She Would Have Been 50 Today

Roses for Sarah.
By Jabo
@jaboUK (54507)
United Kingdom
July 18, 2017 3:04pm CST
Jubilant, I told my husband that it had happened as we'd planned, our dreams came true, I was 'with child', the very thought had us beguiled. For nine long months our baby grew, then I was 10 days overdue, we'd had things ready for so long now surely nothing could go wrong. At last the big day had arrived, for our sweet child I pushed and strived, what shock and anguish when they said that it's a girl - but she is dead. So her birthday was her deathday, it hurt us more than words can say, and so our little one who died will never know the tears we cried. She won't know how we would love her, joys of life she'd not discover, our longed-for babe had never breathed, and ever since, for her we've grieved. This date is etched upon my heart, this is the date she did depart, it hurt us then and hurts us still, we don't forget, and never will. RIP Sarah. Born July 18th 1967. Died July 18th 1967.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 17
IL am crying Jabo I lkoist our little gilrl when she was eight sge ghad oneymi nuis buy t an aneurbysn in her throat kikked her it burst she'bled todeaht it stil hurts she would be fiftyseven todauy she diled on thanks fiving day 1968
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@Hatley I remember you telling us about your little girl, and your loss would have been far worse than mine as you actually lived with her for 8 years. But we never forget, do we?
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 17
@jaboUK no but she was a lolved but so loving and so loveable we sure did enoy gher a lot we were graeful we had her that long
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@Jackalyn (6652)
• Oxford, England
19 Jul 17
I am so sorry to hear this. I know that this kind of grief never really leaves you. The time you had together on earth must be so precious.
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@amadeo (67784)
• United States
18 Jul 17
this must have been very hurtful.I know when we lost our two babies it was dreadful
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@amadeo Losing two must have been almost unbearable.
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@amadeo (67784)
• United States
18 Jul 17
@jaboUK it was very unbearable.The second one was careless on the doctor part.
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@Corbin5 (109662)
• United States
18 Jul 17
Heartbreak tinged with such sweet beauty, my friend.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@Corbin5 Thanks Deborah. We were lucky to have two perfect children afterwards, and we are immensely proud of them both.
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@Corbin5 (109662)
• United States
18 Jul 17
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@bluesa (13547)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
18 Jul 17
I am so very sorry, Janet. She will always be in your hearts.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@bluesa Yes, she will. I wrote about this last year, but thought I would make a poem for her 50th birthday.
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@bluesa (13547)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
18 Jul 17
@jaboUK a poignant but beautiful tribute to Sarah for her 50th, Janet.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@bluesa Thanks Catherine.
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• United States
18 Jul 17
the pain never goes away and I'm so sorry for your loss.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
Thanks Marilyn, ii's always there but only comes to the surface occasionally now.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Jul 17
I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. The pain never goes away, even with time. I lost my baby on October 24th and every year when that date comes, it saddens me the most.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@LovingMyBabies Yes, it's the birthday that brings it all back. Sorry you went through this too.
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@TRBRocks420 (79607)
• Banks, Oregon
18 Jul 17
Sorry for your loss my friend. I had a baby sister, who only lived a week or two if that.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@TRBRocks420 That must be even worse if she lived for a week, so sad.
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@TRBRocks420 (79607)
• Banks, Oregon
18 Jul 17
@jaboUK It was a very sad time.
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@just4him (120558)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Jul 17
I am so sorry. I can feel your love and anguish in your poem.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@just4him Thanks Valerie, I appreciate your comment.
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@just4him (120558)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Jul 17
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@celticeagle (118615)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Jul 17
Sweet Sarah. How sad for you. I can't even imagine. R.I.P.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@celticeagle Thank you for reading this.
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@celticeagle (118615)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Jul 17
@jaboUK .....Thank you for sharing it.
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@Kandae11 (38717)
18 Jul 17
Those are lovely roses for a lovely child, had she lived.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@Kandae11 Thank you so much for those kind words.
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@Freelanzer (9373)
• Canada
18 Jul 17
She is alive in your hearts but I suspect the pain will always be there. So sorry for your loss
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 17
@Freelanzer Thank you. For most of the time the pain lies dormant, just surfacing occasionally - like today.
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• Preston, England
20 Jul 17
A terrible loss for sure - lovely poem of commemoration
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
20 Jul 17
@arthurchappell Thank you Arthur, I thought I'd write something for her 50th.
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• Preston, England
20 Jul 17
@jaboUK an important anniversary to reflect on
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@Gillygirl (17340)
• Sutton, England
19 Jul 17
So sad Janet, I didn't know this. So sorry for your loss.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@Gillygirl Thanks Gill - most of the time I don't think about her now, but it comes to the fore on her birthday every year.
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@Gillygirl (17340)
• Sutton, England
22 Jul 17
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@dodo19 (33043)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Jul 17
I'm so sorry for your lost. I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel. I can't imagine losing one or more of my kids. The hardest thing a parent could go through, as well as a parent's worse nightmare.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@dodo19 It's not as bad as losing a child you've had time to get to know, but it was a horrible experience.
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@dodo19 (33043)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Jul 17
@jaboUK All the same, I can't imagine it was an easy situation.
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@LadyDuck (163900)
• Switzerland
19 Jul 17
I am very very sorry Janet and I can very well understand how painful this could have been. My father would have been 100 the last 16th of July. I am always a bit depressed when July comes.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@LadyDuck It's the anniversaries that hit us hard Anna.
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• United States
19 Jul 17
You express yourself beautifully. She knows you loved her......
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@AbbyGreenhill Thank you so much
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• United States
19 Jul 17
@jaboUK You are very welcome.
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@SIMPLYD (80400)
• Philippines
19 Jul 17
I can feel your loneliness, just thinking of her supposedly 50 now. Sad that she wasn't even able to see the world we are in,
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@SIMPLYD Thanks for your sympathetic comment, I appreciate it
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@SIMPLYD (80400)
• Philippines
20 Jul 17
@jaboUK Welcome.
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@RubyHawk (26986)
• Atlanta, Georgia
19 Jul 17
I'm so sorry for your loss. My son and daughter in law lost their first set of twins and later the twin to my granddaughter. Nothing is sadder than losing a child.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 17
@RubyHawk That must have been hard for your son and dil to lose three babies, one was bad enough.
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@RubyHawk (26986)
• Atlanta, Georgia
20 Jul 17
@jaboUK Yes, it was terrible but they have a son and daughter.
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@Daljinder (21718)
• India
24 Jul 17
I can't even begin to comprehend the loss.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 17
@Daljinder Thanks, it was difficult to come to terms with it, but we were lucky to have two healthy children afterwards.
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@jstory07 (68322)
• Roseburg, Oregon
20 Jul 17
That is so sad. I am sorry for your loss.
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@jaboUK (54507)
• United Kingdom
20 Jul 17
@jstory07 Thank you so much Judy.