Am I really cut out for this motherhood thing?

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Every mom has her good and bad days with her child. I feel like I am drowning in the bad days or bad moments. I love my son and am glad to have him. He can be a sweet and cute little boy when he wants to be. About 80% of the time though is him not minding me or his dad and then us getting impatient and mad with him because of this huge language barrier we have, and the fact that he hears us and is testing us constantly. He seems to act pretty good with his grandparents or the babysitters, but with us, nope. Loves to drive us crazy. I hate that feeling. I hate feeling like I am a failure as a parent because I feel I have no patience for my almost 3 year old. I see all these other parents who have seemingly perfect kids and have it together out in public whereas with my child we can barely even go out to eat with him anymore because he acts so bad. I can't even discipline him out of fear it'll look like I am hurting him and get CPS on my case. I would never ever hurt my child aside from a few spankings on the butt and even then I feel guilty afterwards. I feel so alone in this. My husband is there for me and we both feel we are trying so hard and we are at the breaking point of what to do to get a 3 year old to mind us. Forget time outs. They don't work. Everyone says it is just a phase. I just hope it gets better once his talking improves. Being a mother is one of my most challenging experiences. There is a reason he is an only child. I feel like I will mess up with a 2nd child added to my havoc of a life. I do hope I can get out of this funk and see all the joys that most women would love to experience if given the chance to have a kid.