Teaching my son to be a good person/but also hoping people teach their daughters the same

@sissy15 (5392)
United States
June 3, 2017 11:52pm CST
I have written about this before but it's still something I see all the time. I constantly see people posting memes about how I need to raise a son that needs to treat women right and how I need to teach him to be kind and polite and how to be the man of some woman's dreams, and while I do agree with that, I never see anyone write about how they need to teach their daughters to do the same. This isn't a one-way street. I will teach my son to be the man of some woman's dreams but it'd be nice if they teach their daughter to do the same. It's not ok to hit period. I don't care if it's a guy or a girl. I don't want some woman beating up on my son and if it came down to it I'd expect him to defend himself and not just sit and take it albeit I wouldn't want him to beat her but maybe knock her off of him but there's no way he should stand and take it and do nothing. I want someone that will treat my son as well as he treats her. I am raising a man who is respectful to everyone and it'd be great if everyone raised their kids that way. My mom and dad raised me to be respectful to everyone no matter whether they are a man or a woman. I don't hit, I respect people, I do my best to be kind. I am raising my son the same way. The issue comes down to people who don't believe in any form of discipline. If you expect kindness and respect then you also have to give those things. You can't just treat someone horribly and expect to be treated like a king or queen. I'm not just going to teach my son to be a good human being but I'm also going to teach him his worth so he doesn't waste his time on a woman who doesn't deserve it. I'm going to raise a man who treats people with respect but also one who knows when to walk away. I will raise him to treat others with kindness but also one who understands that you can be kind and not be walked over. He is going to have those values if I can help it, but I'm going to teach him to only be with someone who is willing to give those same things back. Hopefully, these lessons stick but it'd be a lot easier if other mothers taught their daughters the same things I'm teaching my son so he doesn't have to worry about it quite as much. Here's hoping my work isn't in vain.
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@prashu228 (25820)
• India
4 Jun 17
I agree with each an every point. Even I have so many questions in my mind when people say about a boy , their up bringing and so on. Then what about girls who do all the nasty things..even their upbringing should be good.. I have so many things in my mind , but can't or won't dare to say out, as people think otherwise...
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@sissy15 (5392)
• United States
4 Jun 17
I know some horrible women and I don't want my son to end up with one of them. It's difficult being a boy mom because we are constantly told how we need to raise good men but I rarely hear anyone say that about raising girls. I mean I know girls come with their own set of difficulties but I feel like we have all of these people telling us how we need to teach our sons to be but rarely hear anyone saying how they need to teach their daughters how to be good people, just that men need to show how their daughters what to find in a guy. I hate stereotypes as a whole. Girls and boys need to be good people and they both need to know what to look for in each other. A man shouldn't be looking for a woman who will take care of him but a woman who compliments him. They need to be partners and they both need to treat each other with love and respect. It's sad that we can't really speak our minds anymore without people getting offended. It's getting to the point where I care less and less what people think. I can respect a difference of opinion, the only thing that really annoys me is when people are rude and act as if their opinion is end all.
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@jstory07 (66168)
• Roseburg, Oregon
4 Jun 17
Parents should teach their sons and daughters both to respect everyone and teach everyone the same. Be it a man or women.
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@sissy15 (5392)
• United States
4 Jun 17
Agreed.
@Shavkat (60371)
• Philippines
4 Jun 17
I think parenting is the most difficult thing to carry out. If they accept the responsibility, then they will be able to mold their children to be a better person.
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@sissy15 (5392)
• United States
4 Jun 17
I agree I think being a parent is probably the most difficult thing I've ever done. All we can do is our best and hope that it sticks. I hope my son grows up remembering the things I've taught him.
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@Shavkat (60371)
• Philippines
5 Jun 17
@sissy15 I think you are good parent. He will remember everything you've taught to him.
@celticeagle (117837)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jun 17
I so agree with you. People don't seem to train their children to be good citizens. But it is up to your son to choose a good woman. So, as long as your son has a good basis to work from he would be able to find a good woman.