Am I rude?

@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
June 10, 2017 1:56pm CST
I asked this because I started ignoring a friend of mine. And this is what happened. She knows I'm working home based, so she asked me to send her links and website for home based companies, and I send her all I know. So I thought she can manage to look for what is the best for her. But I was wrong, she started asking me things which are understandable for her like filling up some applications and all. I thought she's really into this kind of thing. Then I referred her to one of my friends for a 4 hours work, and she missed it because she was outside. I tried to help her at least get a job but looks like she doesn't have the mind to understand it and looks like she's not serious about it, so I started ignoring her messages and make excuses. Am I rude? What should I do then?
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11 responses
Oshy
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
10 Jun 17
No I do not feel you are rude. She made a request to you, you fulfilled it, and she wasted it.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 17
I see, I mean I've done what I could and she wasted it. Thanks.
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Oshy
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
10 Jun 17
@JustBhem It is just my thought on it Bhem.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 17
@TiarasOceanView And thanks for sharing Tiara.
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Nawsheen
@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
10 Jun 17
In fact you are not rude. You did what you could but she didn't want to get hold of that opportunity.
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Nawsheen
@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
11 Jun 17
@JustBhem it is so annoying. I feel that she doesn't want to make any efforts and she takes you for granted
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prashu
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
10 Jun 17
True..
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 17
That what's I'm thinking. Like I already spoon feed that information I know for her and still, she always ask a question.
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simplyme
@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
10 Jun 17
I agree with OceanTiara @TiarasOceanView...I suggest that you tell her that any good job requires a professional personality and must love to do it with her whole interest otherwise she must not expect a good opportunity
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Oshy
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
10 Jun 17
Thanks simply. It is not fair to do that to the friend that helps you either.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 17
Thanks for sharing, yes I agree with you. I've done what I could to make her comfortable in applying for a home-based job. But she took it for granted.
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simplyme
@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
11 Jun 17
@JustBhem..Is your friend aware that you are going to refer her to a job and that she must be available anytime?
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prashu
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
10 Jun 17
Not at all. If she is not interested, she should not waste your time. She would have attended your friend where you referred her.
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prashu
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
11 Jun 17
@JustBhem not a problem, such people should be avoided
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 17
And sometimes it annoys me, that is why I make excuses.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (137201)
• Philippines
11 Jun 17
I think you did your part. It is better to ignore her for now
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (137201)
• Philippines
11 Jun 17
@JustBhem I think it is fine. She will understand it.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 17
Yes, I ignore her and told her that I am busy at the moment which I am.
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
10 Jun 17
Maybe slightly.. Just tell her how you feel
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
10 Jun 17
@JustBhem you're offending her /being rude by not answering her.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 17
@Courtlynn Well, at least she should know how to work for herself. I already gave her everything I know and how to handle interviews and all.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 17
I see, but I don't want to offend her.
youless
@youless (112103)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Jun 17
I think you are just impatient and I will be the same. In fact some people just want to make money without efforts. They don't understand that money will not come easy. I will be lazy to explain it because as you said, she could find all the information from the websites. She just doesn't want to spend time to know them.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 17
Exactly, she's impatient and lazy. She wants me to do everything but I already did everything to help her. I am just tired to explaining things to her because she kept asking the same thing.
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Judy Story
@jstory07 (134393)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Jun 17
No you tried to help her nd she wanted everything handed to her with doing any work.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 17
That's what I feel. She even asked me what to put on the Subject for her email application.
Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
10 Jun 17
all depend on your definition of rude?No you were not
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 17
Thanks. I am just trying to help her to stand on her own.
solxee
@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
11 Jun 17
If she isn't that dense, she'll figure out why you're not replying.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 17
I think she's not but she's lazy. Well, I told her that I'm busy at the moment.
ingrid
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
12 Jun 17
no, hija, in my opinion, you are not rude. i think it is she, because he wants to be spoon-fed by you.