My little man is missing his daddy.

@sissy15 (5705)
United States
May 13, 2017 9:37pm CST
The boyfriend is at work tonight leaving me alone with our son again. I really hate when he works seconds. I don't mind firsts as much because I get to spend the evening with him but it feels like when he's on seconds we can never do anything. At least he got to go to our son's tball game this morning which usually he can't go to any morning activities. My son was happy his daddy got to be there. He was clinging to my boyfriend all morning which makes me think he has been missing his dad lately. Usually, my son is glued to my side but when he goes a little longer without seeing his dad he'll glue himself to his dad. My boyfriend has been working more hours and more seconds due to someone up and quitting. Usually, due to my son being in school during the week he will only get a few hours with him and I think it's starting to get to my son who keeps asking for his dad at night. My boyfriend did manage to get most of the upcoming week off for when his parents come to visit and that should excite my son. My son has his kindergarten graduation coming up and then the following day he has another game and then the following week there's field day and the end of school picnic and my boyfriend managed to get it all off to spend with our son. We also volunteered to do kindergarten graduation set up. I'm hoping our son starts to understand that daddy does his best to spend as much time with him as he can but it's not easy with our hectic schedules. I often times take him to practice and games by myself. I do a lot of stuff with our son by myself here lately and I know it bothers our son but I hope eventually things will start to ease up and my boyfriend will get more time with our son.
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@responsiveme (16814)
• India
14 May 17
It's the quality time not quantity time as my friends say. And reading your post does let on that your son has exactly that.
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
I know but his dad working seconds messes up his schedule usually his dad does bedtime with him, it was started like that when he was smaller when my boyfriend always worked seconds and he would get done earlier back then, so my boyfriend would come home and get him around for bed so he could spend a little time with him.Now my son goes to bed earlier.
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@shivamani10 (11187)
• Hyderabad, India
14 May 17
This is a generation totally busy with hectic activities. So doing what actually and really we want to do is really needs a good amount of time.
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@Courtlynn (55260)
• United States
14 May 17
I hope they can get some one on one time in the days/weeks to come. Sounds like your son needs it. And maybe your boyfriend does too after all these busy days.
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
Thanks, I think they could both use it. My boyfriend has most of next week off so he'll get to spend some time with him.
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@Courtlynn (55260)
• United States
14 May 17
@sissy15 thats good. And happy early mothers day.
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
@Courtlynn Thank you, you too, even if you don't have your daughter with you, you're still a mother.
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@RubyHawk (29546)
• Atlanta, Georgia
14 May 17
I hope so but often work Prevents us from what we really want to do.
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
I hope so too, and it does prevent my boyfriend from really spending time with us and I know that it bothers him.
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@RubyHawk (29546)
• Atlanta, Georgia
16 May 17
@sissy15 maybe as time goes on he will have more time with the child
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
16 May 17
@RubyHawk Maybe.
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@marguicha (102375)
• Chile
14 May 17
Parents don´t need to spend lots of time with their children. But the time they spend with them has to be of a high quality.
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
My son usually has his dad do bedtime with him as it was something my boyfriend originally did when he was smaller and worked a bit different of a schedule and it stuck so his dad not being here at night when he goes to bed messes up his schedule.
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@marguicha (102375)
• Chile
14 May 17
@sissy15 Maybe it is posible that you explain it to him. Sofía must be around his age and she reasons when she has to.
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
@marguicha He understands but it's still hard for him. He's 6.
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• Banks, Oregon
14 May 17
Awww I'm.sorry your son is missing his dad
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
Thanks, it's part of life and it sucks because he doesn't fully understand.
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• Banks, Oregon
14 May 17
@sissy15 my nephews dad just got out of prison, that's one thing my nieces and one of my nephews dads are all absentee dads my eldest nieces dad is currently in prison, youngest niece dad is not even on her birth certificate and has nothing to do with her, it's awful to think of them trying to be more involved in the future if they all ever clean up there acts.
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
15 May 17
@chrissbergstrom I imagine, kids need a good father figure in their life, at least you get to be there for them. I'm fortunate my boyfriend is there for my son. We don't always agree on parenting technique but at the end of the day my boyfriend loves our son and would do anything for him so that's what matters at the end of the day.
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 May 17
I totally understand this because my husband works a lot as well. He has to but the young ones don't understand and they miss him like crazy too. Our 15 month old cries at the door when he sees daddy leave and it's heart breaking for me and his dad. =(
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@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
I can imagine. My son doesn't mind his dad working but when he starts getting called in on his days off and my son barely sees him it starts to bother him. Thankfully, my boyfriend has most of next week off.
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@Srbageldog (8242)
• United States
14 May 17
It sucks you don't get to spend much family time together, but good that he's got the upcoming week off and will be able to participate in your son's upcoming activities.
@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
14 May 17
It does suck but there are days where I enjoy it lol, depends on my mood and how much he's been ticking me off. I am glad he'll get to be there for Brayland's activities. I know he's looking forward to the much needed break.
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• United States
14 May 17
@sissy15 It'll mean a lot to Brayland having him there too, I'm sure. And I know you enjoy your alone time. How can you properly drool over Hugh if Cory's always hanging all over you? XD
@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
15 May 17
@Srbageldog lol, that's what I'm saying. Cory got me more Hugh movies for mothers day! I can't be annoyed at him now. Such a good boyfriend. First, the X-men trilogy and now I also have The Fountain, Deception, and Van Helsing. When he's sweet he's really sweet and now I'll actually be forced to miss him. It is good that he'll be here for Brayland and I do miss him when he's not here after awhile. Sometimes I enjoy it but sometimes I do find myself missing him.
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@jstory07 (70092)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 May 17
At least his Dad is taking time off to see the important minutes in his son's life.
@sissy15 (5705)
• United States
15 May 17
Very true, I'm just glad he was able to get them.