Things I said as a child still being held over my head.
April 29, 2017 4:15am CST
Ever find yourself unable to live down things you did as a kid that you really don't even remember doing? I seem to have this problem. I'm 30 and still have to deal with the actions I did when I was 4. Some people are still mad at me over them! I was simply repeating something I was told. I remember my grandma used to constantly tell me the neighbor was a dirty old man, and one day I told the man that and people still bring it up and try and make me feel bad about it. I barely remember the incident but I'm forced to hear about it and some of them are still angry about it and asking me why I did it. I mean I was only repeating something that was told to me, I hear kids do that all the time and don't continue to bring it up to them years later. I didn't actually think that about the guy, I was literally just repeating it. My mom talked to my grandma and my grandma said: "Well, he is." I don't get why some people keep repeating stories like that knowing they make you feel bad. It wasn't funny, it was definitely a moment where I was rude, but I wasn't trying to be. I don't think anyway, as I said I barely remember it but I've been constantly asked why I would say something like that over the years. I don't know I was 4, why do most 4 year olds say the things they do? It's rather, ridiculous to still hold me responsible for something I did as a small child. I am told many other stories now too that I find embarrassing and everyone finds it fine to bring them up to me but if I were to do that to them they'd be livid. I try to leave some things in the past, even though some people won't leave it there. I get some of it, they think is cute or funny, but some stuff they act angry over, which doesn't make sense to me. Now I wouldn't dream of saying mean things to others unless they said something I found rude or mean, and even then I wouldn't be downright mean. I know as kids, and heck even adults we do and say embarrassing things and some people find them hilarious even if we don't, mostly I've learned to laugh most of it off but some things I don't find funny, like the times when I was rude or said hurtful things I probably shouldn't have. I get I was a kid but that doesn't mean I should have said them, and I feel like some people are still angry over them, but I still say it's insane to hold a 30 year old accountable for the things they said when they were 4, but maybe that's just me.
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• Beaconsfield, Quebec
You were just a kid. All four-year-old kids will repeat somethings that they hear. My eldest has repeated things that I have said. Thankfully, only when we're around and not to others and it wasn't anything really bad, but still she did still repeat, as it was something that I had said or my husband said. It's what we all do at that age. I'm sure I did the same when I was 4 or 5.
I would try to ignore what they say...or come back with a snappy answer....like.....imagine....as a four year old I repeated what my family told me, they should be ashamed of themselves.... This would turn the embarrassment onto them. My parents used to tell people how often they "forgot" one of their children....in a park...at church....at the mall (they literally forgot them and left them behind). I finally became so annoyed over them finding this funny I made the comment, quite loudly....."Can you imagine being proud of that?" That stopped their comments.
• United States
It's less embarrassment and more annoyance. Over the years they have talked about it less and less but it was held over my head my entire childhood. Kids are kids and they say stuff and I know this and on some level I think they know it but I don't get why they always enjoyed making me feel bad about it.
• United States
Ah, but they do. It is insane, but they do. Some people took real offense to it even though I was only repeating something I heard. It's why I have to be careful what I say around my son, I would never dream of holding things over his head that he has said now. I get thinking something is funny but making someone feel bad about it is something different.
• United States
@atoz1to10 I'm not super upset, just annoyed when they feel the need to constantly bring it up. I was 4, and I don't really remember it much to have really learned a lesson other than don't talk in case you say something others find offensive and feel the need to constantly remind you of later. That might actually be part of why I don't talk much in person, I don't really know.
If you grow further in your future...they have no other easy way to embarrass you and create negative thoughts to your mind. Its a sort of jelousy usually adopted by relatives and near by. Never your parents and bro/sis will. They may joke and remind you but never let you down with it. Always keep positive in future and fart on such comments in mind and lol...he he...
• United States
Actually, it was usually my close family that still liked to bring it up. More so my one brother and my nephew. I mean I've mostly moved past it but I hate that some people feel the need to bring it up on occasion even though it's been years.
• Jacksonville, Florida
That is a little crazy for them to still bring it up. You were little and 4 year olds of course repeat what they hear! It happens to every little one. I know it's frustrating but try not to let it bother you. They might be doing it for the reaction they are getting from you.