Being young. Ranting time. Bare with me guys.

June 7, 2017 10:29am CST
I get so annoyed because I'm young and that means people think I can't do anything. I live on my own with a stable job a car a phone and everything else a grown adult has but the adult decision to be get married to the person I have known for 6 years and dated for 2 and a half years is oh so wrong because I'm 20. That's insane! But no one understands. Give me your opinions. Am I crazy or is everyone else just stuck in an old mind set? Thanks :) XOXO
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11 responses
@Courtlynn (55260)
• United States
7 Jun 17
Its your life. If you want to get married, do it. Noones choice but yours. If they dont like it thats on them
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• United States
7 Jun 17
Probably the people who tell you are the ones that wish if they did it again, they would be single longer see many things before settling down .
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7 Jun 17
Very true but I don't want to see other things I know what I want out of my life and I want to spend my life with my family
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• United States
7 Jun 17
@Kaitykat goodluck, I hope it all works out for you.
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7 Jun 17
@CookieMonster46 thanks so much
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@Mike197602 (13927)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 17
Where are you from? Here you can be married at 16 with parental consent and after 18 you can do what you want. What are the age limits for marriage where you live?
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7 Jun 17
I'm from Maryland and I'm 20 so its legal regardless. Its not so much permission I'm wanting its just annoying for other people to stick there nose in stuff they think they understand but don't
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@Mike197602 (13927)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 17
@Kaitykat you live on your own, you are an adult...so you get to make your own decisions. That being said, as an adult making our own decisions we have to take ownership of said decisions if they turn out to be wrong. I'd say listen to advice from people you trust but ultimately any decision must be yours.
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@Tierkreisze (1358)
• Philippines
7 Jun 17
I'm not so sure, but since you already have a stable job and that you probably have thought this through, then you can perhaps go for it. But be sure that this decision doesn't hurt the rest of your future and career. For instance, can you afford the time and resources to actually raise a family if you plan to have kids early?
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7 Jun 17
I mean I'm not having kids yet but yea in the future I will be fine
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• Philippines
8 Jun 17
@Kaitykat Then that's good enough. You've known the guy for a long time after all so I'm sure he won't hurt you. Anyway, good luck on your marriage!
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• United States
7 Jun 17
Everyone else is just stuck in an old mindset. I don't understand why people think 20 is such a bad age to get married at. Heck back in my mom's, grandmother's, and great grandmother's day they couldn't marry them off fast enough at ages like 15 and 16. My mother got married at 16 just so she could get out of her parent's house because her parents told her that was the only way she could leave until she turned 18. Everyone has their own personal age at which they think is the right age for them to get married. You're an adult and if you want to get married then do it and if they don't like it then they don't have to come. They think just because you are 20 you haven't thought this through even though you probably have thought through it more than they did when they got married. I also hated it when they act like just because you're 20 you don't have any life experience doing anything. They think you can't possibly give good advice or know anything about being an adult. I am only 20 but I am not dumb and have been through a lot in my 20 years alive and I don't like being treated like I'm dumb.
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7 Jun 17
Thank you! Exactly where I am coming from!
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@zarlamain (24874)
• United States
7 Jun 17
I know, right? People immediately assume you can't do anything because you are young. Well, some people at least. I went through that when I was younger and I just ignored their unnecessary remarks. I say, go for it. Do whatever makes you happy. Good luck!
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@m_audrey6788 (16975)
• Philippines
7 Jun 17
When I was your age, my way of thinking was the same but now I realized that what adult is trying to tell you is before facing Married life better enjoy your youthful years because once you entered into married life, your life is for your family that sometimes you forget about yourself..Do not rush yourself..you have a lot of time..Wish you a nice day
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7 Jun 17
I know I have time and I am not rushing but I'm not a normal 20 year old who wants to party drink and smoke I would much rather spend my life with the one I love and the family we create. I want as much time as possible to create memories. I've been living on my own since high school and I was 17. I feel like I'm way past the whole oh be free since I matured way faster than others my age.
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• Philippines
8 Jun 17
@Kaitykat ..I got your point you matured early ..I can see you will be a great mother and wife..Wish you a nice day
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@diosabella (4809)
8 Jun 17
Maybe they are just concern that in the end it will end up in a disaster. But if you feel that you are ready, just sucked it up and do it. They can't do anything about it if you already did it.
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@Bronwyne (53)
• Nairobi, Kenya
8 Jun 17
I guess people have such an old mindset...keep it up girl
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7 Jun 17
I see what you are going through.
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@JAY020582 (410)
• Philippines
7 Jun 17
I think since your only 20, I guess they can see a lot of great opportunities that you may encounter in the near future. They want you not to rush things. Getting married comes with a big responsibilities. You are young and you deserve to enjoy! If they are not forcing you to leave your boyfriend. I don't see anything wrong with them. Sometimes you have to listen to others because they can see thing that you cannot see.
7 Jun 17
I guess so and I just think it is cuz they had bad experiences so they think ill have the same. Its really my boss and co workers but both our families are perfectly ok with us being married it just bothers me that the outside people are bringing down the excitement and telling me I'm a little kid which I clearly am no and I have been living on my own since I was 17 and still in high school. Thanks so much for commenting and giving your advice :) it means a lot