Adding Another One to the Family

@AmbiePam (49887)
United States
April 25, 2017 3:00pm CST
A lot of the people on my friends list here might remember when I first talked about Amyra, the little girl my sister and BIL took in from foster care at 9 months. She just celebrated her "A" day, which is the yearly celebration they have of the day Amyra was officially adopted, with a cake and presents. It's basically like another birthday celebration. I love what she told my sister once. It was just a random day last year when she turned to my sister and said, "I'm so glad the adoption people let me keep you." Consider my heart touched. Anyway, last year (I think Thanksgiving) they started to foster another child. A little boy (in case anyone cares he's white while Amyra is black). He has fetal alcohol syndrome. Those of you who know what that is are probably thinking, uh-oh. His bio mom was an alcoholic, and once the dad saw that he was going to have health problems because of it, he also gave up his parental rights. His name is Hudson (it was originally something else, but the name was NOT a good one, but I won't tell you the name in case someone here has that actual name and I don't want to hurt their feelings). Wow, what that a great run on sentence or what?! So Hudson is 19 months, but he looks like a 6 month year old. He's very small, and has a trach, although they just took it out. While they went in to take it out last week they discovered a growth that was taking over 3/4 of his airway. My sister sent me a picture, and it's huge. He's doing great now. They think the growth was from an infection that didn't quite heal. When they first got him he couldn't make a sound. I don't know if you've ever seen a child cry without making a sound, but I know it broke my dad's heart. He could barely look at him without getting torn up. His little face would crumple, but no sound would emerge. Anyway, he's in physical therapy, and has a lot of doctor appointments. He's hooked up to a tube like Amyra had when she was a baby. It's a mickey hole, and they have to feed him through that. It's no big deal because Amyra had it and she turned out fine. And Hudson might very well turn out to be fine. He may have more developmental issues, but he's a sweetie. He's very attentive, and his smile is adorable. My sister taught him how to "dance". She'll say in sing song, "Dance, dance, dance." And at the last "dance", he'll wiggle his little body like crazy and laugh. He can say "up", and he can't walk yet, but he's already progressed so much since being taken in by them. It's cases like this that my sister's stubbornness and determination are perfect for. Yes, she is very impatient with people, but not with Hudson, and not with Amyra when she was still sick (she was premature, on oxygen, had a mickey hole...). I think she's trying really hard to work on her quick temper. My BIL is so cute. He'll get Hudson, and they'll sit in front of his computer, and watch TV together. Anyway, I thought I'd talk a little bit about him.
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@Happy2BeMe (74975)
• Canada
25 Apr 17
What a great couple. They have made such a different in these children's lives. I really enjoyed reading this. It warmed my heart.
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@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
25 Apr 17
I'm so glad.
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@jaboUK (54872)
• United Kingdom
25 Apr 17
Your sister and BIL sound like really good people. Taking on children with medical problems must be very difficult.
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@Juliaacv (32499)
• Canada
25 Apr 17
I think that its wonderful that you're so proud of your family, they sound like an amazing couple taking in children like that.
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@JudyEv (130588)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Apr 17
What a lovely couple your sister and her husband are. They sound just right for these two lucky children.
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@just4him (124348)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 Apr 17
He sounds like an adorable little guy. It's so sad he has all those health issues, but he's in the right hands - God saw to that.
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@1creekgirl (11498)
• United States
25 Apr 17
That's so touching. I bet with all the love and care from your family, both kids will be just fine.
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@DianneN (82522)
• United States
25 Apr 17
What a precious miracle!
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@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
26 Apr 17
I can't wait to see a picture! I hope all his health problems soon fade away. How is Amyra doing health wise?
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@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
26 Apr 17
She has very few problems. She wears glasses, but a lot of kids who aren't premature do that (Hudson now has glasses too). The only lasting thing I guess is that she has GERD. So she's not allowed to drink things like orange juice. So early last year my grandmother is trying to give Amyra orange juice, even though she knows Amyra can't have it. Mindy very nicely told my grandmother she couldn't have that because of her condition. My grandma stomps her cane and yelled at her, "Mindy, she's JUST a kid!" Mindy grabbed Amyra away from her and replied, "But she's MY kid!" And I stood awkwardly during the whole thing.
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• United States
26 Apr 17
@AmbiePam elders mean well, but they're not always right. I had tons of arguments with my mother in law over how to raise my kids. I'm glad Amyra is doing well health wise. My kids hate orange juice, so she's not missing anything.
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@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
26 Apr 17
@katsmeow1213 Well, my grandmother associates food with love. The last Christmas my grandfather was alive, his diabetes was terrible. He legs were black, and if he had lived they would have had to be amputated. She brought him four big slices of various kinds of pie. We all just stared at her, aghast. My grandfather politely declined.
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@snowy22315 (51273)
• United States
25 Apr 17
Very nice! Your sister must be a saint!
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@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
25 Apr 17
She's not a saint, but she has a good heart, and she's showing that more and more. She and her husband desperately want children, and they don't mind challenges. They did have to turn down foster care once. It was four sisters, all completely healthy, but there were four, and they just couldn't see taking them all at once.
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@PatZAnthony (12871)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
25 Apr 17
It sounds like they really are enjoying being adoptive parents, which can be a wonderful thing for many people. Imagine what life would be like for all of the little ones out there without parents if people did not adopt?
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@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
25 Apr 17
I wish more people would consider adoption.
@TRBRocks420 (81196)
• Banks, Oregon
25 Apr 17
That is very nice of them. I hope someday I am in more of a position to help.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 17
thats so good that for little ones with bad physucak oribkens there are good people like your daughter who will love them and care for them through it all love th at brought tears to my eye sreading it
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• Ponce De Leon, Florida
25 Apr 17
That is such a sweet story. How does Amaya like being a big sister?
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@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
25 Apr 17
Oh, she loves it. She told me proudly that Hudson loves to pull her hair. To show me, she bent over, and Hudson yanked on her hair. She was just tickled that he liked to do that. She holds him while they watch Sesame Street together. It's so sweet.
@MALUSE (42713)
• Germany
25 Apr 17
That's really heart-warming. It's a blessing that the children can "keep their adoptive people"! :-)
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@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
25 Apr 17
I agree. Because Amyra saved our family. My late mom's dementia was in the middle of it's fourth year when they got Amyra. It gave me and my dad (who cared for my mom) a happy reason to get up in the morning. She's our first miracle.
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@marguicha (100418)
• Chile
3 Sep
Your family is so sweet! Not many do that.
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@responsiveme (16835)
• India
11 May 17
Thank you for talking about it, posts like this make my day. Your sis and bil are good ,as in the actual meaning people.Those kids are lucky that they were allowed to keep your sis and bro in law.
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@velvet53 (17323)
• Palisade, Colorado
8 May 17
I am so happy you told this story. Your sister and BIL are saints. Praise the Lord that the reached out to help two children who have medical problems. It takes wonderful people to do that.
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@KrauseHome (35526)
• United States
30 Apr 17
What a blessing it sounds like to be able to have kids like this come into their life. My thoughts and Prayers are with them for strength and continued blessings with this situation.
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@ShifaLk (8398)
• India
28 Apr 17
Your sis n BIL are really so sweet to do that.. I was planning to adopt a child too but I think I won't. It's a big responsibility
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@FayeHazel (19112)
• United States
27 Apr 17
It is very awesome that there are people there like your sister and brother in law who are willing and able to care for children with health challenges. God Bless them.
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