Missing Your Mother

Canada
June 18, 2017 6:58am CST
A friend of mine recently lost her mother. Her mother was in her 90's. It doesn't matter how old our parents are. When they leave us it is first a shock and for most of us a sad time of grieving the loss of loved ones who brought us into this world, raised us, and loved us all of our lives. While talking to her I was reminded of some events that happened to me when my Mother died. My mother had Parkinson's Disease, diagnosed in her early 60's so she retired from teaching and lived at home with dad with us kids visiting as often as we could and Dad and Mom visiting us when ever they could too. She was wheel chair bound and could not talk anymore by the time she died. The phone rang early in the morning and I ran to answer it. It was my brother saying our mother died in her sleep. She was just in her 70's. I got back in bed with my husband and cried on his shoulder. When my teen age daughter got up I was in the kitchen and she asked me “what were you looking for on my dresser during the night and why did you tuck me in and kiss my forehead as you left the room?” I was “gob smacked”, it was hard to talk and I told her it wasn't me. “Oh Mom, who else would do that?” and I then told her grandma died during the night... Her eyes got big and she asked..it was grandma? There were hugs and tears as we grieved our loss... And yes, my mother had visited my daughter (her oldest grand), the dresser was hers before it came to our house and she always tucked kids in bed and kissed them on their forehead. Darn I was mad I missed her... but delighted that she did stop on her way to wherever souls go after death. For the next six months I had dreams of my mother, not every night, just once in a while. But she would always TALK to me in those dreams, (she couldn't talk before she died) not serious stuff, chit chat and the one I really remember because I got up and wrote it down was the Lotto numbers she told me to buy a ticket with... Who knew she even new about Lotto. I bought the ticket and she gave me other numbers at other times but no big wins... And then she stopped visiting in my dreams, I haven't heard from her in years. I'm guessing her soul is in another body and she is living another life. I hope it's beautiful! She was a great Mom and I still miss her but glad to think she is on another journey. gob·smacked 'gäb?smakt/ adjective British informal adjective: gobsmacked; adjective: gob-smacked 1. utterly astonished; astounded. The photo is one of my mother and my daughter years before Parkinson's took her away. Anyone else here on myLot experience something like this?
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@sueznewz2 (9384)
• Alicante, Spain
19 Jun
that's a beautiful story / experience ... I lost my mum, but never had anything like that happen ... I think it would have been nice ... but ... without getting all religeous... I believe in heaven, so I believe we will see each other again ... eventually...
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@sueznewz2 (9384)
• Alicante, Spain
19 Jun
@PainsOnSlate I like that vision of your dad greeting the newcomers ..
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@Ganma7 (2001)
5 Dec
What a beautiful picture and story. I loved reading it although my eyes were full of tears. Your mom visiting your daughter and tucking her in was absolutely beautiful
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• Canada
7 Dec
I was joyful knowing she had come by to say good by.
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@Ganma7 (2001)
8 Dec
@PainsOnSlate I am happy she did too!
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@bluesa (12770)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
19 Jun
@PainsOnSlate , I just got goosebumps! Yes, on the night one of my Uncles passed away, something also happened, we believed he let us know he was around, before moving on. It is good your Mom was in a place she could finally talk again and that she shared this with you in your dreams.
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• Canada
20 Jun
She moved on and I miss her but happy to think she is on a new journey.
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@bluesa (12770)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
20 Jun
@PainsOnSlate I can only imagine how much you miss her. But yes she could be on a fabulous new journey.
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@rebelann (32265)
• El Paso, Texas
18 Jun
I'm so sorry your mom had parkinson's. I haven't had many dreams lately, or at least none I can remember, and I haven't experienced anything like what your daughter did. She was lucky.
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• Canada
2 Jul
I agree, she was lucky to have witnessed it and if she hadn't I would have never known either. It was a positive thing.
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@rebelann (32265)
• El Paso, Texas
2 Jul
Yes, a very positive thing @PainsOnSlate I wish I had experienced something like that
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@MGjhaud (20804)
• Philippines
18 Jun
My condolences to your friend. My parent's are still alive. The thought of not having them in my life terrifies me.
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• Canada
19 Jun
Hopefully they will live a long and happy life.
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@MGjhaud (20804)
• Philippines
19 Jun
I do pray for it.
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@just4him (91769)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Jun
I'm sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a wonderful mother.
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@DianneN (59329)
• United States
19 Jun
What a lovely photo and such a very touching and beautiful story. I have been visited by my mom many times, and have had a few wonderful dreams about both my parents. It was so nice seeing and speaking to them in my dreams. It was as if they never left.
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• Canada
19 Jun
I agree, it certainly touched my heart.
@LadyDuck (121670)
• Switzerland
18 Jun
I know how much we miss our parents when they are gone. This is a beautiful story. I still have my Mom, she is 96, but I lost my father when he was only 58. He visited me many times.
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@BettyB (4288)
• Summerville, South Carolina
18 Jun
A very sad but sweet story. I don't know of anyone that has had a visitation like that. I would have been 'gob-smacked' if it had happened to me.
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@Juliaacv (23160)
• Canada
18 Jun
Your daughter must have held a very special place in your mother's heart for her to get such a special visit. Our son, the eldest grandchild, had a similar experience the morning my Dad passed away. A lasting keepsake worth more then gold to him.
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• Canada
2 Jul
I agreee, my daughter was her first grand and they were very close. Your son was lucky to have that memory.
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@Nawsheen (22862)
• Mauritius
18 Jun
I have tears in my eyes right now after reading this. I am sorry for your loss. You are right no matter how old we are we will always need our parents. And when they leave us it just hurts
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• Canada
2 Jul
Thank you for your kind words, It does hurt, but then the memories take over.
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