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@MALUSE (69413)
Germany
May 4, 2017 12:43pm CST
Some time ago I read an interview with Helen Mirren in a German newspaper. In it she admits that she doesn't use social networks. She doesn't like them and sees no reason for their existence. Twitter? What for? Oh, how I like this woman! It's not that I need assistance from other people - famous or not - for my opinion, but it's nice nevertheless to see that one isn't alone. She thinks that her negative attitude comes from her upbringing. Her mother told her not to begin each sentence in a thank-you letter with the word 'I'. "It's the addressee who's important, not the sender", she was told. Facebook and Twitter, however, are all about 'ME'. "Look at me, how beautiful or funny I am. Read about me, what I do and think." She feels that it's indecent to draw attention to oneself. I don't look at social networks from a moral standpoint, however. I just think it's irrelevant to inform the world about each belch and fart and dead boring to read about other people's olfactory emissions so-to-speak. A tweet, "I'm standing on the platform waiting for my father's train." Good girl, but WHO CARES? Next tweet, "The train is late". INDEED. And so on and so forth. Then the photos! Whoever thinks that a selfie with outstretched tongue or a photo of a group of grimacing people is funny? It isn't! How do I know these things? I do because I'm on facebook and twitter anonymously to spy occasionally on people I know. We used to have foreign language assistants in our house and I like to check what they're up to now that they've gone home again. Although we usually got along with each other when they were here, it‘s 'Out of sight, out of mind' when they've returned home. Why don't I do this openly? Am I a coward? Oh no, I wouldn't say so. I registered first with my real name and was inundated by people from internet sites on which I was active. Not only they appeared on my site but also their friends and friends' friends. I found that frightening. I didn't want to see these people on my site. So I deleted my account as best as I could. Someone told me that one never completely disappears. But at least I'm not bothered any more. Now only a handful of people know about me and that's enough. I'm still looking for a detailed analysis of the phenomenon of social media. Why the urge to expose oneself? I only find profound texts on the dangers of doing so. The worst case scenario is that people kill themselves because they've exposed themselves completely to the wrong people. An article in a German newsmag had the title: 'Internet = Girls' Tomb'. But I want an answer to the WHY. Where was the urge to expose oneself before the internet came into being? Was it hidden in the subconscious and jumped out when it had the chance? Or didn't it exist? Was it created by the internet? All theories are welcome. --- Pic: pixabay
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18 responses
@Shwetasingh (1333)
4 May 17
So true... Although I am very active on social networking sites but frustrated with the way many people use it. It's blizzard to use it for every pinch of daily chorus. I mean I am said ,I am happy, I am drinking blah blah.. and every time a pathetic selfy showing all irritating possess. Actually initially I found this frustrating then I thought why to care let them do what they want and for me it's my platform for learning, learning about new things new concepts like my recent fb page where I learnt fb marketing.
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@suripunj (956)
• New Delhi, India
4 May 17
There are 2 aspects(may be even more) of psychology involved here. One is vent of emotion- however transient does not matter -what is wrong if dumped to some where(social site) to feel relieved. This is fart or belch of emotion which you very rightly referred as I take it that way. Second is, the urge be recognised, to be appreciated ,to be liked to be hated either, but remain centre of attraction for others. This is inherent unique characteristic of human( sort of vanity) ,otherwise why did it matter how many likes ,how many responses?
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@suripunj (956)
• New Delhi, India
4 May 17
@MALUSE Because only 2 names came up in my mind at that time first was: 'You'- I did not mention because I was replying to you and other is he, because I hardly know many more international columnists. No real reason I swear.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
4 May 17
This sounds reasonable. Let me repeat the comment I made below: So now there should be less frustration in the world as everybody can let out everything and get recognition. But is there really? The recognition issue leads me to another question: Are social media especially for people with little self-confidence? People with sound self-confidence don't need recognition and appreciation by strangers all the time.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
4 May 17
@suripunj Why have you mentioned Chomsky in this context?
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@ptrikha_2 (45463)
• India
4 May 17
I think many people are on Internet because: 1)People in their circle are there. 2)They think if they are not on Facebook, Instagram etc, they will be termed as outdated. 3)They become addicted. I too get slightly addicted but my main purpose is to get some extra bucks.
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
4 May 17
I am on social media because of #1 not 2 & 3. At first, I thought social media is a waste of time but later on I learned about its advantages like FREE Facebook messaging in the Philippines, FREE posting to promote Business or Blog, not myself . Who doesn't like FREE services? Sending SMS international is quite expensive. I also read weather forecast thru Facebook & Twitter.
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@ptrikha_2 (45463)
• India
9 May 17
@AkoPinay Social media- facebook, twitter, pinterest etc have their benefits. However, excess of anything is bad.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
4 May 17
I consider myself honoured to know your secret alter ego.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
4 May 17
You can feel yourself honoured indeed. You're one of three people.
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
4 May 17
@MALUSE Hooray!
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@JudyEv (325654)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 May 17
I'm not on any social sites either and can't bear the thought of it. Vince is on a few and I see enough there to keep me convinced that it's not for me. And as you say, every boring detail and endless photos... bleh.
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@ptrikha_2 (45463)
• India
9 May 17
@JudyEv I skip many updates, but sometimes I do dive in and spend extra, unplanned time. And one of the biggest time spending culprit now a days is WhatsApp- bigger than facebook!
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@ptrikha_2 (45463)
• India
12 May 17
@JudyEv well Whatsapp is similar to Facebook but faster on mobiles. We can share pictures, animated GIFs, videos etc on this to groups and individuals. Some similar softwares are Viber and Line.
@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
4 May 17
I believe narcissism is an inherent trait in human in varying degrees. It can be minute in the shy introvert to extreme in the case of a killer killing to get headlines. There is this need for "look at me" and give me attention. Facebook etc has tapped into this and brought it out something that may have been dormant for a lifetime. It's that need to be a "star" and have Andy Warhol's "15 minutes of fame."
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
4 May 17
This is a good explanation. So now there should be less frustration in the world as everybody can let out everything. But is there really?
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
4 May 17
@MALUSE It's like an addiction. It's never enough and never will be. It's like the bratty little kid that can never get enough attention.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
5 May 17
I can't explain the desire to expose all your personal details on social media. I use twitter for business only and Facebook to check up on my family, I reveal nothing.
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@LadyDuck (457974)
• Switzerland
5 May 17
I am on Twitter and Facebook, I opened the two accounts because for some online writings I did in the past they were necessary. I think I log into Twitter a couple of times a month, more often to FB, but I avoid to post, I just look around, like you do, spying on some people.
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@LadyDuck (457974)
• Switzerland
5 May 17
@MALUSE I am curious like a cat, but I do not like to post personal matters as too many do.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
5 May 17
I'm glad to read that I'm not the only one with this habit. :-)
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
5 May 17
@LadyDuck Personal stuff is often silly and superfluous, but photos of children are even worse in my opinion.
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@Inlemay (17714)
• South Africa
8 May 17
I love your thoughts on the matter. I have FB and I must admit that I love interacting with those that I have befriended there. I keep my FB profile under serious privacy that means if you are not MY Friend by my invite, you cannot see anything other than my profile picture. That I change often to suit my mood. FB is my silent connection to a world I can enter when I want - or stay out of as long as I like.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
5 May 17
The only site I'm on is Mylot @MALUSE and even 'it' can sometimes be strange. I think people need to feel as being 'part' of something. Before computer sites, people belonged to groups: Farmers Association, Boy Scouts, sports leagues, etc. Now with the computer sites, people connect across the planet, not just in their local groups. For those that have and/or feel isolated, this is their opportunity to 'belong' to something.
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@ptrikha_2 (45463)
• India
9 May 17
@nanette64 I feel one good thing about Twitter, Facebook and even Mylot is that we, people across the globe can chat and discuss matters. Did this happen normally before 2000s? Well no, except for Multi-National companies and International scientific cooperation missions. But yes, use of social media beyond a limit does causes negative consequences too.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
5 May 17
This may be an explanation, although the local groups you've mentioned still exist. It would be so much better for many internet nerds to be a part of a real life group
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
8 May 17
@MALUSE I think so too. Actual physical interaction is much better.
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@Poppylicious (11133)
5 May 17
I enjoy Facebook mostly for being nosey about how other people live. Twitter I don't understand at all. I like meat and substance, not snippets of an ordinary existence. My fifteen year old nephew doesn't have any dealings with social media... no Facebook account, etc. As he says, he sees all his friends every day at school, why does he need to be friends with them on the internet too? There are more young people who don't do Facebook, interestingly.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
5 May 17
Your nephew will become a sensible adult.
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• Banks, Oregon
4 May 17
I only do Facebook really as it is a good way to keep in touch.
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@spiderdust (14741)
• San Jose, California
5 May 17
I have a lot of siblings, and we (along with our families) are scattered across the country away from our parents. Facebook is an easy way for us to share pictures and keep up with each others lives. However, I do dislike some of the invasiveness.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
5 May 17
I'm not against such family connections via facebook, only against mindless messages the world can do without.
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@Essjayd (1568)
5 May 17
Facebook is both a blessing and a curse I can understand your views as although I used it for my business I avoided having a personal account for years. As a lot of friends have moved away I was constantly asked to get an account so staying in touch would be easier. I have to admit I'm slightly addicted now but I only post a few times a month. Most of my posts are good or funny things that have happened or photographs I have taken. I don't take selfies or pictures of my dinner etc and I don't post about my problems, my relationship or look for sympathy etc. Facebook has allowed me to watch kids in my family grow up rather than seeing them once every couple of years. It has let me stay in touch or reconnect with people I can no longer see on a daily basis due to the distance between us now. The downside is seeing the constant selfies, bragging, drama and dinner pics that some have to post every ten minutes!
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
6 May 17
Facebook used wisely can be a good thing. Yet, how many members are as wise as you are?
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@Essjayd (1568)
6 May 17
@MALUSE Sadly that is very true, the secret is to unfollow the selfie loving drama queens and dinner pic posters!
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@Tampa_girl7 (48908)
• United States
23 May 17
One must have a particular type of personality to stay wrapped up in these social media sites 24/7 . It baffles me
@Fleura (29120)
• United Kingdom
4 May 17
It's a total mystery to me, I an completely the opposite, I have absolutely no desire to tell anyone about my everyday occurrences. In fact there are many things I don't even tell my best friends. I have avoided Facebook because I don't want to sign away all my private details to the company. Of course I understand that young people will likely be ostracized if they're not part of the scene, and will miss out on social events etc. And many organisations, even collages etc, put their notices and even things like lecture notes on Facebook, so it would be difficult to avoid for that age-group. I don't know what would happen if you said that you objected on principle to signing up.
@DianneN (246643)
• United States
5 May 17
I'm only on Facebook and limit who and who cannot see my posts. Easy peasy. I use it for many reasons, but mostly to keep in touch with family and close friends.
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@Ronrybs (17854)
• London, England
5 May 17
Don't do a great deal of social media. Mainly I stick to tweets, and the like, from organisations I am interested in, mostly cycling! I do have a Facebook account and only use to see what old friends are up to. Not very often I post.
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