What makes someone special ?

April 24, 2017 2:13pm CST
So, one day, a best friend came to me with a difficult question. "Why do you like me?" he said. I definitely could write a long list of things that I like of him, but a why..? I remember thinking 'come on, do I really need a reason to like someone?' So, I told him the lamest answer I could think of 'I dunno, I just do' And now looking back at it, I still don't think I'd be able to give the right answer. I guess, If someday I find one why. Maybe that would be a time when we're not best friend anymore. So, what makes someone seems so special in our eyes...?
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Apr 17
they are alwats there for yoyu if you need them, they have helped you many ti mes,they show they like you there has to 'be things you an sat reallty
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24 Apr 17
yes, very true..those are the things on my list too.. sometimes, I confuse with my own point of view. certainly "because you..." is a whole different with "because I..."
24 Apr 17
sometimes "I just do " is the best explanation we can provide. mostly, we tend to connect to them on personal levels, and the chemistry gets only improved with more time together
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24 Apr 17
I'm glad that someone else is agree with me. xp
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24 Apr 17
@april_ang me too
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Apr 17
Sometimes its hard to put into words what you like about a person. I just like them and most of the time I would not know how to tell them why.
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27 Apr 17
and once again i'm glad that more people feel the same..
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• Pamplona, Spain
27 Apr 17
@april_ang Feel the same yes. Its hard to put into words really and I would not know how to compare its sort of like a sixth sense that you have about them. I can pick up various emotions in the voices of people. This morning I am hearing the voice of defeat in one voice in particular but I could not tell you how I know it its just there.
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27 Apr 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 what voice kind that you mean?
@Gunchie (73)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
25 Apr 17
Likes not necessarily love. If loving then surely like, willing to sacrifice, accept the shortcomings, regardless of circumstances, conditions, without expecting replies and likes an important without limit
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25 Apr 17
yes.. i think there is this special kind of bonds in friendship that word love could not even suffice.. well, since you're indonesian too.. i'd like to say that our language of 'sayang' is something whole different & more general yet compact than 'cinta'. for me at least..
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• Jakarta, Indonesia
25 Apr 17
@april_ang yes.. i'm indonesia. Unfortunately there is a session, the nature of the situation favored, when there is an easy problem to become dislike
25 Apr 17
@Gunchie thats the ups and downs of any relationship. only the strongest who could ride the waves.
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@JediYoda (1720)
• Samoa
30 Apr 17
One who is honest, thoughtful, light-hearted and easy to be with and gives you lots of smiles and laughter---these are the things that makes someone special to me.
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1 May 17
agree.. those are also the material of a good friend I supposed..
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@JediYoda (1720)
• Samoa
2 May 17
@april_ang Yo are right Bro.
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• Pamplona, Spain
27 Apr 17
@april_ang Chemistry that is the feeling. I have just come across the adjective "chemistry" they have that something. Its much the same when you come across someone for the first time and you don´t like them for some reason that you don´t even know yourself.
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27 Apr 17
Wooow... that's a good knowledge.. yeah, i think we all feel that way..
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• Pamplona, Spain
27 Apr 17
@april_ang Its good to have that kind of sense inside to protect us from others.
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27 Apr 17
If we are talking about liking someone at a first glance I wouldn`t know why, it just happens. But I do think a lot about people I meet so I usually know if someone is special. To me special people are kind, genuine, loyal and share at least some interests with me.
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28 Apr 17
agree.. we easily like someone with the same interest as us.. and yes, genuine is the first impressions that I always try to look from someone too, whether I knew him/her or no..
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27 Apr 17
Great question!It makes me into thinking the reason why I like my friends.Actually I like them bacause they share the same hobby with me and we gonna talk more always.Then I think it is because we have predestined relationship with each other. Sometimes we don't like someone any more because we don't appreciate each other any more.
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27 Apr 17
yes, thats my point. its okay to like someone for a reason or two or more, but once that said reason is gone, there would be question why should we stay friends..
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@Rekhanshi (399)
• New Delhi, India
25 Apr 17
Well, i think there is no such definition that says why people are special, may be with time and things they do make them special. Moreover, there is never a reason to love someone, since love itself is a reason.
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25 Apr 17
wow.. I like that last sentence..
• Tirgu Mures, Romania
24 Apr 17
I believe that goodness makes someone special..
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24 Apr 17
at some it does indeed..
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@MALUSE (40358)
• Germany
24 Apr 17
It's a bit easier with the opposite. Why don't I like X? I can tell you their flaws at once.
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24 Apr 17
he's definitely not a saint.. hahaha... we learn to loves our flaws.. but yeah, its easier to see the negative side of someone else.
@KristenH (24102)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
24 Apr 17
Good question. Someone who's caring and understanding. Someone who's supportive and there for you.
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24 Apr 17
it was also scary question. its like someone trying to figure out his/her existance on our benchmark. which is also means a trust issue.
@Basilo (621)
24 Apr 17
this looks a difficult question. really what makes me like someone? maybe i will look at some qualities that i appreciate, love, selflessness, such things then we can be friends
24 Apr 17
very agree..xp and unlike other kinds of relationship like loves or families. friendship is fully our conscious decision. from the first Hi to the last goodbye. each stage is a matter of choice whether to left or to stay.
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@Basilo (621)
24 Apr 17
@april_ang yees,it is our conscious decision of course
@HazySue (21408)
• United States
2 May 17
I think that sometimes you don't really now why you like someone. Sometimes it is just a chemistry thing. Sometimes it is the way they relate to you.
2 May 17
Yes, chemistry that ought to be one of the mistery involved in any relationship. I didn't think of that..
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@shivamani10 (11232)
• Hyderabad, India
24 Apr 17
It is a relative aspect. Always. Every person can not look special to everyone. If that is the case there will not be any marriages and love affairs. Some people look special in their teething and some will have a good smile, some a small scar on their cheek and some will have very dominating personality and will be more affirm in dealing with others. A small change in the hair style will change the appearance of a person. These are all external qualities. When you really attract a person through your internal personality that will make a permanent bond. It takes a time to identify that.
24 Apr 17
hey.. nice, that a way to put it.. thanks for the elaboration..
@Nawsheen (23076)
• Mauritius
13 May 17
How they behave towards us, if we have things in common and also if they people can be trusted.
@ShifaLk (7481)
• India
5 May 17
Yeah that's a very difficult question lol...maybe he wanted to know about him like what's good in him... or maybe somebody said something to him so he wanted to confirm from you that what do you think. ..
@Shwetasingh (1361)
4 May 17
It's just a like with no reasons. You find him compatible ,you like to share your thought with him and that's why may be, you like him. It's a kind of frequency match.
@nitsbubb (368)
• New Delhi, India
3 May 17
That is really a great question. Very difficult for me to answer. May be How Much can be fairly answered but Why sounds difficult.
2 May 17
I do not know really why I like the people in my circle. Maybe because I have no choice hahahaha.