SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.
June 15, 2017 12:14pm CST
Why is it that people immediately assume that the man in the company of a woman is either a boyfriend, husband or lover - when that person could very well be a brother, uncle, cousin etc.? Why is it that someone who is not easy on the eyes, is more likely to be suspected of criminal intent than someone with an angelic face? And finally - Why do people immediately think that the slightly overweight woman who doesn't hide her paunch - is pregnant.? What you see is not always what it is. Do you immediately form an opinion from a first impression ? and has anyone ever formed a wrong first opinion of you?
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• United States
You remind me of a hilarious incident years ago when my son had graduated from high school and was involved with his first real love. He called me one morning from a pharmacy and told me I needed to meet him there right away. I drove to the pharmacy and asked what was wrong and he said that the night before something went wrong with their method and he needed to buy a morning after pill. I had to go and sign for it because they needed someone over 21 to sign for it. The pharmacist sold my son the remedy and told us good luck and he hoped that our family planning went well in the future. He thought I was my son's girlfriend! I looked a lot younger than I do now, of course, that was 11 years ago. So yes, someone assumed that the man I was with was someone I was physically involved with. My son thought it was so funny later but of course then he was not laughing because of the situation.
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• United States
I saw a young friend of mine in a cafe once with a much older man. I assumed it was her father. It was her husband. Thankfully, I never said anything to her about what I'd originally thought. When my late husband and I were first dating, we'd gone into a restaurant. The waitress thought he was my son. We did have an age difference. Her words bothered me until he took my hand, kissed it and said, "She's definitely NOT my mother!" The waitress practically ran away and I never worried about people assuming again. And I've stopped pre-judging any people I see together! lol
I think curiosity is just part of our makeup. I do form first impressions sometimes, out of that curiosity. I don't mean any offense by it, and yes, I do form opinions about certain things or people. Maybe it's just human nature but people have opinions. You see opinionated discussions, in politics, from cable news contributors, on radio talk shows and so on. We are a curious and opinionated species
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
Good questions. I once thought a woman was pregnant who wasn't. She wasn't overweight, but she hadn't done anything since the birth of her child to do anything about that paunch. Her child was two. So not a recent birth either. People have approached me about different thoughts, some were flattering, some not.
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
I learned from a nun who brings Communion to me at home once a month says we are not to judge anybody on anything. Since I always wanted to be a nun, I am going to go with her assertions that it is not our job on earth to do. We are just supposed to get along and love each other. That is our job!
Oh yes, a lot of times when I hear them saying that I am after all kind not snob, when they get to speak with me. Though, I am also guilty of thinking a woman with a big tummy as pregnant. SO much so that one time, when I was still a new one in an affiliate I was assigned to by my boss, I asked the accountant how many months pregnant is she. Only to be answered so nicely that she isn't pregnant, but that her tummy is big.
• United States
That really is something to think about. I have friends who are the opposite gender and whenever we hang out, some people naturally assume we are in a relationship. Sometimes, we point out that we are just friends. Other times, we don't even bother because we are busy.
I think it's because some people have too much time on their hands. In Cyprus we call them "athkiaseri" lol. It's like when I go out in public with my hijab (Islamic scarf) and people seem like they already formed their opinion about me. Fortunately for me, I am too busy to judge others by appearances.
• United States
My son and I worked at a place, he started before I did, he worked night, I worked days. He would stop by and see every morning before he left. A woman asked, a friend if he was my boyfriend. My friend said, no that's her baby, because he is my youngest son. Lol