I have no sense of humor..

I think it does work as a medicine...in a way. If we are looking at everything in humorous way, things that used to bog us down cease to trouble us as much, and that has a positive effect on our physiological well being, as well as outlook. By being positive, we can automatically take right decisions and even if we go wrong, we have sufficiently reinforced immune system to prop us up. So I am for more laughing and fun.

Yeah...we do need to differentiate between sense of humor and sense of hurt...that way may be they will start demarcating what does not go down with the society.

I guess I am at a loss with the family humor, having stayed in hostels with no family visiting me. lol.

@vandana7 I think it's quite possible to not have certain things in common with family . . . just keep the good stuff and the rest, well, I guess we can try to "humor" it as long as we can tolerate it.

Aw....you are such a darling Top... Typical Frenchman. :) I guess I do..have some...and am touchy about some subjects.

@sishy7 I hope so. I am not sure to have still his email address, it was on a server which has disappeared last month.

I hope all is well with theSids... I keep checking on his activities from time to time and it's still showing 14-Sep-16 as the last date...

I think when it borders to ridicule ...it should be stopped! People should know where to stop talking...unless they want to lose a friend...and vitiate the atmosphere..

@sabtraversa ...Aw...our folks stop short of saying sorry.......lol. That gives them perverted pleasure to say "that was a joke"...and keep us waiting for that apology....they know we are waiting and they don't come up with it, so yes, hurting them back is the only way to drill sense in them.

@vandana7 The conversation was like this: - I saw them this morning. - Them who? - Deez nuts! - *heavy insults* - Come on, that was a joke. Sorry. - *more heavy insults* - *insults back*

I agree. I have no sense of humor when others ask me to adopt their child or them. If I wanted one, I would have had one, or adopt one. First they offer, then they call it a joke and say it was said as a joke. I ask them in which book or movie did you come across such kind of joke.

@LadyDuck .. Ironic isn't it, there are laws against physical disabilities. You can't tease a person without hand, or eye. But the world expects people to prove that internally there was nothing wrong with them and takes perverted pleasure in jumping with joy when the lady touches menopause...ah now I have hopes to shove my child on her, or take her monies for my pleasures..

@vandana7 I understand and you are right, it is like when we say we have no children because it was our choice and people joke saying we possibly could not have children. This is a stupid thing to say and anyway not at all true.

Yes...it has to be WITH and not AT.

I can understand that...not realize. It is "I don't care", or "I want to hurt because I am itching to have some fun at your expense" behavior that is annoying. I hurt them back of course.

Me too...this place is absolutely hilarious...can help to bring a smile on face anytime. :)

@vandana7 Yes, and humour is great medicine

Oh? Where did you buy yours? LOL

@vandana7 I'm looking for the receipt. I'm taking it back to the shop!!!

Well for want of better words...what else can you call ridiculing?

@vandana7 That's a bit crude. I don't find talking about the anatomy amusing.

@vandana7 Alas we hurt each other without realizing it. Being in that kind of Family I have learned a lot of things and to not be so sensitive in some cases. My other Famly never back down and one of my Aunties says every time she sees him she feels like hitting him which she never does but she feels like it.

I think we all are sensitive to some issues. Given that, whatever be our form of sense of humor, we are likely to hurt somebody. If I do that, I am quick to apologize, and avoid hurting the person the next time on the same issue. It is not as if the person does not have sense of humor. It is because his or her experiences on that subject are not pleasant and remind him or her of something painful. We can be human by showing our understanding. But there are those who do it knowingly. They don't apologize. Instead they use the cover "I was only joking". Then it gets annoying and the need to hurt them back arises.

@allknowing .. No..they are not in virtual world..some yes, not all. LOL ..thanks ..they are already dumped...this post is to let others who go through what I have been through know that there are people who understand how nasty that kind of joke sounds, and it does not qualify as joke and that they would be within their rights to hurt back, or do everything they can to be away from such folks. :) I do have a couple of childless aunts..they have cried their hearts out...I have fought back ...they have succumbed to the system. They did not choose to adopt because they were uneducated and did not have enough monies and one of them was married to a drunkard. We can't trouble people whom god has already given enough on their plates........that is pure sin.

@vandana7 Gardeners should also have a good heart and a big laugh knowing I have a passion for gardening. Such desperados you meet in your virtual world. - I just dump them.

@vandana7 Wait a minute. You do not have kids because you are not married. Am I right? This reminds me of an incident. A friend of mine had gone for an interview and the prospective asked how many kids she has. She said two and the guy says his secretary has none - the secretary was a spinster (lol)

Oh really... You have a great sense of humor, at times I do not get it at first because I am not accustomed to your language ...but I return and read and am all laughs...

Yes. They were...of me not being married, of me not being well endowed...of me not having children and not accepting their offers to adopt their child or them for adoption as joke.

@rebelann ..Oh they knew I am ok..they saw me, but they imagine that I will need THEM and THEM only, based on their limited experience with their grandparents..or what they saw in old age homes...lol. I told I have plans...have provided for me in old age home...but oh no..it is not same as living with own family. Desperate attempts to push themselves into my life...

That's awful @vandana7 Maybe you should show them that you're happy to be able to take care of yourself without relying on anyone else to provide for you.

Aw...I love you...seriously I loved Ms. Valentine..and I really love you...who told you today is my birthday? It is not but still you are so sweet...wish I could give a nice hug..

@vandana7 It's not your birthday?? I'm dumbfounded and flabbergasted. I found the date in my calendar. I must have written it down last year.

@MALUSE .. Aw...Maluse..it was just the next day..LOL. Never mind...you are a very very sweet friend I have. I love the way you just wrote I'm dumbfounded and flabbergasted. By the way, I also knew a half German kid here. And she is now too Indian in her way of living to remember her lineage. :)