~She's Not Doing Well~
July 18, 2017 11:34am CST
My grandmother on my dad's side has always been a strong and independent woman, she amazed me with her strength in every way. She did everything herself, power walked for miles every day, took care of a mentally retarded daughter on her own once my grandfather passed away, and she never had an ache or pain...until she hit 90 years old. Slowly within a year's time she went down hill really fast. My parents went to NY this past week to say their goodbye's because she is not doing well at all. She can't walk anymore, she has dementia, she's weak and sick looking, she's in a lot of pain, and she's miserable since she can no longer do things for herself. =( It was so sad as my father told me how she was because it sounds like a completely different person. It breaks my heart. When she passes away her daughter (my aunt) is going to have the hardest time with it. She's in her 50's age wise but still a small child mentally-she's not going to handle this well at all.
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• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
It is great to reach that age, but not been able to do most activities is not. My mother is 75 years old and she is stil active, but I don´t imagine how she is going to be in 10 or more years form now. I wish your grandmother the best on these years
• Peoria, Arizona
That is really a shame, it is never easy to lose anyone, but at least everyone is prepared for it to happen when it does. Also, at least she lived life to the fullest, she sounds like a very strong woman to look up to. i hope your aunt has people around her to help her through this hard time and when the inevitable does occur.
• Petropolis, Brazil
I am so sorry to hear that, @LovingMyBabies! I wish all goes well and this is just life. I know it gives us so many bad aspects when face our final road, but nothing ends there and there will be a new beginning for everyone. This is great to think and forces grow in ourselves when this inspiration comes. Be strong, try and help your aunt in your possibilities and all will be fine. Wishing you well from here!
• Gainesville, Florida
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother's condition. It's so unfortunate that we live such long and happy and fruitful lives, and then fall apart at the end. Although I want to live to be a 100, I want to do so with all my strength and wit about me. But unfortunately there are some things that are outside of our control, and it's just a fact of life. There's no way to sugar-coat it....getting old sucks. I just got back from visiting family in south Florida last weekend, and while there celebrated my grandpa's 92 birthday. Physically, he's still doing well, but mentally he is suffering from dementia and it's really difficult to see him that way. When it's your grandmother's time to go, I hope she does so peacefully and with a smile on her face. I also hope that at that last hour that she has a clear enough mind to be able to recognize all her loved ones around her.
• Jacksonville, Florida
@moffittjc Thank you. It is sad how that happens but I'm glad she lived a good life. I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather as well. =( I would not want to witness that first hand, it would be so heart breaking. I hope so too. I know she will be with my grandpa again and she will be in Heaven so that's comforting to know.Thank you. =)
• United States
Where will your aunt go once she passes? Is she in a home where she receives care? I alway worry about things like that. Dementia is horrible and takes a toll on the one afflicted with it and those around them as well. I have watched so many people decline rapidly with it. Saying a prayer for you and your family.
• Jacksonville, Florida
@ElusiveButterfly My aunt already lives in a special needs home so she will be okay physically, I am just worried about her emotional health once my grandma passes away. It is horrible, I wish it didn't exist. =( Thank you for praying.
• United States
@LovingMyBabies one of my former clients now lives in a nursing home. She was unable to care for herself. Her sister cared for her for a couple of years after their mother passed away. She is now nearly 70 and still mourns the loss of her mother. Makes me sad to see her so sad. She was born with special needs too. Her mind is sharp, but that of a child.