why are you successful in life and marriage?
May 8, 2017 11:02am CST
Good afternoon. Most people are amaze how long that we have been together. What is your secret.No secret. Michael and I been together over forty five years and legally married going on four years. For us is.Stay out of each other way.Do not deny the things he did before commitment. I stay out of his way,let him do what he wants.Give him plenty of space. We are not talking about cheaters.We have so much respect for each other. We have our differences ,but work it out.No slamming the door and walking out of the house.Respect is the key word. We are fortunate being a gay couple as most say that this will not last. We know many gay couple lives been shorten due to unhappiness and freedom. Some still want to play around.But this is a no no with us. this is why so many gay couple do not make it.They are not satisfied with their lives and thinking they are missing out. Yes,we are lucky and proud.Proud as we made it as many people will say that this will not last long. I am not bragging just saying.Give each other space. Thank you.Fredo
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8 May 17
Woah! your marriage life sounds really interesting and seems as much appealing to me. As already has been mentioned by you, the key to a happily lived ever after is 'respect'. Oh yes ! certainly it is. But what makes your marriage and post-marriage different from the likes of gay couples, I believe, is not just a lack of respect for the partner. Many a times, before respecting the other, call it our soulmate or our secret sharer or the life partner, it becomes really essentially to respect yourself and your choices. If you respect your decisions than the macrocosmic world won't matter.That is what every couple need to understand. Love is secondary, respect primary. Respect not just for the other who completes you but also for the initial you. That you who chose to become 'we' with this person. Only then your married life becomes ideal even if your marriage was never near to it. Respect is the invisible string that binds your bond and keeps it going. Keep inspiring, best regards, Medha.
• Toccoa, Georgia
8 May 17
I have noticed that in both the Straight and Gay communities the divorce rate is very much a like. There are marriages/partnerships that last decades and there are others that last not long at all. Also, there are those who have 3 and 4 or more marriages in both communities and their are others who have had only 1 spouse/partner in both communities. I do congratulate you two in your long time together. I feel fortunate because my husband and I have been married 29 years and we would never divorce.
8 May 17
Congratulations I'm happy you have both found the person you want to be with. I agree respect and allowing your partner their freedom are the key things to the success of my relationship. Neither of us needs to try and change the other or hold them away from living their lives.