By Four Walls
May 15, 2017 8:46am CST
A friend of mine posted a news item on Facebook over the weekend. I had to check because it sounded like one of those spoof sites (like The Onion). It involved a growing trend, known as sologamy. More simplistically, people are marrying themselves in ceremonies. Apparently this started from a joke in the TV series Sex and the City, where one of the characters married herself to stop people from asking "when are you going to get married". But people are taking it seriously now. Even though it's not a recognized marital status legally anywhere in the world, which means you cannot claim "married" on your tax returns (or "married filing separately," for that matter), it does raise questions to me. 1. Usually the bride's family pays for the wedding. If a man marries himself, who pays? 2. For that matter, does the mother pay if a woman marries herself, and the father pays if herself marries the woman? 3. What happens if one of the one parties decides to end the marriage? Which one files for divorce? 4. And how about alimony? Who'll have to pay it? And can a sologamist sue himself/herself for non-support? I would hope the one good thing about self-marriage is that there's no argument about sex...but there probably is. Here's a song about self-love, issued long before the Sex and the City episode, from the great Joan Armatrading:
joan armatrading live at rockpalast ,1980 " me myself i "
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• United States
15 May 17
A lot of questions do arise regarding sologamy. You posed some great ones here. In a novel I am reading, I was ticked by this: Question: "What is a dysfunctional family?" Answer: "A family with more than one person." Sologamy may lead to freedom from dysfunction.