2 am anxiety attack
By Laurel (L_B)
June 18, 2017 7:57am CST
I left my windows opened when I went to bed because the rain had let up and it was quite warm. It was after 1 am when I got into bed. I had problems falling asleep so I read for a bit. I shut off the light and was just falling asleep when I heard all this screaming and yelling. The neighbours were fighting. At night the noise carries so I could hear everything. She was crying and he was yelling at her and calling her some terrible names. It got louder and louder and he was so enraged it was scary. I could feel an anxiety attack coming on. I lived that life and it brought back a whole lot of memories. They are a young couple and the young woman is pregnant. They just recently got a dog and the dog was barking and growling the whole time the man was yelling obscenities at this woman. After about a half hour things calmed down but I couldn't. It took me about two hours to calm down and finally be able to sleep. I still feel a bit off this morning. I feel so sorry for that woman to be living like that. It wont get better it will only get worse and soon there will a baby. Today I will see them and they will be carrying on like nothing happened. All happy and in love. I have heard them before but last night was the worse. I lost a friend through domestic violence. She was killed by her husband. I was thinking about her last night when I was falling sleep. That could be why the argument last night sent me into an anxiety attack.
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• United States
My husband and I used to fight like that back 10 years ago.. our fights always got heated and usually over stupid things. He has never laid a hand on me, but he was an insensitive jerk quite a few times. We grew up and got over it, we don't fight like that anymore. So it can get better... you never know.
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• United States
@Happy2BeMe It wasn't just him, it was both of us. To be honest I was probably worse as far as the things I said.. He just wanted to avoid me which made me madder. He hasn't changed much, he still tries to avoid me when I'm mad, but I've learned how to calmly tell him that he needs to talk to me to make things better.
• Marion, Kansas
I lost a neighbor that way. An older lady, fifty something, and her husband. They both drank, she was depressed, he was violent and crazy. We offered to help her, she felt trapped and said no. Then she was killed. I had let them baby sit for me from time to time. I kept wondering if I should have done more, but she would not leave him, she could not, I wondered if things would have been different if I had butted in and called the police. Is calling the police an option you would take? Oh, and I am sorry your sleep was so destroyed and that you had to live like that. My sister did, and I made sure I never had a relationship with a man like that, because I grew up seeing it.
Sorry about your neighbor. That is terrible but sadly it happens quite often. Nothing you done would have changed things. She was probably scared to be with him but scared to leave him too. I thought about calling the police that night but things calmed down and I heard another neighbor taking to the guy outside. I think he was trying to calm him down.
• Anniston, Alabama
The drunks across the st. of the old home place would wake me fighting, same thing next day they were in love. I agree being beat up by a man is not fun and its terrifying. I am glad I moved and I do not have to listen tot that anymore.
• Lakewood, Colorado
Yes luckily that has only happened in this apartment complex once since I have lived here. The neighbor next door..she was getting beaten up by a boyfriend and cops were called. It upset me so much I was in it for days. I too suffered at the hands of that. It never leaves you. I am sorry you had that attack and I hope that woman will one day get away your neighbor..yes it does not get better only worse.
• Onaway, Michigan
Sorry you had to hear that and put you into a anxiety attack. I hope this woman gets smart and leaves him before he hurts her and their unborn baby. Not to be mean but I don't wish anyone to get hurt but I wish the dog would have bit him but then it could have made it worse and he could harm the dog.
• Summerville, South Carolina
It is unfortunate that there are circumstances like that. No, it won't get better. My mother was in that boat. It took ten years for her to pluck up the courage to leave. She headed cross country in the middle of the night with seven little kids in tow.
• United States
My neighbors were like that alot when they would drink (so almost every weekend, and few weekdays). Its definitely scary. Especially when someones drunk. I hope she can leave him before the baby is born. And I'm so sorry you had an anxiety attack and bad flashbacks.
• United States
It has to be extra hard for you to listen to that and know the road ahead for that young woman. Domestic violence and abuse is horrible and I'm sorry you not only had to live that life but it still gives you anxiety (or PTSD). You're one of the lucky ones to have gotten out. I sincerely hope nothing happens to that young woman or the baby.