Does checking mobile phone of others is appropriate?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58675)
Delhi, India
July 13, 2017 5:43am CST
Mobile phones have become parts and parcel of our life. Most of us own a mobile phone and each member of a family owns a mobile phone now a days. However, human beings are curious by nature. They remain interested to know about others and what is happening in the life of others.
To quell your curiosity as a parent do you check mobile phones of your children, if they have?
If you are staying with your parents have you every found that your parents check your mobile phone?
How do you feel if your parents or any close relative checks your mobile phone without informing you or without your permission? Do you feel that its clear invasion of your privacy? Your take on this.
I normally do not check mobile phone of others, without their explicit permission.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
13 Jul 17
I do not care about anyones phone to check it lol
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 17
It simply means that you do not believe in invading privacy of others, which is nice on your part. 
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
13 Jul 17
If my parents check my phone , that's okay for me. But not relatives, no way.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 17
@prashu228 How come you are not close to any of the relatives? There might be one or two, whom you adore?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
It means that you trust your parents but you have some issues with your relatives.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 no issues with relatives , but i am not close to any relatives except my family ..so is it
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
Mobile phone are like mini computers. It is wiser and practical on your part that you neither allow others to check your phone nor you check mobile phones of others.
PS - You were not visible on mylot for past few days. I hope everything is fine with you?
PS - You were not visible on mylot for past few days. I hope everything is fine with you?1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jul 17
@Nawsheen I did not know about your exams. Hope you would have done well in your exams and you would come out with flying colours.
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@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 I had some exams and they are over now. I will be on here now
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
14 Jul 17
Mobiles phone have information that is strictly personal. Even bank transactions are found in there. I would not want anyone to check my mobile nor would i check anyone else's
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
It is wiser and practical on your part that you neither allow others to check your phone nor you check mobile phones of others.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 17
Welcome to mylot!
Yes, checking mobile phone of others is a kind of invasion of their privacy. Up to which age do you think that parents should check mobile phone of their child?
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 Jun 21
It is good that you do not like to check mobile of others and no one checks yours also.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
11 Jun 21
@Rashnag If you notice someone picking up your phone, will you immediate ask her to keep it away?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jul 17
@MGjhaud I agree with you. Should I presume you do not believe in invading privacy of others?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
Wow! what a comparison between mobile handset and underwear.
The question here is not of using mobile phone of others, the question is will you check others's phone without their permission?
The question here is not of using mobile phone of others, the question is will you check others's phone without their permission?1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
It is wiser on your part that you do not check mobile phones of others. If your children have mobile, would you check it occasionally?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 17
@Sreekala It means that you are not going to spare your children, in case they are going to use mobile phone, whether they like it or not.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 I already told in case of children it is mandatory even if you don't like
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@celticeagle (159008)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Jul 17
If my kids had cell phones they would be set up correctly to begin with and would be monitored. At least for a period of time so I know what is going on. I am an adult and unless I ask someone to answer my phone for me or something like that I would like others to leave it alone. DOn't they have a lock on them so people can't get into your phone? I don't know cause I don't have a cell.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
You mean to say that if your kids have mobile phones, you might check their phones to see their activities. Yes, you are right that there is a screen lock on mobile phones and it is not easy to open phone of others, however, these screen lock could easily be decoded and a mobile could be opened and checked.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jul 17
@celticeagle It means that you will keep a total watch on their mobile phones and would not allow them to use phones without your knowledge. That means you are a strict parent.
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@celticeagle (159008)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 .....I would first set their phones up so they are as safe as possible and I can track where they are if I need to. And, yes, I would check their phones if I felt there was a need. If I couldn't get into to them my kids wouldn't use them until I could.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Jul 17
I would not check someone else's phone - that is just being nosey. That being said, I do think a child with a phone does need to be monitored by their parents - not for the sake of invading their privacy, but to protect them. And that too being said, if a child needs to be "protected" from predators and social media (simply because they are not mature enough to understand the ways of the world yet), then honestly they are not ready and should not have a mobile phone in the first place (but that is another discussion!).
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
It is wiser and practical on your part that you do not check mobile phones of others. Yes, you are right that if you given a mobile phone to your teenage child, it is better to check his/her mobile phone occasionally so that if s/he is indulging in any unwanted activity, s/he could be warned about it. You have rightly pointed out that children are not very experienced so they needed to be protected from predators and evils of social media.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jul 17
@much2say Yeah, you are right that now a days that young kids have phones. Some parents are very benevolent and would buy a phone to kids, when they do not deserve it.
In case of your daughter's friend, first of all it is not appropriate to give mobile phone to a 12 years old kid and then checking it does not make sense. Rather the parents should properly guide their kids about the nuances of using a cell phone.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 The problem is even young children have phones here . . . not just teens. Even some of my little son's classmates have their own phones, can you believe it?
My daughter's friend (12 years old) has a phone and his mother monitors his phone, but I don't think it's the right way. She will go on his phone, read all the text messages and delete them, including phone numbers in his contacts. She truly invades her son's privacy . . . when there are other ways to monitor a kid's phone - respectfully.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 17
Nice to see you back. It is good that you do not believe in checking phone of others. Apparently you remained too engrossed in checking your own phone that you do not find time to check others.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
@ashuli I know you are very wise and practical.
PS - It is nice to see you back on mylot. We would like you to keep surfacing here, if you could. 
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
Yes, if someone is checking your phone without your explicit permission, it will be invasion of your privacy. You have rightly said that if you have given a phone to young kid/teenager, it is prudent to check his/her phone occasionally so as to keep a watch on his/her activities.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
@shaynas You see playing games on your hubby's mobile is not a big deal. . It is good to hear that you have trust each other and you do not mind checking each other's phones. Trusting each other helps in bonding.
. It is good to hear that you have trust each other and you do not mind checking each other's phones. Trusting each other helps in bonding. 1 person likes this
@shaynas (5488)
• India
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 Though i do check my husbands phone at times because he has some interesting games installed But he knows it (mostly i do it in front of him) and fine with it. In fact even I am okay of he takes my phone for some reason. We both trust each other on not invading each others personal things. We already know what all we can find in each other's phone
But he knows it (mostly i do it in front of him) and fine with it. In fact even I am okay of he takes my phone for some reason. We both trust each other on not invading each others personal things. We already know what all we can find in each other's phone 1 person likes this
@Bodyandbrain (13797)
• Gurgaon, India
14 Jul 17
Being a parent I have right to check my child's phone but I rarely do that. In my family we all have our own mobile phone and although no one has set any password or locking system, no one has interest to check others phone.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jul 17
You have rightly said that as a parent you could check your kid's phone but apparently he has you do not feel like checking his phone. It is good to hear that your phones have no password and it could be checked by anyone.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 17
@Bodyandbrain It is good that in your family there is nothing to hide. We all have screen lock but we know how to open it.
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@Bodyandbrain (13797)
• Gurgaon, India
15 Jul 17
@dpk262006 yes, in my family we don't have anything to hide from each other.
Do you have locking system on your mobile?
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@shikharava (1838)
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13 Jul 17
I don't think so. Phones may contain private messages, videos (you know that kind of!! Ahem), pics, and emails. It may fall into misuse and even blackmailing. So it would never be appropriate to check someone else's phones or let someone else your phones. It's better that we keep it to ourselves or share it when we want to and what we really want to. Just saying...:)
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 17
Yes, you are very right smart phones are not less than mini computers and they contain many private messages, pictures and videos, therefore, one should not check mobile phone of others and should ensure that his/her mobile phone is not checked by any other person unnecessarily.
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
12 Jun 21
If they are wise, they won't check my phone. Theirs don't interest me anyway.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
13 Jun 21
Of course, wiser people won't check your phone but there are some curious souls who just get hold of others' phone and try to check it. .
It is good to hear that you are not interested in others' phone.
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It is good to hear that you are not interested in others' phone. 1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 17
@youless It is good that you let them live their own life and you allow them space.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
It means that you trust your husband and son and you do not feel like checking their phones.
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@youless (112112)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 I just don't have such an interest or curiosity.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jun 21
I think even your wife checks your mobile phone, it might be invasion of your privacy, even if your mobile contains nothing.
Do you check your wife's mobile?
It is wiser on your part to check mobile of kids, as they are too young to understand what is right and what is wrong.
It is wiser on your part to check mobile of kids, as they are too young to understand what is right and what is wrong. 
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 17
It means that you and your hubby has mutual trust and you do not feel like checking each other's phone.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jul 17
@LadyDuck It is great to hear that you both trust each other and this trust factor has made your marriage life successful.
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@LadyDuck (458008)
• Switzerland
14 Jul 17
@dpk262006 Of course we have mutual trust, we would have never been able to live together for 46 years without mutual trust.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 17
You do not want others to check your mobile phone at any cost. Is it?
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