Have you ever felt?
April 17, 2017 1:22am CST
Have you ever felt like you are not going anywhere in your life? Like you are not sure what you want in life. You want to move forward but then you don't know where to begin. You are not sure if you are just in a slump or maybe you think you are depressed but not really. You are confused but don't know where to find the answers and then you see your friends and you think that they have their life all figured out. They are getting married. Having babies and making a family of their own and then I think do I also want that? And then I don't have the answer to that question. Sure, everything looks picture perfect but then the responsibilities tied to making your own family is very big and i am not sure if I am actually ready for that but then they say that I should start thinking about those things because of my age and that I am not getting any younger and I am not sure what to do with these feelings and thoughts. Heck, I don't even know what to do with my own life. What am i going to do with the life of a baby once I start to make my own family? HAHAHAHAHA Do you also have thoughts like this?
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17 Apr 17
I guess all of people who have the same fate of being weak, lazy and has manpower to overcome their failures in life, and people who always failed and can get even half of what they want are having the same thought that you have in here.... And I am guilty as well. I am afraid to getarried though no one ask me to be their girl but who cares still I am afraid. Afraid not to be a good wife and mom soon... Afraid not able to protect them and care for them so they will grow up filled with love As long as I can't put myself togetjer I don't think I deserved to be loved and I don't think I can be a suitable helper to anyone nor be a good mom.... Yes I do always have this kind of thoughts and until now I still do... And thinking of giving up to have family of my own. But still God will always have it's final say.
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 17
I think these are natural feelings but I also sometimes think that we can spend so long worrying about doing something or trying to do something the 'right' way that we forget to live and enjoy our lives now. Maybe you could write down some of your goals or wishes, put them in order of when you want to achieve them and then set goals for achieving these things. Be honest about what you want out of life though as otherwise you won't feel motivated to achieve anything. Also, keep in mind that your desires are fluid so you can change your goals or add new ones as you go along.
17 Apr 17
Don't stress yourself. I've been and still in that position and I think if your not ready, then don't be. Those people don't know what their talking about. I too don't know what to do with myself so your not alone in that dilemma. Alot of friends were telling me that when I'm in that position I'l know what to do. But for me its a big responsibility. I can't take care of myself yet so how much more another human being. My parents never asked their parents for help and I want that for myself too. I want to be responsible with my family and not a big weight to my folks.
• Nanjing, China
17 Apr 17
I sometimes have thoughts like this, and I feel that people my age (around 20 and up) feel the same way. I've read somewhere that this is the part in our life where we decided who we want to be, and what do we want to be. I also feel sometimes that my friends and many other people my age are doing so much more, achieving so much more than I currently do. Then again, the grass is always greener on the other side. I try to take the positive side of this feeling and make it a motivation for me to do more, to be more productive each and every day.
17 Apr 17
I had. Once in my youth. I felt like I had no direction. I grew up with everything was already laid right in front of me. I need not work so I could eat, I need not get employed so I could have money. I felt useless at that time. Then I decided to work, and my family got even offended they asked how much I was getting paid from that. But nobody could pay me for the experience that my job then was giving me. But of course it didn't last long. After awhile, I realized that I don't need to get employed to be productive. So I decided to be the boss of my own company and not my family instead. Someday, you will find your own direction. It takes awhile sometimes, but you will get there.