Other Things Just Get in the Way

Smooch letting nothing get in the way.
By Val
@valmnz (12759)
New Zealand
April 22, 2017 4:24pm CST
I don't mean things just getting in the way of being on myLot, though that is often a challenge too. No, what I mean is life in general getting in the way of writing. I have a wonderful week ahead of me, with three scheduled writing commitments. I feel as if I'm in heaven. On Wednesday I meet with my writing buddy. We do this about once once a month to share progress on our writing projects and give each other support and constructive feedback. On Thursday I meet with others in the memoir group I belong to, again another monthly meeting. And on Saturday I hope to be going to my writing marathon group, though other things are interfering with that at the moment. Then of course there's myLot and a couple of blogs I contribute to. So how can any reasonable person expect me to do housework, weed the garden, cook meals and do all the other daily and weekly tasks we all seem to attract into our lives? Those other things can tend to get in the way of writing at times, but fortunately I have a wonderful husband.
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@PatZAnthony (12616)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
22 Apr 17
There are so many things that must be done, then so many more things we want to do and just not enough hours ever to get to all of it!
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
As I get older I'm more inclined to do what I want to do rather than what I should do!
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@PatZAnthony (12616)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
22 Apr 17
@valmnz Yeah, let's leave dust bunnies behind for others to gossip about! Life is too short not to do what we want to do.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
@PatZAnthony no one else gets to see the dust bunnies anyway!
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Apr 17
Sounds like you need an assistant.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
Sounds like I need to stop enjoying life so much! my husband does things when I can't or choose not to, he is wonderful.
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Apr 17
@valmnz .....Sounds like a good coupling.
@Tampa_girl7 (25677)
• United States
22 Apr 17
You are blessed to have your husband
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
I truly am
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@Tampa_girl7 (25677)
• United States
22 Apr 17
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• Midland, Michigan
23 Apr 17
So, does your wonderful husband help you with the tasks other than writing, or does he just not give you a hard time if you don't get them done? My husband is the latter type of wonderful husband. It would be nice if he'd help a bit more than he is at present, but... He used to do a bit more but his leg has been bothering him with blisters and a couple of sores all in the same general area. My sisters ex on the other hand would give her grief if she left a couple of dirty dishes in the sink all day long. He was quite controlling in more ways than one. I hope you're able to get to all your writing engagements.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
My wonderful husband puts up with me and helps me when he can. Unfortunately he can't do as many of the things as he used to do, but he tries. He is also patient when I ask him to read and comment on a piece of writing.
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• Midland, Michigan
23 Apr 17
@valmnz I'm supposed to be reading through my husband's book while I'm off, but I only have one more month of freedom before heading back to cashiering, and I've not looked at it yet. Just remembered that when you talked about him listening to what you've written.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
@MarshaMusselman At least I gave my husband mine in installments! I don't think he's actually read the whole thing since it was published.
@Susan2015 (20580)
• United States
22 Apr 17
It's good that he helps out. I work full time and my husband will do the laundry and some of the shopping too.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
And at times we both say what the heck and pretend we can't see it.
@JohnRoberts (56746)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Apr 17
Living real life is always more important than being online. Is that your kitty?
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
yes it is, that is Smooch, the ruler of our house!
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@jstory07 (66957)
• Roseburg, Oregon
22 Apr 17
Yes you can have your husband do all the houework.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
he would if he could, he's not able to any more, but he used to.
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• United States
22 Apr 17
It is good to have someone to share the tasks with Val. I say good for you. Your life is vibrant and full of life.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
and sometimes I need to learn to slow down!!
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• United States
22 Apr 17
@valmnz You will go at the pace you are best at Val. I used to hate being told to slow down it was impossible for me, now I relish it haha
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
22 Apr 17
@TiarasOceanView yes, I find slowing down quite difficult too, but when I do nothing will move me.
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@jaboUK (53920)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 17
You sound really busy Val, how dare things get in the way of your writing . It happens to us all I suppose
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
It's just turned out that the busyness of my writing life is what I now love most. I never planned it this way. However, I'm living true to my belief that in retirement we should choose to do the things we enjoy most.
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@jaboUK (53920)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 17
@valmnz I agree 100%
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
@jaboUK and I'm about to correct my spelling error above :-)
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@TheHorse (65695)
• Pleasant Hill, California
23 Apr 17
Are people really receptive to criticism? Have you heard any of my songs? I say I want constructive criticism, but sometimes I fear I really want praise.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
I said constructive feedback, not criticism. My writing buddy and I have areas of expertise each of the other lacks. We both tend to point out where something could possibly be improved, or different if we were the writer.
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@TheHorse (65695)
• Pleasant Hill, California
23 Apr 17
@valmnz For me, the issue is plot. I love writing, but I'm not convinced my plots are all that great. Here's a song I wrote. Vanny and DJ (from MyLot) posted it.
A song about falling friendship........ Like and subscribe for more songs and videos :)
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
@TheHorse I shall listen to your song when I return later. I don't write fiction, I write memoir mostly and explore social history.
@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
23 Apr 17
Too many things to do, too little time to do everything: I would love to have a robot to take care of all the tasks I hate, like mopping the floors, dusting, washing the dishes. Very nice photo of my friend Smooch.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
I always ask, why doesn't the dusting last longer than it does, it seems as soon as I've done the housework it needs doing again.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
24 Apr 17
@valmnz This is the reason why I hate dusting, after a few hours you should restart, it seems a nonsense job.
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@silvermist (20100)
• India
23 Apr 17
@valmnz Yes,you are lucky to have a wonderful husband.That is a good photo of Smooch enjoying himself-without a care in the world.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
Smooch's only cares are where to sleep, when to eat, and who will fuss over him today.
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@silvermist (20100)
• India
26 Apr 17
@valmnz Yes,most cats are like that.But he looks happy and satisfied,unlike some other cats.
@allen0187 (33125)
• Philippines
23 Apr 17
Such a supportive husband!
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
... an equal partnership.
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@allen0187 (33125)
• Philippines
23 Apr 17
@valmnz which should always be the case!
@EddieHands (37845)
• United States
23 Apr 17
Meow I am the cat! that is laying there in the grass... life is just wonderful Blessings !
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
Meow back from Smooch, he is definitely king of the castle here.
@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 17
Good on you it is good to keep yourself busy! I bet you are busier now than you were when you were at work!
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
As the saying goes Gary, when did I ever find time to go to work.
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• China
23 Apr 17
You always have a very busy schedule .It is nice of your husband to support your writing and willingly bears the burden of chores.
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
We put up with each other
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@allknowing (65032)
• India
23 Apr 17
If only one could survive on their passions - in your case writing and in mine photography, gardening, Preiti and reaching out
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
What more do we need in life. I agree, we all need such things to keep us inspired.
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@DianneN (77984)
• United States
23 Apr 17
Husbands are good for many things! Lol!
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@valmnz (12759)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 17
I'm with you on that one!
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@Hannihar (36068)
3 Jan
You are lucky you have a wonderful husband. Good luck with all you have to do in your life.
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@JudyEv (123170)
• Bunbury, Australia
28 Apr 17
Certainly it would be unreasonable to expect you to do all these other things! I'm lucky to have a live-in cook if not a live-in cleaner.