I can't believe it -- she took my advice!
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
United States
May 26, 2017 7:26am CST
I told you that my cousin was 'thinking' about selling her home and moving into a retirement community. Since she is thick-headed I tried my best to point out things to her that I thought she was overlooking. After a few days and several e-mails I didn't hear from her until this morning.
The big decision is - she is going to stay in her home. She used the excuse that she likes lots of sunlight and in the retirement community's units you don't get windows in every room! What I think is a big part of her decision is the fact I told her that the smallest unit is $167,000 and that she probably would not get that much for her home.
She really doesn't like to part with her money so I would bet the farm that's the reason - oh, she also said the place is too snooty for her!
I didn't tell her not to buy - or that would come back to bite me. I just gave her things to think about - that way she can't blame me either way. My mamma didn't raise no fool!
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@LadyDuck (457918)
• Switzerland
26 May 17
@AbbyGreenhill Poor woman, she surely has plenty of problems and I can understand why she thought to sell her house.
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@LadyDuck (457918)
• Switzerland
27 May 17
@AbbyGreenhill Parents should understand that they do not live forever and spoiling their children is the worst thing they can do.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
She had hip replacement surgery 8 or 9 months ago - while recuperating from that broke her leg...now they say she is walking funny due to a bad disk in her back which will require another surgery - which is one reason she was looking into the other type of living.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
I get blamed for enough don't need it from her! When she started talking about buying a new car it was three years ago and she just bought one a month ago...she is not usually fast acting!
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@BarBaraPrz (45476)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
26 May 17
"Too snooty"... I can understand that. Retirement communities tend to have structured activities for the residents and if you're not an overly convivial type, others might see you as being aloof and unfriendly.
And good for you to not give advice for or against it.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
My father lived in one - the same outfit, different state. There are so many residents that I don't think they have time to notice one who doesn't participate. My father was quiet at first and then he go a bunch of men friends and a few ladies who always ate together. He didn't participate in the activities - he preferred to be on his computer or go shopping - he loved to grocery shop!
@BarBaraPrz (45476)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
26 May 17
@AbbyGreenhill It's good that he could adapt. I myself am not much for communal living. That's one of the (minor) reasons I'm moving. I don't mind doing things with my friend but almost always we have to include her daughter and daughter's friend, who are grown women but seem to think it's my friend's responsibility to entertain them.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
@BarBaraPrz We moved 850 miles from family and 90 percent of the reason was to get away from them!
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
27 May 17
@AbbyGreenhill Definitely. The management of the retirement community surely wants to have a surplus after paying for the maintenance, salary of staff, and property tax.
They will say that they need to build up a sinking fund just in case they need to replace something.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
27 May 17
@scheng1 I don't know the thinking, or lack of, beyond this.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
Actually, the monthly expenses for her now are far cheaper - than the 2,000 in the retirement place each month.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
26 May 17
Wow.. that's really nice, I remember about the post..glad she took your advice
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
Thanks....I just pointed out the negatives and she actually paid attention.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
27 May 17
Her expenses monthly are cheaper in her home that's for sure.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
28 May 17
@RubyHawk Absolutely and it didn't take her three years!
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@RubyHawk (99425)
• Atlanta, Georgia
28 May 17
@AbbyGreenhill Then she probably made the best decision.
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@LeaPea2417 (36434)
• Toccoa, Georgia
26 May 17
Well that is great, she did listen to your wise words of advice.
@LeaPea2417 (36434)
• Toccoa, Georgia
26 May 17
@AbbyGreenhill That is very true.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
@LeaPea2417 This way she made up her own mind.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
I just used facts and you can't argue with facts LOL!
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@Marilynda1225 (79664)
• United States
26 May 17
Probably a hard decision to sell and move into a retirement community but at least you offered her some sound advice and things to think over.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
26 May 17
She is torn I'm sure - wanting something "new and maintenance free'" or having more freedom. At home she can eat dinner in our robe LOL!
