when they are on their own?
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@marguicha (88195)
• Chile
5 Apr 17
I am of the old school so I believe that children have rights and duties since they are small. Then there is not a big gap between the time they are younger and the time of what you call facing the cruel world.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
5 Apr 17
But that is not how today's parents handle their children. They have money and all that money is poured on those one or two children and thus produce children who have never seen hard days.
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@marguicha (88195)
• Chile
5 Apr 17
@allknowing I would not blame it all on parents. Nowadays, parents cannot do anything to their children to teach them to behave without having a social worker go and check how the poor kids are being tortured.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
@marguicha It stems from there and yes there are instances where parents do the opposite.
@dodo19 (31324)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
5 Apr 17
As parents, we definitely try to raise them as best as we can, not to pamper them, but prepare them as best as we can for the real world.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
5 Apr 17
It is not easy not to pamper specially children when one is financially sound.
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@dodo19 (31324)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
5 Apr 17
@allknowing That's true. But pampering them sometimes is one thing, but so long as we're not doing it too much.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
5 Apr 17
@dodo19 Parents can see the behaviour in their children as to the effect pampering has on them
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@TheHorse (60625)
• Pleasant Hill, California
5 Apr 17
I work with a lot of kids who experience depression and anxiety. It seems to me that unpredictable and uncontrollable environments play a major role.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
To face that unpredictable and uncontrollable environment to my mind could be handled better by kids if they are brought up to face it.
@ShifaLk (7371)
• India
5 Apr 17
I was a very stubborn child too but my parents set my mind when i grew up Though still I'm not very much changed lol
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
Parents played a role in your life and perhaps had to be strict to get you out of your stubbornness
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@ShifaLk (7371)
• India
6 Apr 17
@allknowing yeah, 1st they made me sit on their heads but then they put me down... Hehe... But still they do anything for me, but the fact is that I'm changed now because I'm grown up. Matured up :))
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
@ShifaLk Whatever be it upbringing does have an effect on a child.
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@Daljinder (20928)
• India
5 Apr 17
Social atmosphere plays a huge role. The types of relationships around them play a huge role. It is not now that children/ youngsters suffer from depression. It is only now that we are starting to admit it. Still on a large scale, psychological/ mental health are considered nothing but a hoax.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
Social atmosphere stems from what goes on in homes. In the good old days we knew what was going in other people's lives by keeping in touch with each other as that was the only source of interaction and that helped a lot. Today it is isolation.
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@Daljinder (20928)
• India
6 Apr 17
@allknowing Today even family atmosphere is not safe.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
@Daljinder I agree with you.
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• Peoria, Arizona
5 Apr 17
It think it is better to guide them along. No one should be alone. I have terrible anxiety, I get depress easy but even as an adult my mom still helps me because she also has terrible anxiety. It is better to understand what makes people fear so much and guide them. No one should be thrown in, face first, into this world anymore. It is so unpredictable, and people need all the help they can get.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
There are exceptions in that it could be a disease as is evident it runs in your family. And that needs a different type of handling.
• Peoria, Arizona
10 Apr 17
@allknowing Not really. Everyone is different. Some need guidance and it is better to give guidance. Some will say they do not want help but will always need support.
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@Nawsheen (22913)
• Mauritius
5 Apr 17
I think that parents should discipline their kids even if this means to be quite tough with them at times. I personally know children who have grown up and gone astray as they were overspoilt and find it difficult to distinguish between right and wrong
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
Since there are just two or sometimes one kid in a family and plenty of money parents tend to pour it on their kids not realising the harm they do.
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@Nawsheen (22913)
• Mauritius
10 Apr 17
@allknowing oh yes. Thats true. So sad. Everything is evolving but our society is dying
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@ridingbet (43818)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
young as they are, kids should be able to accept defeat so their depression will be addressed with their parents' supervision, assistance, and unconditional love.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
Well said
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• Trinidad And Tobago
6 Apr 17
Old school here. For me children has to be given chore with the responsibilities that go with it. Life is tough later on.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
And with chores come incentives - my mother was an expert at it (lol)
@kumbarn14 (683)
• Pakistan
5 Apr 17
Mothers loved their kids and the best is given to them but while grooming babies from the time they can understand it is good to mention of God whatever faith, so that as little ones they will love his name and the beautiful things he will bless if you become good kids. Similarly, how sorry he feels if you do wrong and bad things. This carries a great weight in the conscious of the kids when they grow up. Always they feel happy when they do something good and if they do something bad, oh God is going to punish us. This thought alone will save and protect them by God. It is difficult to protect them unless of course there conscious help them. Have a nice day
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
Bringing God in their life is a true way parents could groom their children.
@Kandae11 (33567)
5 Apr 17
I think parents should talk to their children about the dangers of the outside world -- and of course - protect them as much as possible.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
You are right about that. Children should be groomed to face the world.
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@Trensue (5248)
• United States
5 Apr 17
It's a tricky job, parenting. I think they learn coping skills quickly if parents set down the phones and such and interact with the child from the very beginning. They learn by playing - plain and simple.
@allknowing (60323)
• India
5 Apr 17
It indeed is a tricky job these days. Parents have a tough job specially those who have money to pour on their children.
@Shavkat (54261)
• Philippines
5 Apr 17
I think my parents did a good job in training us to be independent. That includes being strong enough to face challenges.
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@Courtlynn (65133)
• United States
5 Apr 17
Yes i do believe it. And my mom raised my brother and i that way. But i still have depression. Nothing to do with how i was raised. Has to do with events in my life. I also dont think people get "depressed" because they realize how life really is after a leaving the teen years. Very sad and mad maybe. But depressed is a strong thing.. its different
@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
This is my thinking and that is if children are prepared to face the world they can handle whatever adversities that visit them in their later life.
@Courtlynn (65133)
• United States
6 Apr 17
@allknowing but thats not true. As we have no choice but to grow up and be an adult and have responsibility. Doesnt mean we can handle everything that comes at us. Lol. But agree to disagree.
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@allknowing (60323)
• India
6 Apr 17
@Courtlynn At the end of the day our convictions are based on what we see around and so you and I are seeing things different. Yes. Agree to disagree
• Banks, Oregon
6 Apr 17
Oh it is so sad to see kids suffering but there are so many ways to help, you are never too young for counseling I had counseling in kindergarten and I am so thankful for it