SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.

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@Kandae11 (53601)
June 15, 2017 12:14pm CST
Why is it that people immediately assume that the man in the company of a woman is either a boyfriend, husband or lover - when that person could very well be a brother, uncle, cousin etc.? Why is it that someone who is not easy on the eyes, is more likely to be suspected of criminal intent than someone with an angelic face? And finally - Why do people immediately think that the slightly overweight woman who doesn't hide her paunch - is pregnant.? What you see is not always what it is. Do you immediately form an opinion from a first impression ? and has anyone ever formed a wrong first opinion of you?
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
15 Jun 17
You remind me of a hilarious incident years ago when my son had graduated from high school and was involved with his first real love. He called me one morning from a pharmacy and told me I needed to meet him there right away. I drove to the pharmacy and asked what was wrong and he said that the night before something went wrong with their method and he needed to buy a morning after pill. I had to go and sign for it because they needed someone over 21 to sign for it. The pharmacist sold my son the remedy and told us good luck and he hoped that our family planning went well in the future. He thought I was my son's girlfriend! I looked a lot younger than I do now, of course, that was 11 years ago. So yes, someone assumed that the man I was with was someone I was physically involved with. My son thought it was so funny later but of course then he was not laughing because of the situation.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
15 Jun 17
I have found myself in that situation too - and it was very funny at the time.
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• United States
15 Jun 17
Not really no one assumes about me, as I am a chameleon. I do not assume anything about anyone, as when I saw the darker side of life, it made me attune that it may be possible that appearances deceive us.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
15 Jun 17
It is good to be a chameleon sometimes.
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• United States
15 Jun 17
@Kandae11 Yes it is my nature. I blend in for protection.
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@andriaperry (116876)
• Anniston, Alabama
15 Jun 17
@TiarasOceanView I had to do that a long time ago, from a gang because I took a member to court.
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@MALUSE (69428)
• Germany
15 Jun 17
How would I know what people thought / think of me?
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@MALUSE (69428)
• Germany
15 Jun 17
@Kandae11 Only if you ask. I don't see myself asking old friends who I've known for decades what they thought of me when we first met. Why should I?
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@andriaperry (116876)
• Anniston, Alabama
15 Jun 17
Some come out and ask, others overhear a conversation, others gossip.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
15 Jun 17
If it is someone I am in contact with, I will know sooner or later.
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
15 Jun 17
Most people are too quick to judge. I love people watching, and form silent opinions. I'm sure I have been judged. That's life!
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@Kandae11 (53601)
15 Jun 17
You are so right. We sometimes judge and we too get judged - that's life.
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
15 Jun 17
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@CRK109 (14558)
• United States
16 Jun 17
I saw a young friend of mine in a cafe once with a much older man. I assumed it was her father. It was her husband. Thankfully, I never said anything to her about what I'd originally thought. When my late husband and I were first dating, we'd gone into a restaurant. The waitress thought he was my son. We did have an age difference. Her words bothered me until he took my hand, kissed it and said, "She's definitely NOT my mother!" The waitress practically ran away and I never worried about people assuming again. And I've stopped pre-judging any people I see together! lol
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@CRK109 (14558)
• United States
16 Jun 17
@Kandae11 I agree on the waitress, although I learned how much the whole age difference thing didn't bother my husband one bit. And that was wonderful to learn, especially under those circumstances.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
The way I see it - the best way to approach doubtful situations is to wait for a hint which may give you an idea of the true situation - that waitress should have done that before jumping to conclusions.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
@CRK109 I agree. He handled it magnificently.
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• United States
15 Jun 17
The world is made up of couples. I always assume it's a husband, boyfriend. I think we are wired that way! As for me...I'm sure people have formed a wrong opinion at times. None that I know about though,
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• United States
15 Jun 17
@Kandae11 It's probably out of our control, sometimes though it might be a better opinion than is deserved! It's still a wrong opinion but not quite so bad. Look on the bright side!
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@Kandae11 (53601)
15 Jun 17
It seems we are wired that way. It may sound silly but even if that person is a stranger I won't want them to form the wrong opinion about me.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
15 Jun 17
@Jeanniemaries Exactly - that is another way of viewing it.
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@snowy22315 (168401)
• United States
16 Jun 17
I try not to judge, but I think we all do that to an extent. It seems to be part of human nature.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Yes, it is. Not much can be done about it.
@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Yes, it is. Not much can be done about it.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
16 Jun 17
Oh yes, a lot of times when I hear them saying that I am after all kind not snob, when they get to speak with me. Though, I am also guilty of thinking a woman with a big tummy as pregnant. SO much so that one time, when I was still a new one in an affiliate I was assigned to by my boss, I asked the accountant how many months pregnant is she. Only to be answered so nicely that she isn't pregnant, but that her tummy is big.
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@Kandae11 True!
@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
That is why women with that extra weight there are forced to wear body shapers, corsets, etc to avoid being asked that question. Lucky men, they can let it all hang out.
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@amadeo (111956)
• United States
15 Jun 17
I am sure they have.But at my age I do not care what opinion they think of me. cannot make everyone happy.My family first.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
15 Jun 17
Well said.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48855)
• United States
16 Jun 17
I'm really not sure what people assume about me .
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@Tampa_girl7 (48855)
• United States
16 Jun 17
@Kandae11 hopefully so
@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Who knows ? the assumptions could be very good.
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Jun 17
Good questions. I once thought a woman was pregnant who wasn't. She wasn't overweight, but she hadn't done anything since the birth of her child to do anything about that paunch. Her child was two. So not a recent birth either. People have approached me about different thoughts, some were flattering, some not.
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Jun 17
@Kandae11 No we can't.
@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Yes indeed, women who are not overweight but carry that extra in the middle would definitely give that impression.We can't really control what people think anyway.
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@RubyHawk (99437)
• Atlanta, Georgia
16 Jun 17
I don't know, never thought about it. But now that you mention it I think that first impression can be accurate. What do you think?
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@RubyHawk (99437)
• Atlanta, Georgia
17 Jun 17
@Kandae11 I might be decieving myself but my first impressions are usually right.I don't know about others opinions of me.
@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Not quite. Too many wolves in sheep's clothing around.
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@diosabella (4789)
16 Jun 17
This happens alot when my nephew is with me. A lot of people think that he is my bf. And we just LOL to all of them.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
17 Jun 17
@diosabella You obviously look much younger than your age.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Human nature - boyfriend, girlfriend - the first thing that comes to mind.
17 Jun 17
@Kandae11 Its ridiculously funny because I'm 18 yrs older than he is. But any ways at his teens now and yes he towers over me now unlike last year.
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@dgobucks226 (34196)
16 Jun 17
I think curiosity is just part of our makeup. I do form first impressions sometimes, out of that curiosity. I don't mean any offense by it, and yes, I do form opinions about certain things or people. Maybe it's just human nature but people have opinions. You see opinionated discussions, in politics, from cable news contributors, on radio talk shows and so on. We are a curious and opinionated species
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
You are so right. However, remember that saying - "curiosity killed the cat"? I don't think it actually means murder, but uncomfortable situations could arise from too much curiosity.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
17 Jun 17
@dgobucks226 You have a good one too.
@dgobucks226 (34196)
16 Jun 17
@Kandae11 Very good point Enjoy your weekend
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@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
16 Jun 17
Many times they have, and it can be annoying. I have had people suspect and even ask if I am pregnant, even now in my 50s. Then sometimes they assume I am Lazy because I do not work for someone else due to all my Health issues, when in reality even though I am not rich, I do have ways to make $$, and then some just seem to just come to conclusions for other reasons just because I may not be the average person when it comes to selling stuff, as I don't want to be tied in with a company that controls you and enjoy my Freedom, so in turn I do not know what I am doing, and may intimidate those who are in the MLM's etc
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
People can be so nosy and out of order . The fact that they have to ask means that they are not sure - and if unsure, then wait until they are told. You would tell them if you wanted them to know.
@popciclecold (35025)
• United States
17 Jun 17
My son and I worked at a place, he started before I did, he worked night, I worked days. He would stop by and see every morning before he left. A woman asked, a friend if he was my boyfriend. My friend said, no that's her baby, because he is my youngest son. Lol
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@Kandae11 (53601)
17 Jun 17
That's exactly my point. Why couldn't she think of asking first if he was a family member?.
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• United States
16 Jun 17
I never judge a book by it's cover (so to speak). it's just too easy to assume the wrong thing about a person.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Appearances can be very misleading.
• Eugene, Oregon
16 Jun 17
I am as guilty as anyone in making quick judgments based on first impression.
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
Yes indeed, quick judgments are the norm.
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@thelme55 (76342)
• Germany
15 Jun 17
Some people have no other things to do except assuming what they have seen and thought. I always have my own opinion but I donĀ“t tell anybody because my impression might be wrong.
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@thelme55 (76342)
• Germany
18 Jun 17
@Kandae11 yes,indeed. Enjoy your Sunday.
@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
That is the best way, - when in doubt it is best not to say anything.
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• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Jun 17
I can judge a person's character within the first 5 minutes of meeting them. Maybe it's the eyes, maybe it's just that "sense", or maybe it's just small town life. I'm very rarely wrong, and sometimes my " I told you so" is just too heartbreaking. Today will be one of those days....
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@Kandae11 (53601)
16 Jun 17
You would make a good detective.
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