why are you successful in life and marriage?

@amadeo (75915)
United States
May 8, 2017 11:02am CST
Good afternoon. Most people are amaze how long that we have been together. What is your secret.No secret. Michael and I been together over forty five years and legally married going on four years. For us is.Stay out of each other way.Do not deny the things he did before commitment. I stay out of his way,let him do what he wants.Give him plenty of space. We are not talking about cheaters.We have so much respect for each other. We have our differences ,but work it out.No slamming the door and walking out of the house.Respect is the key word. We are fortunate being a gay couple as most say that this will not last. We know many gay couple lives been shorten due to unhappiness and freedom. Some still want to play around.But this is a no no with us. this is why so many gay couple do not make it.They are not satisfied with their lives and thinking they are missing out. Yes,we are lucky and proud.Proud as we made it as many people will say that this will not last long. I am not bragging just saying.Give each other space. Thank you.Fredo
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@marlina (79680)
• Canada
8 May 17
Congratulations to both of you! My husband and I married in 1974 and we have been happy all the way.
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@marlina.Good for you.Love to hear about happy marriages these days.Congrats
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@marlina (79680)
• Canada
8 May 17
@amadeo Thanks Alfredo, I guess you and I are very lucky!
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
9 May 17
@marlina yes and the luck better stay with us.LOL
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8 May 17
Woah! your marriage life sounds really interesting and seems as much appealing to me. As already has been mentioned by you, the key to a happily lived ever after is 'respect'. Oh yes ! certainly it is. But what makes your marriage and post-marriage different from the likes of gay couples, I believe, is not just a lack of respect for the partner. Many a times, before respecting the other, call it our soulmate or our secret sharer or the life partner, it becomes really essentially to respect yourself and your choices. If you respect your decisions than the macrocosmic world won't matter.That is what every couple need to understand. Love is secondary, respect primary. Respect not just for the other who completes you but also for the initial you. That you who chose to become 'we' with this person. Only then your married life becomes ideal even if your marriage was never near to it. Respect is the invisible string that binds your bond and keeps it going. Keep inspiring, best regards, Medha.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@invisible_string thank you for the comment and nice to meet you
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@Hate2Iron (8029)
• Canada
8 May 17
Some people simply know what it takes and others give up without trying. You two know how to make it work. Congrats!!
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@Hate2Iron we try to make it works.We have change a few things to help this.
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@LadyDuck (182653)
• Switzerland
8 May 17
Patience, love, respect and a good communication are important for a marriage. We are married from 45 years, will be 46 the next December.
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@LadyDuck wow!good for you Anna that is wonderful there.
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@LadyDuck (182653)
• Switzerland
9 May 17
@amadeo As we have worked together all the time, the hardest was not to have argument with the work.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
9 May 17
@LadyDuck that is the hardest part there.I understand
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@JustBhem (44367)
• Davao, Philippines
8 May 17
This makes me proud of you. Wow. I didn't know that. Stay strong you guys.
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@JustBehem thank you.What is going there in your life?
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@JustBhem (44367)
• Davao, Philippines
8 May 17
@amadeo Your welcome. Well, just woke up. I will have my training in awhile through online. Good luck to me.
@jstory07 (71284)
• Roseburg, Oregon
8 May 17
In every marriage you need to give each other space or it will not last.
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@JudyEv your right.Every couple should have some space.This is what makes it.
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@NJChicaa (47505)
• United States
8 May 17
40 years is amazing
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@NJChicaa 45 plus years.thank you
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• United States
8 May 17
Love, commitment, respect and communication - this is what keeps our marriage going for 18 years, which is almost double what my first marriage lasted. Keep it up guys, you are happy and that's the important thing.
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@AbbyGreen thank you Abby .Love is better than the second time around there?Good for you
• New Delhi, India
9 May 17
Its good that you have a stable and strong relationship
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@DianneN (88052)
• United States
8 May 17
Many congratulations to you both. You obviously know the secrets to a long and happy marriage.
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@DianneN not sure about the secret.But we are Old School.LOL
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@DianneN (88052)
• United States
8 May 17
@amadeo Old school is fine by me!
@MALUSE (44680)
• Uzbekistan
8 May 17
Congratulations!
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@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@MALUSE Thank you.
@dragon68 (774)
9 May 17
You're getting along too well.
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@diosabella (4809)
9 May 17
The two of you look so cute together. Soulmates.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
9 May 17
@diosabella we are at times.LOL.Thank you
9 May 17
@amadeo Thanks too. I'm learning a lot from you.
• United States
8 May 17
I was far from successful on either side of the fence. Its fine with me, I am peaceful now. Did not want to stay in disrespectful situations. Congrats to you two.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@TiarasOceanView I see and thank you
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• United States
8 May 17
@amadeo Welcome
@LeaPea2417 (22427)
• Toccoa, Georgia
8 May 17
I have noticed that in both the Straight and Gay communities the divorce rate is very much a like. There are marriages/partnerships that last decades and there are others that last not long at all. Also, there are those who have 3 and 4 or more marriages in both communities and their are others who have had only 1 spouse/partner in both communities. I do congratulate you two in your long time together. I feel fortunate because my husband and I have been married 29 years and we would never divorce.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@LeaPea2417 Congrats there.That is so wonderful to hear.
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@LeaPea2417 (22427)
• Toccoa, Georgia
9 May 17
@amadeo Thanks.
@Corbin5 (119638)
• United States
8 May 17
I think it is wonderful that you and Mike are committed to each other. A shame others do not have stable relationships that last.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@Corbin5 well depend if they from old school or snowflake.LOL
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@Corbin5 (119638)
• United States
8 May 17
@Essjayd (1619)
8 May 17
Congratulations I'm happy you have both found the person you want to be with. I agree respect and allowing your partner their freedom are the key things to the success of my relationship. Neither of us needs to try and change the other or hold them away from living their lives.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@Essjayd yes and well said there.
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@garymarsh6 (14556)
• United Kingdom
8 May 17
You must respect yourself first your partner second and make allowances. There is no point in being jealous or denying each other growth and space to follow your own interests. Here is to the next 45 years!
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@garymarsh6 well said there Gary.How true is this.
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@Kandae11 (40358)
8 May 17
I wish you both many more happy years together.
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@Kandaee11 thank you much there.
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• Madurai, India
8 May 17
Most of the people forgot that their better halves are also 'individuals' like them. That's where the problem arises, but you guys understood life way better. Hats off guys... Cheers
@amadeo (75915)
• United States
8 May 17
@SKRocks thank you.