Careful how you talk and act around your kids....
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
United States
April 22, 2017 7:20am CST
....they are paying attention.
I know a woman from Facebook, met her once in person. She is crude in how she talks and some of the words that come out of her mouth would scare a truck driver - oh and her husband is a truck driver.
If someone, like a neighbor, says something she doesn't like right away she is going to punch their lights out, put them in the hospital, or get them arrested. Seems to me she is the one who will wind up arrested some day.
She has two boys about 8 and 11 and they are both always in trouble. The latest was the older boy was being teased by another boy - so he punched the kid in the face and got suspended for a week. The same day the younger boy would not stay in his seat on the bus and after several warnings now he cannot take the bus the rest of the year.
The mom's reaction to both issues - it's the school's fault. Blame everyone else that's the way to go right?! She's gonna go down there and tell them what she thinks...I can't use the words she used but they were colorful!
She talks and acts like a tough lady in front of those kids and now (the last few years) they are acting just like her. The father is out on the road all week so he isn't much help. In the 4 years I've 'known her' she has lived in 4 different homes. They move a lot since the neighbors are always picking on her and her kids.
She is raising them to be just like her and in this case that is not a good thing. She needs to change, those kids need her to be a better example or they are going to windup in jail for sure.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
@LadyDuck The mom uses "I am not well' as an excuse all the time. She has had more 'heart attacks' in the last two years than I can count..yes, she's faking it but i am not sure why.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
We met her oldest son who was our server at a local restaurant, that's how I met her on Facebook. Then we had a stray cat here and she agreed to take it so we met at her house which wasn't far from us. I stay out of her conversations and just sit back and wait for the fireworks. She is no spring chicken and not in good health and the little girl is starting to be 'sick' all the time - like mother like daughter.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
22 Apr 17
I know a few people like that and it is sad. Children learn by example and these parents aren't setting very good ones. She may have been raised the same way.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
I am 100 percent sure she was raised the same way. Her father isn't in the picture and her mom talks like a - well, vulgar too.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
@Happy2BeMe Yes they will and it will go on forever like that.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
22 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill sad..well that's where it comes from then and her kids will be the same way with their kids.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
I hate to use the expression, but they are white trash. And don't say anything or they all blow up at each other on Facebook! Her and her family are all off the wall.
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@dodo19 (47050)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill Very true. It's kind of what they are. It's sad that there are people like that out there.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
@dodo19 I would never say stuff that she does no matter how bad the situation is.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
22 Apr 17
While its true kids are listening and watching everything and everyone.. it doesnt necessarily mean that they will copy or be worse. I know plenty of kids who were verbally abused and around bad parents but turned out to be smart, good kids. Because they didnt want to be like their parents. Or like their uncles and aunts.
But it does happen. And its sad.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
I understand what you are saying but I've been following this group for 4 years and the whole family is like this, several generations. They all live from hand to mouth, they don't own anything. The few things they do buy they wind up selling for grocery money. If these kids are to grow up 'normal' some adult is going to need to step up to the plate and not a relative of theirs.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
@Courtlynn Time will tell, but I don't see it ending well.
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
22 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill not necessarily. They can just change on their own. Its up to them to want better for themselves. But i understand why you ould think that.
@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
22 Apr 17
That's a shame. Kids are like little sponges the absorb everything including behaviors. Adults have to set an example as to how they want their children to act and behave. This women has set an example for these poor children to be very disrespectful. She will regret it one day.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
@melissa1024 I would think the neighbors would have called. Where they live now no neighbors close by.
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@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
22 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill You know this situation sounds extremely bad. Looks like child protective services should be called in to investigate this situation and get these kids in a good respectable home. This mother should not be allowed to go on like this with these kids.
@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
22 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill Yes, you would think they would have. You know, I got to thinking, those boys are bound to go to school and act like that also. Looks like they'd have took action.
@pumpkinjam (8540)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 17
People don't seem to see what they're doing as parents. I've seen quite a few parents who have asked what they can do about their kids acting up but it never occurs to them that they are the reason their child is acting up. "Why is my child swearing all the time? Oh, I don't know... how about because you're constantly swearing at them? Why is my child doing 'insert unwelcome behaviour here'? Perhaps because they've seen you do it!"
I don't know what's worse, though, recognising the behaviour but not realising it's the fault of the parents or denying that it's wrong or denying it's happening.
One thing that really annoys me with it is that when you have a genuine case of the school being in the wrong, those genuine people are looked down upon and put in the same category as Mrs. MyKidCan'tDoWrong
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Apr 17
Oh goodness, those poor kids are going to have trouble the rest of their lives sadly. =( Hopefully one day she will change her ways...and hopefully before it's too late for her children. Your absolutely right, our children learn by our example.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
This is her second marriage and had adult kids from the first - so she's old and I doubt she will change much. There is still hope for the little girl who is just in first grade.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
22 Apr 17
We need to be sorry for kids growing up in that kind of environment, if they behave badly it is because their parents have not loved them enough to put them first and have not been a good example for them to follow.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
Very true, while she does say oh I love my kids, actions (or lack of them) speak louder.
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
22 Apr 17
Oh yeah, it's obvious the kids are already acting like Momma @AbbyGreenhill . I definitely see the Juvenile Court system in both their near futures.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
Some of the stuff they pull I wonder whey the parents haven't spent time in jail.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
22 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill I know. Excuses will only last so long.
@franxav (13603)
• India
22 Apr 17
As a foster father to many children I have to be extra careful how I talk and how I act.
@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
22 Apr 17
I know what you are talking about. Our neighbors are just like that. We stay away from them but when we first moved here they caused my sons a lot of problems. Their sons would fight with each other and then blame my sons. Even when other adults saw my sons were not fighting with his kids my kids got blamed by him. Oh it was such a bad time. Now both their sons have kids they can't afford to take care of, my sons are productive members of society. They did some years back plant bushes on the property line and they have since grown tall so that their house is blocked from my sight which I love. Of course no more blaming my kids for fighting with their kids as they are all grown up. But it was a rough time for us. The dad drinks and now of course the sons drink and don't take care of their kids. The state does. It's just shameful this woman you know is acting this way and now her kids are. Not the way I would choose to live. And yes they will probably wind up in jail.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
I am in no position other than to answer any questions she asks about various things. I know that in some ways she readlly tries, but there are no rules and since they have noting they can't even take away their 'stuff' as punishment. No computer (the mom uses cell phone for everything, including TV) no TV, no electronics at all. Kids can live w/o those things yes...but I think a lot of their fighting has to do with the fact they have nothing and kids make fun of them. And - to top it off - they are all very overweight, including the mom. They eat fried anything and lots of sweets and junk food. They are more the norm than the exception this is a very very poor area.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
23 Apr 17
@AbbyGreenhill Yes seeing other kids with stuff when they have nothing can make a kid angry, mom too. How sad.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
22 Apr 17
Yes and these kids didn't have a chance.
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