Would you invite a MyLot friend to stay at your house?

@TheHorse (205633)
Walnut Creek, California
May 27, 2017 3:23pm CST
I always look forward to checking in on MyLot, and I consider some of the people I know here to be real friends. But would I invite them to stay at my house if they were visiting my area? For the moment, I'll pretend I live in a bigger house, with a pasture and several guest bedrooms. @JudyEvans and her husband and Herc would be welcome here. So would many other of my MyLot friends (you know who you are). But what if a visit turned out to be a disaster? I actually dated someone I met on anther writing site (Epinions). She lived in Texas, and I lived in California. We visited each other a coupe of times each. She turned out to be a "psycho hose beast," and I terminated my last visit to Texas early, fearing for my safety. Are we who we seem to be? Would you invite a MyLot friend to stay with you if they were visiting your area?
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Gary Marsh
@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
27 May 17
I think you would have to book yourself into therapy after staying at our mad house. Sometimes it is just to manic with all the comings and goings!
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
Oh, I might enjoy it--for a day or two. Things can be pretty quiet here.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98804)
• India
9 Aug 17
That is so typical of Indian homes..lol
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Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
27 May 17
They are very welcome at my house.I had a few visit here.Not from my lot.But other I have met while blogging on greasy. Plus also visit them at their house.Yes I would.Your welcome if ever in my areal. I have a dinner guest tonight who plays guitar in a trio.Jazz is the words here.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
Whoa, I would love to sit in on bass and see if I could follow along. I have a gig this afternoon and will play Moonlight in Vermont (on bass) and some other jazz standards.
celticeagle
@celticeagle (158958)
• Boise, Idaho
27 May 17
It takes all kinds to make a world and even a Mylot world. Some are sane and some aren't. I have no place to have a friend over but if I did I might do that. Your Texas visit sound scary.
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celticeagle
@celticeagle (158958)
• Boise, Idaho
28 May 17
@TheHorse ......Fang or teeth?
The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
I am still here to write about it. But those two fang marks in my neck kind of scare me.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 May 17
I think we know for the most part about each other. I would allow anyone to come for a visit, even if it wasn't what I expected I would make the best of it to the best of my ability. =) Most true colors show through here whether people intend them to or not.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 May 17
@TheHorse Maybe she was better at hiding her true colors than most. Lol. Psychos are good at that I suppose.
The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
@CoralLevang I got lucky but it turned out to be unlucky. I do think that there were signs that I ignored.
The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
I couldn't tell (from writing) that my Epinions friend was a psycho hose beast.
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
27 May 17
I would invite a friend or two.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
People you've met here and didn't know before? How can you tell that someone isn't a psycho hose beast?
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
28 May 17
@TheHorse I don't. But I've talked to the person alot through here and bubblews. And another i talk ti through both and on social media and have exchanged gifts with. And i trust them both. Not anyone else really.
Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
27 May 17
Any of my Mylot friends who are visiting in my area are more the welcome to come stay at my place. I don't have a huge place but I can always make room.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
In real life, I have a couch. And an "artist" apartment (projects everywhere). In my fantasy world, I have a lovely LL Bean decorated guest bedroom for couples, and a small pasture for Herc or any other sheep, goat or horse someone might bring with them.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
@Happy2BeMe Heh. I live humbly, even though I really don't have to.
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Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
27 May 17
@TheHorse that would be awesome.
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Val
@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
28 May 17
I spent a day in Singapore six years ago with two young people I'd met on another writing site. It turned out to be a wonderful day and we felt as if we'd known each other for ages.
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Val
@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
28 May 17
@TheHorse the two of them were strangers too until we all met
The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
That's the ideal!
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AbbyGreenhill
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
28 May 17
Well, that's a hard question. A few maybe, but not with a family and kids in tow. Anyone else I'd point out the nearest motel.
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AbbyGreenhill
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
29 May 17
@TheHorse I have had friends from AC/Yahoo over for a cookout and one lady from IN stopped in to meet me on her way to FL. Another ac/yahoo person lives not too far and I write for her travel blog....I just wouldn't invite 'strangers' to stay in my home.
The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 May 17
It would depend on how much space I had. In reality, I don't have that much.
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M.-L.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
27 May 17
Why not meet on neutral ground first, in a café or restaurant? You can voice your invitation when you're sure that you like the person.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
If I were in Denmark, where would we meet for coffee?
M.-L.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
27 May 17
@TheHorse In Copenhagen, in a café at the waterfront from where one can see the statue of the Little Mermaid.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
@MALUSE Oh nice! What are my drinking options there?
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Siduri
@msiduri (5687)
• United States
27 May 17
YIKES! Sorry to hear that. I won't ask who it was (probably didn't know her anyway) but OUCH. I've met a few people I've known online. Always turned out positive, happy to say. Only social, though.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
I have one Epinions friend who is a speech pathologist. She's sane, and we've met for lunch a couple of times. I actually have an email out to her now about my expressive aphasic kid client.
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Siduri
@msiduri (5687)
• United States
28 May 17
@TheHorse I have friendships from an ancient history site I was on before Epinions. A bunch of us met years ago in New Orleans. Granted, that's sort of specialized.
paigea
@paigea (35678)
• Canada
28 May 17
I met my husband on line. But the first time we met in person, was in a public place and we didn't know where each other lived. I might follow that sort of procedure. On the other hand people who run a B&B have strangers in their home all the time!
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
Interesting point! But the roles and boundaries for people in B & Bs are pretty well-defined.
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paigea
@paigea (35678)
• Canada
28 May 17
@TheHorse Still, one has to extend that trust that both sides are respecting those boundaries.
NJ Chicaa
@NJChicaa (115972)
• United States
27 May 17
I would meet with someone but probably wouldn't have them to stay
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
That would be a good way to go. In my small place, that would be the most practical.
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lini b
@teenspirit (1597)
• Israel
28 May 17
depends how closer our friendship is...
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
That's a solid, common sense approach. But if we know someone only via the internet, do we really know them?
lini b
@teenspirit (1597)
• Israel
28 May 17
@TheHorse In my opinion no but i think that many people disagree with me but I am okay with that=)
Albena Ivanova
@WriterAI (5373)
• Bulgaria
28 May 17
Firstly, I will drink some cups of coffee with a mylotter who is in my area. Then I will decide whether he / she would stay in my house. I should be safe anyway.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 May 17
Exactly, as should we all. And there could also be people who would be "safe," but might drive you nuts after an hour or two.
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Albena Ivanova
@WriterAI (5373)
• Bulgaria
29 May 17
@TheHorse I see. Different peoples - different problems.
Nawsheen
@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
28 May 17
I will try to meet the person a couple of times before to know them better. There are many instances where couchsurfing have gone wrong
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Nawsheen
@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
29 May 17
@TheHorse well if you had other things to do at that time then it was for sure an inconvenience
The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 May 17
I had someone overstay her welcome here, on my couch. She wasn't a psycho hose beast or anything. But I felt I had to "entertain" here, and I was busy with work and music.
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Oshy
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
27 May 17
People would not want to stay with me lets just put it that way. I think psycho hose beast is putting it mildly to describe me and my tribe here.
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Oshy
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
27 May 17
@TheHorse Ah you see that is the bottom line isn't it? Space..without enough space, people go stone mad, as we are here.
The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 May 17
Heh. If I had enough space, I'd enjoy a wild tribe. There's be horses to groom and ride, fields to explore, etc.
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Rebecca Huston
@Telynor (1763)
• United States
28 May 17
I would like to meet them, but not invite them to my home. Such things should be entered carefully.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
There are some people I can just tell are "cool," though.
Larry Price
@sputnik8 (690)
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28 May 17
It is enough to say that real friend (one whom you see face to face) is diffrent from "virtual" friend online.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 May 17
I think so too, though are many people I've met here that I'd like to meet in real life.
JM12
@jnesperos (269)
• Davao, Philippines
28 May 17
It's okay for me to invite friends of mine at mylot but justmake sure to master the limitations
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
What do you see as the limitations?
NerdGirlUSA
@starflye78 (260)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 May 17
Most definately. I could write a book on the havoc the last 5 years in my house and 10 roomates (plus two that just moved in, the verdict is out)...
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The Horse
@TheHorse (205633)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 May 17
My thoughts and prayers...