White lies

I did not say it was not a lie. My parents would tell us that they were going to the doctor when they were actually going for a movie.

@Courtlynn I have never asked here if a white lie is right or wrong. I only asked if you told white lies and what was your last one.

@allknowing parents always lie cause its the only way to get kids to do stuff half the time. Doesnt make it right.

What was your latest white lie?

@SIMPLYD Ofcourse it is a white lie in all aspects

@allknowing That I have already eaten a late snack so I am still feeling full, when I went home the other day and declare that I will not have dinner anymore. The fact is, before going home, I passed by Bon Chon and tried their one piece fried chicken.

@allknowing I just have to think of another white lie in case I run into the same person again (it's happened before!).

@much2say You better be ready if you do not want to 'hurt' that person (lol)

I do that too. I keep saying that there is someone at the gate

Very bad, very bad. You could have got so many proposals

@allknowing That's right, my friend. The class session should proceed without asking side questions about me.lol

Do you have a girlfriend??

White lies are told so that others do not get hurt atleast temporarily. Example. If someone bores you on the phone rather than say that to them you just say there is someone at the gate (lol)

@allknowing That's a good example.

There was a reason behind it. Do you tell white lies and what was your latest.

@Slayqueen Not bad. You pacified him atleast for a while. White lies are meant to keep others happy though not for long

@allknowing ohh.. recently, I told my friend that he can mend his broken relationship, only if he focuses on his career right now. Then automatically she'll come to you. But I know she won't.

@allknowing Off hand, no I don't remember. I'd have to think about it.

Remember the last one?

@allknowing If you are speaking about my friend.. she lies at every occasion. she may think it's a white lie as she sees it as being harmless to others and maybe benefiting her.. But where does it stop? why lie about everything. why does every story you tell even if it was about your day at work have to be embellished. obviously it is not harming me because I do not care all that much about your day at work so why lie about it? Why Lie at all? All it does is make those around you distrust every word you say for the rest of time.

I know exactly why I said it and there was a good reason. Even me not discussing my personal plans with her could be a good reason too. Those who you live with know you inside out and in your case that must have been a situation where that person did that at every step. That sort of a thing never happens as a rule but that is an exception. What confuses me, however is while a white lie is meant to be harmless why should that have upset you. If it upset you then it is not a white lie.

@cmoneyspinner The maid may not know but others who came with me for lunch know. I do not have to open up to my maid about my personal life. And people getting upset or angry is not the issue here. But not hurting those who you deal with is the issue. If I do not like what my neigbour has given me I will not say that I do not like it. Would you? I could go on and on when diplomacy needs to play a role that can bring peace around as long as no one is at a loss, no one is hurt. Telling lies at the cost of another is indeed wrong. And that no one should do. And as for there being liars here since you have not found any it is best that we close this topic.

There were genuine reasons. So you were telling white lies and now you don't. I need to many times. If I am in the Loo for example I would feel bad to say that and then I would say something. else, Your personality may not make you feel bad but it does in my case. If someone bores me on the phone I will not say I am bored but give an excuse and call off. If I did not like the food at someone's house I will not say I did not like the food. I could go on and on...................................The whole idea is to create a conducive atmosphere where no one loses. Having said that I hate liars and there are quite a number here

@allknowing - Really? This site has liars? How do you know? I mean ... in your face flat out liars. Why? What's happening at this site that would you make you want to tell a lie?? Nobody is asking you to tell them anything! Just write, interact and have fun! It seems so stupid to lie! I don't know. Maybe I'm missing something. On your other note: I wouldn't say I was telling "white lies". I didn't put a color to them. But my mom explained to me a long time ago, as a child, that there was no such thing as big lies, little lies, white lies, black lies, etc. She said tell the truth, no matter if you're scared of the consequences. She said also, if you tell a lie you always have to remember what you said, because you might have to keep repeating it over and over. That's too much work on your brain! If you forget what you said and give a different response, then you'll have to explain "which" is "which". Once you break trust with people and they feel they can't honor your word, it's really hard to get it back. Think about these two things. (1) People may get upset or angry with you if you speak the truth. But they won't call you a liar. (2) But let's say you tell a person you're going somewhere. But you went somewhere else. You told them a "white lie" because you didn't want them to know. Something tragic happens to you and you go missing. The police investigate. They ask the last person you spoke to. Do you know what the person will say? They'll tell the cops what you told them AND they will believe that they're telling the cops the truth and helping them find you. You may never get found! You might say that's an extreme example. But is it?

As long as no harm is done we need to do that sometimes.

Life is all about taking care to see others are not hurt as far possible and if that can be handled by telling white lies one should go for it.

@allknowing Agreed

@jaboUK Those who claim they never tell white lies are downright liars. I do not think anyone could have lived a life without using that tool for survival.

Arranging a surprise party and telling the person there is no party is that a white lie Is that being impolite?

@diosabella If we say the party is cancelled and then spring a surprise.

@allknowing How can it be a surprise if we say it to them. Unless of course they are those people who are not invited and it could complicate things.

That was a profound white lie - all for the welfare of the family

@BabyRai1

@allknowing

What was your last?

@allknowing I don’t knw....i forget

Suppose any of them wear something and they do not look good will you hurt them and say that to them? Do you never give them surprises by first teasing them and then bringing out the surprise? .

@Morleyhunt Children wait for compliments. Don't they? They will even ask for them.

@allknowing sometimes it is better to say nothing. If I don't like what you are wearing....I might like the colour. I'm not doing you any favours saying that somethings is beautiful when it isn't at all flattering. Remember the Emperors new clothes? Why tell a lie?