How do you mourn for the death of your love one in your country?

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My father passed away yesterday early in the morning at 4.30 April 20. He died at home surrounded by us children and his grand children. This is my first time experiencing at hand in a death in my family where I am here in the Philippines. I didn’t know much about funeral tradition in our country though I heard them before. I am the eldest but my siblings had instructed me what NOT to do while our fathers body is still at home. There is a 9 night prayers at home in front of the casket and relatives and friends come to mourn with us and we have to vigil all night long before the dead will be buried. I had to sleep while the others who can still vigil tried to stay awake by playing cards and talking about everything. I have not sleep for about 24 hours time while being in my fathers deathbed. I have just woke up from 4 hours sleep and tried to catch up with the condolences being sent through fb. Calls from my siblings and nieces from Europe was answered late but they understood. They were still able to talk to my father through videochat before he died. They were glad that I am still here to organise the funeral and other things for my father. As an elder child, I have a lot of responsibility and my siblings always asked me before everything was carried away. Without their help, I would be lost. I was so surprised that my small nieces were very practical about death. They even touched the face of my father if he was really gone and were there with us in my fathers bedroom. The casket is open and they keep on seeing how my father look. I wonder how they cope but it seems it is a natural thing for them seeing death and they are stronger than me. Sorry for this long discussion. You know now why I have been away for a few days and for the coming days. I hope you are all okay. Until then. How do you mourn in your country? You can share with me your experiences.