Would you forgive a cheating husband/wife?

June 8, 2017 6:18am CST
Would you be able to forgive and forget? Do you think things could ever be the same? I think I could forgive only if it was a short affair.
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@m_audrey6788 (17471)
• Philippines
8 Jun 17
NEVER IN MY LIFE I WILL FORGIVE A CHEATING HUSBAND because I can not Trust you anymore and I hate feeling paranoid everytime there will be someone with Flirting skills around
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8 Jun 17
But what if it happened just one time and there were no feelings involved?
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• Philippines
8 Jun 17
@roxanam4 ..I can not because before I married my husband I clearly told him that the number 1 I will never accept is finding him cheating...I told him that I will not demand anything that he can not give me..he can still enjoy with his friends with no problem with me staying at home alone as long as he knows his limits..he can still do all his hobbies even we are married and he will not hear from me..But Cheating can never be accepted..
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• Philippines
8 Jun 17
@thehousewife .Thanks
• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jun 17
if she cheated on me with a woman, I wont mind as long as we can share the other woman.....
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jun 17
@thehousewife Yup I said that with no shame...
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@pgntwo (22755)
• Tripoli, Lebanon
8 Jun 17
What no miaow? Or is that double miaow...?
@musicman6 (2371)
• United States
8 Jun 17
What's really interesting, I noticed, about this question is, although everyone that responded would not forgive their spouse for cheating, but everyone I know that this has happened to, has forgiven, their spouse ! I know very few people that have forgiven their spouse for cheating !
8 Jun 17
I think most women do forgive because they think that men can't helm themselves. When a woman cheats...very few men can forgive.
• United States
8 Jun 17
@roxanam4 I have been cheated on in the past I didn't forgive them and we didn't continue to date. The whole men can't control themselves is BS. If you can't control yourself then you just shouldn't go out in public or put yourself in situations that would get you in trouble, to begin with. You DON'T love someone if you can betray them like that or treat them like that. We need to stop with all these double standards and letting men get away with things by using the excuse "boys will be boys" and we should just "expect" this from them.
@prashu228 (25522)
• India
8 Jun 17
Cannot forgive a cheating husband, even if it's once and no feeling s involved..wife is not for take it for granted..
8 Jun 17
I am not sure what I would do and I hope I will never have to find out. The pain would be too much. My first instinct is to forgive.
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@prashu228 (25522)
• India
8 Jun 17
• United States
9 Jun 17
That's a tough question. I don't believe it will ever be the same.
@klynlyn (154)
9 Jun 17
Yea I'd forgive him, even forget about the whole thing but the moment I realized and got evidence he is doing it again he won't see me anymore.
@CRK109 (14403)
• United States
8 Jun 17
It would depend on the man. Some men cheat because they want to. Those men may not want forgiveness and in some cases they want to be caught so they can move on, but they are too cowardly to confess. Some men cheat because of something missing in their marriage, and don't really want to leave. In those cases, marriage counseling can be a real help to save the marriage. In most cases, sitting with the cheater and asking if they want to save the marriage and want to get help often brings out the truth. But you can't force someone to stay if they don't want to.
• United States
8 Jun 17
No. I couldn't be able to trust them after that. Even if I could forgive them things between us would never be the same and I would become that crazy girlfriend that has to know where they are and what they are doing 24/7. Then I get made out to be crazy but the only reason I am acting crazy is because they screwed me over and broke my trust. It hurts a lot to know that the person you love unconditionally and they are supposed to love you unconditionally as well had another connection either emotionally or physically with someone else.
@paigea (22654)
• Canada
8 Jun 17
I would not forgive a cheat.
@Tampa_girl7 (26830)
• United States
8 Jun 17
I hope that I never have this happen. We have been married 28 years in July.
@marlina (79738)
• Canada
8 Jun 17
Would not forgive a cheating husband.