TOO FUSSY?

Good one!

Ha ha ha

I don't quite understand your comment, will you be kind enough to explain.

I have interacted with many newbies and members from other countries whose first language is not English and this is the very first time I have been addressed with "hey gal"

@Kandae11 You have had luck. There is a man from India that has not stopped calling my "dude". Only checking on my profile he would know that I´m no dude but a 71 year old woman.

@marguicha But surely your picture is right there for everyone to see.

@Kandae11 Oh, you're right - yah, Hon. *Edited . . . I meant yah you're right about "Hon" - not to call you "Hon" .

Thanks for your input - Do you mean "hon"?

@much2say I won't mind "hon" or even "girl" - but "gal " in my country isn't taken very well.

I agree. But usually those mylotters are newbies and English is their second language.

I can understand if the person is a close friend.

I agree @marguicha I think a lot of people struggling with English have no clue there is a gender attached to a word but still, it's a little disturbing when I think someone believes I'm a man.

DianneN very nice.

@Kandae11 Ha Ha!

If I were you, I would be okay with that too.

@cacay1 Yes, we can be presumptuous at times and take liberties that we may not have earned.

great way to do to avoid harm.

My thoughts are the same.

@allknowing of course you are always smiling

@Kandae11 yeah true cannot be avoided.

Mistakes can be made.

@sishy7 Hey there, Boss Gal.

@purplealabaster I'd be in a rage. "Boss" is my nemesis.

I appreciate your input.

I really couldn't think of what to say. I thought it best to get some opinions from other members first.

@Kandae11 Yes it is best if you are not sure my friend. I hope someone can give you some guidance then.

@TiarasOceanView You and others have helped quite a bit.

I agree, ma'am. Kidding. Here, it's easy to address someone by their name or handle.

I remember this post very well - and I am happy that you have highlighted it again.

@Kandae11 that is so true. when any one of my students don't show courtesy to any of higher authorities, i would open my eyes so wide that the student will melt in shame. i prefer staring at them rather than berating them loud.

When I was a teenager people were much more respectful to each other - not any more. Times have indeed changed.

@ridingbet and impact the image of technology is following anyone hehehe.

@chrissbergstrom That is nice to be safe from others likenesses esp. if not so familiar to us.

@Kandae11 But i understand if you are not close with someone yet they do not get it

That is understandable.

@josie_ m yes true, agree with you.

I would have liked to believe that too, but the context of the discussion dictated otherwise.

I think so too.

@Kandae11 We sometimes don't realize that what's acceptable here is not always the case with so many myLotters from all parts of the planet.

I don't know - but where I am from if someone I don't know calls out - "Hey gal" to me it would be considered rude.

He could tell from my profile picture, but then again not all profile pics are the real thing.

@Kandae11 I think when people write on sites like this one they feel that we all know each other already, which we know isn't the case. I think a lot of it is related to some of what others said here already in that if English isn't their first language, maybe they don't know it's disrespectful, or they've not a clue how to refer to us. I think using our first names is a good beginning, but why they don't I've no clue.

In my country being addressed with "hey gal" by a stranger is not considered respectful.

@Kandae11 Either one isn't really a good thing to say to someone that you don't know.

The use of gal instead of girl does put a different tone on it.

@Happy2BeMe Very cool suggestion,

No, I haven't mentioned it, I thought I would get the opinion of others first.