Invited to something by someone I don't even talk to.

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Have you ever been invited to something by someone you haven't even talked to in years? Because today I was, and I have one other time. This person is someone who I've known since I was probably 3 but we were never best friends, we played together after school as kids because in a small town of 200 people you basically played with anyone you could, it was either that or play with no one. It's not because you were best friends or that you were even necessarily friends, it was just them or no one. I mean I guess at one time I could have called her a friend but not a good one. She was that kid that was odd and you thought they were OK but they wouldn't be a go-to friend. We got along fine, but she wasn't someone I would have chosen as a friend because we were very different and while I liked her I could only tolerate her for small amounts of time. We both had other friends in school but they lived in nearby towns. We rarely played together at recess at school, but would usually eat lunch together as we had a group we sat with. Regardless I haven't talked to her in years we both went our separate ways in jr. high and high school. She got in some big trouble for selling her ADHD meds and got suspended from school and I know she was pregnant by the time the 11th grade came around. I mean we were just different. She was also not always the sharpest tool in the shed, I remember telling her my son was due in November at one point because we ran into each other and she saw I was pregnant, and she asked "This November or next?" at this point she had 2 kids herself, so it kind of baffled me. She was nice, but she was never the brightest. Recently she had a baby shower which she also invited me to and which I also didn't go to, she never even asked me through messenger or anything she just invited via FB invite. Now she's getting married and invited me. Needless to say, I've declined both invites. I haven't talked to her in years, why would I go to her baby shower or wedding? It's not like she even tried to reconnect with me, just a random invite. It's not like when we were kids and were forced to play together because it was that or play alone, we've both gone our separate ways and while I stay semi-connected to her I wouldn't call her a friend, more of an acquaintance. That's how life is, you move on and while I remember her and how we were friends as kids I haven't been her friend in a long time. We're both 30 and have talked to each other maybe a handful of times since we were 12. You grow up and move on. I don't invite her to anything because we aren't friends anymore. We were never great friends, to begin with. Oh, well. I declined way in advance as the wedding isn't even until next year. I'd like to say maybe she'll get the hint but I doubt it. I can't say I have a desire to be friends with her again, she was nice but we really are very different and now I find I need people to talk to that have more common interests and that don't annoy me the way she did. It's great that she's got a life going and I'll happily stay FB friends with her and follow her life from afar but I don't think I could be real friends with her anymore, so much time has past and while I like her she's nice we just aren't into the same things. She's basically my opposite. Some people are nice to talk to from time to time but that doesn't mean you want to be their best friends. This may seem mean, but I'm not trying to be. I just think sometimes friendships have run their course and while it's great to catch up with people from time to time that that doesn't mean you need to be friends. I think sometimes you need to let go and respect something for what it was and not feel the need to revisit it. I respect her and I'll say hi to her if I see her but I won't go out of my way to talk to her or go to her wedding, much the same way I'd never invite her to anything. I just thought it was crazy that she'd invite me to those type of things given we haven't spoken since my son was like 2 and before that it was years before I'd seen her.