Outcome Of This Morning
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (159016)
Boise, Idaho
April 26, 2017 6:08pm CST
I wrote a post this morning about my grandson, Josh, not getting out for bus pickup again this morning. I got a lot of responses of all kinds. Some were sorry for my plight. Others felt I needed to get a clue and get out on my own. Still others feel we are a dysfunctional family. Duh! The earlier link is below for those who want to read it for more info on this situation.
My reason for posting these posts is to let off some steam and to keep some feed back to see if I am crazy or not. Just a need to express myself and feel like I am not the bad guy and am doing okay for what I have available to me.
I did call and talk to the social worker at the school. She told I am doing all I can do. I also called and made arrangements for a PSR to start coming out. She will start slowly and get to know Josh. There is also one for Cami but I told her I felt like two coming out all of a sudden might be too much. I think the one to talk to Josh next week is enough and then one to speak to Cami a little later. They will check with their supervisors and see if that is good or how they should put this all together.
We talked to Josh when he got home and told him he would lose his priveleges for the week if he didn't get out to the bus in the morning. Before it was on a day to day basis. We will discuss this with the PSR when she comes out next week. Josh seems to think this is too harsh. Ghee! Poor kid! (sarcasm) We went round and round about it. Finally he got mad and left the room. That's fine.
Thank you to each of you that responded to my post this morning and to this. For those who want more info you can click on the tag "grandson" for more posts about him and the situation.
Thanks.
http://www.mylot.com/response/3059722/18538638
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
27 Apr 17
I think you are doing all you can and doing very well in extremely difficult circumstances. If your social workers are happy you are doing all you can no one else should judge you negatively - there are no easy answers or solutions and I hope things get sorted out ok soon. The school needs to give Josh more incentive to want to be there so he isn't resisting all your efforts to get hm ready and onto the bus of a morning - hsi fears seem to be more about the school than the home which he sees a a safer place to be for himelf - the focus shouldn't be on you getting him there as much as on what's wrong there that he is trying to avoid. Good luck
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@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 17
Thank you! He is on meds and he is lazy.He knows he has to preform if he goes to school and he wasn't being made accountable when he didn't go. I think those are contributing factors.
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@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
3 May 17
@arthurchappell ......They do sort of but nothing that will jog this kid to do anything.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
3 May 17
@celticeagle maybe the school needs to make attendance / punctuality accountability factors too
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Apr 17
as you know i kind of live in similar situation with family and disfunction. lol. and i often come here to post a rant or ask advice. i also don't know why some seem to think we have a choice. guess they never had to live with family and try and make it work. but i still think we need others to talk/communicate with so i still post no matter. lol. some give helpful advice.
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@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 17
Yes, we do have this similar back story don't we? It's one thing to be knowledgeable and it's another to come at people with their supposed advice in such a overbearing manner. If having a choice is just setting down their truth in such a ugly way and acting heartless then I don't want it. I am here because I love my family. I am doing this because I want to help and I have to take it for what it is. Some on here give very good advice and I am so thankful for their ear. The others I try to evaluate what they put out and understand their side. Nice picture you have going on there.
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@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Apr 17
@bunnybon7 ....Same here. I look twenty years older.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Apr 17
@celticeagle i just changed it again. i like how i looked better a couple years ago before i started giving up trying. lol
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
26 Apr 17
I'm familiar with your situation but don't often respond because I don't have anything to say to encourage you. I know how we sacrifice for our children and grandchildren, I am struggling with that myself right now. And come to think of it, I don't recall ever meeting a family in the last 30 years that was NOT dysfunctional!
You keep on doing what you feel is right. I think you are doing an awesome job of supporting those you love and I wish it wasn't so difficult for you. But no one ever said life was easy and the more you love, the harder life is.
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@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 17
Yeah, dysfunctional seems to be the norm now days. LOL
Thank you for your kind input. I communicate with the social worker at school and talked to the PSR facilitator and two PSR's today. They told me I am doing fine and that is what counts.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Apr 17
I know your doing everything you can and this is not an easy situation to deal with at all. I hope things get better soon.
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@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 17
Thank you. Your kind input means a lot.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Apr 17
@celticeagle Your very welcome. 
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
27 Apr 17
Good when the PSR comes out Celtic.
I hope it turns out fine for you all.
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@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 17
Me too. They both don't want the PSR but I know they need it.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
27 Apr 17
@celticeagle PSR stands for personal social remover? hahah I dunno
@MarshaMusselman (38657)
• Midland, Michigan
28 Apr 17
I just heard a teaching tape from a friend in Ohio and she took her son to kindergarten. He didn't want to go and she said if he didn't go the cops would come to the house. They do that there it seems, but once her son stayed and colored he decided he wanted to go everyday.
I don't know whether the cops would make an appearance at your house or whether your grandson would be fazed by the idea.
I hope the person coming can help him with wanting to go to school.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
27 Apr 17
You are doing all that you can do. I do hope things will get better for all of you.
@celticeagle (159016)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 17
THank you. I appreciate your input.
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