MYLOT - NOT A DATING SITE.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (53679)
July 15, 2017 8:08am CST
No, Mylot is not a dating site - you will find many of those elsewhere online. However, in any close community the possibility does exist that there will be at least one person of the opposite sex who you find shares the same interests like you do, one person who you feel you can easily relate to -even though you have no idea what that person looks like.
I had such an experience when I was a member of the now defunct Bubblews site, nothing came of it of course - we were in two different worlds. What this shows is that you don't necessarily have to make eye contact with someone to connect, it could happen with a sharing of ideas and similar minds - even though you are thousands of miles away.
Have you ever had such an experience?
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62 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Jul 17
My husband and I met in an AOL chatroom 13 years ago. We only got to know each other through typed words at first-never saw a picture of each other or anything. Then it went to phone conversations but still we never saw each other.
A month later he went to where I lived to be with me and that was the first time we laid eyes on each other. It was amazing!
So, there is a connection that can absolutely be made online-without meeting face to face.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Jul 17
@Kandae11 Absolutely-it was love based on what is within-not outward appearances, the best kind! =)
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
15 Jul 17
It is amazing what can happen online.
No I have not had a date with anyone on social sites.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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15 Jul 17
@TiarasOceanView I never tried it - I heard too many awful stories - of course there were good ones as well.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
15 Jul 17
@Kandae11 Yes I see some good ones too. But not for me it wasn't to be.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
15 Jul 17
Well, yes it is true. Mylot is not a dating site. But love can show up anytime, anywhere. Two persons who share the same ideas and find a real connection online can fall in love no matter what kind of site it is.
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@vandana7 (98826)
• India
16 Jul 17
Yes...I am a great flirt...I have torrid affairs...ask @DaddyEvil, @CoralLevang, @mommaj, @TheHorse..LOL Kidding...I have really got great friends out here. Though I did not think in that dimension, being a realist and simply too pragmatic on most issues, I believe friendship can move to the next level, not necessarily where dating leads, but a friend and confidante towards whom you can turn to at all hours of the day and expect honest advice, sometimes insane ones too. lol. I expect my friend and confidante to have guts to tell me I am a selfish b tch or ugly fat blob, and all that is banned for other members of the society to do out of "sense and sensibilities"...not their business kind. I can take it but only from such friends because I would know that he or she has my best interests in heart, and others are all trying to drag me down because they have some issues of their own. So while it is not a dating site, I date all, men, or women...and have good time...troubling them mostly. lol
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
16 Jul 17
@vandana7 You should understand something, vanny.... @TheHorse may be referring to you as "hot" for your 
fiery temper and the way you work to dominate
the interactions you have on myLot... Some men are sexually attracted to women who "put a man in his place" or dominates them in social interactions. (Surely, you have met Indian men who appear domineering in public but prefer their wife/girlfriend to take the reins in private?)
Notice, even when you are playing, you wrote, "*Acting shy, coy, and demure*" (Instead of being shy, coy and demure, you told him you were only acting that way.)
fiery temper and the way you work to dominate the interactions you have on myLot... Some men are sexually attracted to women who "put a man in his place" or dominates them in social interactions. (Surely, you have met Indian men who appear domineering in public but prefer their wife/girlfriend to take the reins in private?)
Notice, even when you are playing, you wrote, "*Acting shy, coy, and demure*" (Instead of being shy, coy and demure, you told him you were only acting that way.)2 people like this
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
15 Jul 17
Nope, no love connect online. I think infatuation may occur but sometimes when you meet someone you see more, hear more and know more, anyone can hide behind a computer and pretend to be sane but in real life they are a mean old butt hole.
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@MarshaMusselman (38652)
• Midland, Michigan
15 Jul 17
People you meet face to face can hide behind something too so you never see their true self. Fortunately, that doesn't happen too often, but it does happen.
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Jul 17
No, I have not. Not something I seek.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
15 Jul 17
It's natural for people to be attracted to one another no matter what the platform or the circumstance guess it is something instilled or we were born with, to up it to the next level is another thing
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
15 Jul 17
@Kandae11 actually I think it would up one level at a time, so suppose we were both interested with each other then the next level PMing, then exchanging pictures via emails, sending gifts, then the actual planning and going to where you are etc..
Yes it is uphill and it could either stop on one level or progress to the next and the next.. Distance and logistics is a major factor but it could also be balanced by determination, tenacity and or sincerity, chance or fate would also play a role.
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@sabtraversa (12937)
• Italy
15 Jul 17
It's like finding your soulmate in a work environment, it can happen, but you're not there for that reason.
I had a crush for someone on another site, but we have never met (damned distance and age gap). 
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@sabtraversa (12937)
• Italy
15 Jul 17
@JohnRoberts I was even thinking of moving to his country, but that's way more complex than it seems. Age gap becomes less severe with time, but we're both young and can't play waiting games.
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Jul 17
Distance is killer every time and the age thing is always an issue.
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@Hate2Iron (15730)
• Canada
15 Jul 17
Nope... I was long time married by the time the internet was born... and I guess that it would have to happen to me to understand if it could actually happen. Too suspicious for my own good!!
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
15 Jul 17
I have not, I'm married but I know two who met at a writing site long long gone (way before Bubblews) - they had an online 'romance' for a long time an finally met - he went to visit her and moved in...it didn't work out and they went their separate ways.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
15 Jul 17
@Kandae11 It was a mistake from the start.
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
15 Jul 17
I had this situation happen but most of the time we just ended up as friends instead of dating. I think it is magical when people can find a connection. online dating is still dating. It happens when you are least looking for it.
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@manandezo (655)
• Petropolis, Brazil
15 Jul 17
It never happened to m, but I know we are not free from it as it can happen anyway. For me, this is something I am not seeking, but people can feel attracted by what we are writing, the ideas we expose and it is not our fault when it happens. I think we should let the person know, if contacted in such a way, that we are not interested in the most polite manner, and let them be happy the way they think they can be, even pretending MyLot is a dating site.
Nice post of yours @Kandae11!
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@youless (112113)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Jul 17
Of course Mylot is not a dating website. Actually I don't understand why some people will make a mistake to think it is a dating website. When I just joined here, my avatar was my son's baby photo and I thought it was obvious that I was a parent
Now my son grows up and my avatar photo also has an update.
Now my son grows up and my avatar photo also has an update.2 people like this
@Kandae11 (53679)
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16 Jul 17
Everyone is aware it is not a dating website, but - some will still (as they say in my country) "try a thing". I am also making the point that even though Mylot is not a dating site, the possibility is still there that two members might feel a special connection and take it further.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
15 Jul 17
No I am not looking for any..lol..I have heard some weird stories as well..
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
15 Jul 17
@Kandae11 true..and there are other sites for that as you mentioned..
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
16 Jul 17
Hmmm... I am not sure how to answer this, Kandase... LOL!
I am not romantically inclined, so someone on myLot would have to work hard to interest me in them like that!
I have run into many people on myLot, Bubbs and WebAnswers that I became friends with, sight unseen... and you may have seen me getting uhm... flirty? *Yeah, that word words for what I am talking about here!* with different women on this site, BUT... in real life, would anything happen? Probably not.
I am more interested in a person's brain than I am in their body, no matter HOW they look!
I could see how, if two of us met and we liked each other, had plenty of contact after we met (No, not THAT kind of contact!) that things might keep progressing... but no, I have never had that type of experience.
Believe it or not, no matter how I play on myLot, I can be rather shy in real life. (Maybe socially slow would be the better way for me to say that?)
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
16 Jul 17
@vandana7 Nope! I have not changed my mind.
I am telling the truth, though. I have not been in a situation as described. Have you?
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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16 Jul 17
You said you are more interested in the person's mind not how they look, therefore if you did fall for someone online - mutual interests, chemistry etc. - then it would be no problem if or when you eventually meet and that person turns out to be far from what you envisioned.[em]
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@vandana7 (98826)
• India
16 Jul 17
Now this is something some myLot could be couples need to read. @TheHorse, @CoralLevang, @DaddyEvil, @mommaj..can you all help me spread the message across..
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@vandana7 (98826)
• India
19 Jul 17
@CoralLevang .. Shy boy of myLot needs to shed shyness.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
16 Jul 17
i had a private message from a foreign man who said: "Hello Ingrid, you have a nice and welcoming profile, and you look like an interesting person. How are you ?", sent on
1 Jun
i thought this person thought this is a dating site.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
18 Jul 17
@Kandae11 he has no other activity now, my friend. maybe he decided to quit because he cannot have somebody to date him here.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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18 Jul 17
@ridingbet Same thing with one who private messaged me, he is no longer here.
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@librarygeek1980 (3137)
• United States
15 Jul 17
Admittedly, there are a few guys on here that I could be attracted to, just the fact we share the same interests, and right around the same age. But distance and no money is the killer though. That being said, what is online, stays online, lol. That's one of the things with any social site though.
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