2 am anxiety attack

@Happy2BeMe (61973)
Canada
June 18, 2017 7:57am CST
I left my windows opened when I went to bed because the rain had let up and it was quite warm. It was after 1 am when I got into bed. I had problems falling asleep so I read for a bit. I shut off the light and was just falling asleep when I heard all this screaming and yelling. The neighbours were fighting. At night the noise carries so I could hear everything. She was crying and he was yelling at her and calling her some terrible names. It got louder and louder and he was so enraged it was scary. I could feel an anxiety attack coming on. I lived that life and it brought back a whole lot of memories. They are a young couple and the young woman is pregnant. They just recently got a dog and the dog was barking and growling the whole time the man was yelling obscenities at this woman. After about a half hour things calmed down but I couldn't. It took me about two hours to calm down and finally be able to sleep. I still feel a bit off this morning. I feel so sorry for that woman to be living like that. It wont get better it will only get worse and soon there will a baby. Today I will see them and they will be carrying on like nothing happened. All happy and in love. I have heard them before but last night was the worse. I lost a friend through domestic violence. She was killed by her husband. I was thinking about her last night when I was falling sleep. That could be why the argument last night sent me into an anxiety attack.
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@katsmeow1213 (28707)
• United States
18 Jun
My husband and I used to fight like that back 10 years ago.. our fights always got heated and usually over stupid things. He has never laid a hand on me, but he was an insensitive jerk quite a few times. We grew up and got over it, we don't fight like that anymore. So it can get better... you never know.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I am glad that your husband changed. That doesn't happen often.
• United States
19 Jun
@Happy2BeMe It wasn't just him, it was both of us. To be honest I was probably worse as far as the things I said.. He just wanted to avoid me which made me madder. He hasn't changed much, he still tries to avoid me when I'm mad, but I've learned how to calmly tell him that he needs to talk to me to make things better.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
21 Jun
@katsmeow1213 that is good. Sometimes you just have to work through things and be persistent. Everybody has arguments.
@dodo19 (27119)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Jun
That is definitely not a pleasant situation. I can definitely understand why it brought back bad memories for you and raised some anxiety. It's sad that these things do still happen.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
Yes it is. Nobody should have to live that way. Yes people argue but the things he was saying to her and the names he was calling her was disgusting and abusive.
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@dodo19 (27119)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Jun
@Happy2BeMe Arguing and disagreeing is one thing. But some people go way too far and that's not right. Abuse is SO wrong.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
21 Jun
@dodo19 yes it is and it will keep getting worse
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@LadyDuck (112851)
• Switzerland
18 Jun
This is horrible, do you think it would be the case to alert someone?
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I don't think so but I will definitely be watching that things don't progress
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@LadyDuck (112851)
• Switzerland
19 Jun
@Happy2BeMe Keep an eye on that poor pregnant woman.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
21 Jun
@LadyDuck she left Sunday morning and my fiance said she has not been back since
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@GardenGerty (88740)
• Marion, Kansas
19 Jun
I lost a neighbor that way. An older lady, fifty something, and her husband. They both drank, she was depressed, he was violent and crazy. We offered to help her, she felt trapped and said no. Then she was killed. I had let them baby sit for me from time to time. I kept wondering if I should have done more, but she would not leave him, she could not, I wondered if things would have been different if I had butted in and called the police. Is calling the police an option you would take? Oh, and I am sorry your sleep was so destroyed and that you had to live like that. My sister did, and I made sure I never had a relationship with a man like that, because I grew up seeing it.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
21 Jun
Sorry about your neighbor. That is terrible but sadly it happens quite often. Nothing you done would have changed things. She was probably scared to be with him but scared to leave him too. I thought about calling the police that night but things calmed down and I heard another neighbor taking to the guy outside. I think he was trying to calm him down.
@andriaperry (27993)
• Anniston, Alabama
18 Jun
The drunks across the st. of the old home place would wake me fighting, same thing next day they were in love. I agree being beat up by a man is not fun and its terrifying. I am glad I moved and I do not have to listen tot that anymore.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
It is a terrible way to live.
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@Kandae11 (23386)
18 Jun
Imagine him carrying on like that and she is pregnant.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
It is just terrible.
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@DianneN (54557)
• United States
18 Jun
How horrendous, especially with her being pregnant now. I can see why you had an anxiety attack! If it escalates, I'd report him before it gets worse for her.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I thought of that last night but then things got quiet. I will if things continue. I do feel bad for her. He is such an idiot.
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@DianneN (54557)
• United States
18 Jun
@Happy2BeMe No man should ever treat a woman that way. It's disgusting and just plain wrong.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
@DianneN I agree and it seems to go on a lot these days.
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@rebelann (29220)
• El Paso, Texas
18 Jun
I hate when people are violent to their partners, its unnecessary when all you have to do is walk out to cool off. Too bad the police can't do anything if the spouse won't press charges.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
Here the police can press charges if they witness the abuse or have proof even if the spouse doesn't want to press charges.
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@rebelann (29220)
• El Paso, Texas
18 Jun
That's fantastic @Happy2BeMe I wish it were like that here. I'm so sick of domestic violence
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
@rebelann me too and it seems worse now then ever
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• Lakewood, Colorado
18 Jun
Yes luckily that has only happened in this apartment complex once since I have lived here. The neighbor next door..she was getting beaten up by a boyfriend and cops were called. It upset me so much I was in it for days. I too suffered at the hands of that. It never leaves you. I am sorry you had that attack and I hope that woman will one day get away your neighbor..yes it does not get better only worse.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I hope she realizes soon that she deserves a better life and so does her unborn child.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
18 Jun
@Happy2BeMe Yes that is the main issue the child is in danger too..
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
@TiarasOceanView yes that bothers me.
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@NJChicaa (26003)
• United States
18 Jun
what a horrible night for everyone.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
Yes it was.
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@Tina30219 (24538)
• Onaway, Michigan
18 Jun
Sorry you had to hear that and put you into a anxiety attack. I hope this woman gets smart and leaves him before he hurts her and their unborn baby. Not to be mean but I don't wish anyone to get hurt but I wish the dog would have bit him but then it could have made it worse and he could harm the dog.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
21 Jun
Yes me too but like you said he may have harmed the dog. He is just not a good person.
@Tina30219 (24538)
• Onaway, Michigan
22 Jun
@Happy2BeMe No he is not at all. I wish her the best in whatever she does
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
23 Jun
@Tina30219 yes me too
@moffittjc (32670)
• Gainesville, Florida
18 Jun
What a great future role model that loser guy is for his baby {thick sarcasm}. I hope she either wises up, or else he gets help on how to handle his anger issues.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
21 Jun
She left on Sunday morning and has not been back since so I hope she got away from him.
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@moffittjc (32670)
• Gainesville, Florida
22 Jun
@Happy2BeMe Let's hope she uses good common sense and realizes it was not a good situation for her. How are you feeling?
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
23 Jun
@moffittjc oh not too bad. The waiting is the hardest. Had a bad day emotionally today.
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@BettyB (4292)
• Summerville, South Carolina
18 Jun
It is unfortunate that there are circumstances like that. No, it won't get better. My mother was in that boat. It took ten years for her to pluck up the courage to leave. She headed cross country in the middle of the night with seven little kids in tow.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
It must have been tough for you mom but good for her to have been that brave.
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@BettyB (4292)
• Summerville, South Carolina
19 Jun
@Happy2BeMe She was fortunate. My grandparents took us in. We grew up in rural Minnesota. We grew up poor but we didn't have to worry about getting a fist in the face.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
21 Jun
@BettyB yes better to be poor then living in fear
@mandala100 (24087)
• Hong Kong
18 Jun
Domestic violence is not a acceptable behavior in any society. In some country domestic violence is already considered a crime.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
Yes and so it should be. This should not be allowed to happen.
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@mandala100 (24087)
• Hong Kong
18 Jun
@Happy2BeMe You are right on this.
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@Courtlynn (42038)
• United States
18 Jun
My neighbors were like that alot when they would drink (so almost every weekend, and few weekdays). Its definitely scary. Especially when someones drunk. I hope she can leave him before the baby is born. And I'm so sorry you had an anxiety attack and bad flashbacks.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I still feel bothered by it today. She left this morning with her dog and has not been back since.
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@Courtlynn (42038)
• United States
18 Jun
@Happy2BeMe right. I would too.
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@simone10 (22271)
• Louisville, Kentucky
18 Jun
I can certainly understand why you had an anxiety attack. I think I would have too under the same circumstances.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I still feel bothered by it today.
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@simone10 (22271)
• Louisville, Kentucky
22 Jun
@Happy2BeMe I can see why it still bothers you, it would be as well.
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@JustBhem (17331)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Jun
In my case, my brother and his wife are the only things I heard arguing. If not yelling, they fight like they don't know each other. And we get used to it already.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
It is a difficult way to live.
@marlina (58293)
• Canada
18 Jun
It must have been an awful night for that woman and for you too. Enough to be anxious about it. Is it the first time?
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I have heard them arguing before but last night was the worst I ever heard.
@Nawsheen (22849)
• Mauritius
18 Jun
I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I hope that this couple get to sort out things between them. Violence only makes things worse. They must think about the baby.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
Yes I agree.
• United States
18 Jun
It has to be extra hard for you to listen to that and know the road ahead for that young woman. Domestic violence and abuse is horrible and I'm sorry you not only had to live that life but it still gives you anxiety (or PTSD). You're one of the lucky ones to have gotten out. I sincerely hope nothing happens to that young woman or the baby.
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@Happy2BeMe (61973)
• Canada
18 Jun
I hope so too. I worry about her and her unborn baby. He is an idiot.