April 16, 2017 12:32am CST
Have you ever been in a bad relationship but never realized how bad until something wakes you up? I was in a relationship for 3 years with someone I loved and cared about so much. He was mentally abusive, I can't really say physically because he only hit me once or twice. I did everything for him, and with him. He broke into my house once and trashed my room, and kicked my car window out. Even then I justified it as, "he just needs help and someone to care for him, he says he loves me i believe him. you just don't understand" After 3 years we had broken up, I started seeing someone a couple months later to distract me i guess. He was a pathological liar ha (I really know how to pick 'em) I left him after a couple months, and started talking to the guy i was with for 3 years, we got back together. Not to long after something finally woke me up, i was pregnant. I realized I cant have my baby around someone who has horrible anger issues that can't be control. I'm so thankful i've got my baby, i don't know where i'd be if i didn't have her. I still think back and miss the good times we did have, but not enough to keep all the bad. I mad this post for anyone who has been in or is in a situation like this, just know, You deserve better. He or She shouldn't treat you like you're nothing. If you have to justify his/her actions think to yourself, is this something you would want your daughter/son, or sister/brother to endure?
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• Gainesville, Florida
I'm glad you saw the light finally and was able to get out of a bad situation. The hardest thing for many women is that by the time the wake-up call comes, they are so deep in the relationship that they often feel they have no other options but to stay with the abusive man. Whether it's because children are involved, they don't have a job, or they lack education, many women feel stuck. They reason that it is better to stay in an abusive relationship than it is to leave and possibly end up broke or homeless and out on the streets. But there are so many organizations out there that are willing to help. I hope you are doing well now, and that you were able to bounce back from that bad relationship.
Yes, i have a friend who was in the same situation recently. He was the only friend she had (she just moved to another state and doesn't know anyone besides him. He's helped her through all her medical problems so she thinks she owe him. I feel bad because i dont know how to help her. But for me i havent seen or talk to him in a little over a year. he messaged me when my daughter was born but i acted like it was the wrong number and havent seen him since. I feel like a huge weight is lifted off my shoulders !
I have been there and once the light comes on and you wake up you know you have to get out but until then you make excuses and justify their behaviour no matter how crazy it is. People who have not been in those situations can never truly understand it. People can tell you to leave and that you deserve better but you have to get to the point where you see it yourself before you finally get out of it.