My mom was hard but right.

@sharon6345 (138801)
United States
July 22, 2017 1:25pm CST
I was very angry that Jay could disrespect my child and think I would not get tired of it. Well I called my mom to let her know I had bad thoughts in my mind. She spoke to me letting me know I was wrong. I said mom he is abusing my child. She said, sharon your child loves that man. If you hurt him she will hate you. I was so thankful that after two hours he packed up and left. With his head facing the ground. My mom said that I need to get to the point where kay can live on the street. She said if she goes back to jay lock her out and keep her out.
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• United States
22 Jul 17
There really is not much you can say or do with Kay until she gets tired of the abuse. I think so anyway. Good that baggage is gone now. He does not belong in your house sucking off of you, he is a grown man and should man up and take care of his wife.
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@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
He does not want to take care of her. It' been his mom's biggest issue.
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• United States
22 Jul 17
@sharon6345 Yes if his own Mom wont help him why should you. Whatever they want eachother so let them have it their way but you don't need that in your house you are right Sharon.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
@TiarasOceanView I am glad he is gone. My friend could hear some of the fight could not believe he could be so nasty living somewhere rent free. He was paid $1500 gave kay $50 and took it back. calling her out her name once again. I told him trash like that can ruin a person. If kay takes him back I will kick her out too. The second I find out she is gone.
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@marguicha (102364)
• Chile
22 Jul 17
That is better said than done. It is difficult to keep our mouth shut when our child is being hurt. But theoretically your mom is right. She is a woman and she has to decide for herself.
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@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
That is good that you understand. I could not sit back and let him do that.
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@marguicha (102364)
• Chile
22 Jul 17
@sharon6345 Mothers have a natural tendency to protect. I stopped Rafael, years ago, from being quite mean (just words) to my grandson Vicente who is not his son.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
@marguicha That is good and I feel like I need to step in and protect my daughter.
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@mandala100 (50705)
• Hong Kong
22 Jul 17
@sharon6345 I'm glad you did what you need to do my friend.
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@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
I am glad it's almost over.
@mandala100 (50705)
• Hong Kong
23 Jul 17
@sharon6345 Yes that's right my friend.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
23 Jul 17
@mandala100 Thanks very much.
@NJChicaa (46369)
• United States
22 Jul 17
You need to stop taking them back. They need to hit rock bottom and stay there for awhile to learn some humility, some work ethic, and some respect. They think they are entitled to everything and they just use you for what they can get.
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@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
He is gone now and he is not coming back. kay is at work she knows if she takes him back she leaves to.
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@NJChicaa (46369)
• United States
22 Jul 17
@sharon6345 She will. That is a given. I didn't realize that he had abused her again. I must have missed that post or maybe there wasn't a post about that. He is a scumbag and Kay is just not so smart about a lot of stuff. Sharon, you need to recognize that your self-preservation is more important at this time. They are doing NOTHING to help themselves while you are doing everything right to give yourself a good and peaceful life. Get Kay out of your house and get A LOT of distance from them. Let them go live life on their own and see how far they get for a year or so. I mean it. You can't keep enabling your daughter. Look at where it has gotten her so far. Let her fly the nest and go make her own way. She needs to grow up on her own.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
@NJChicaa I got him out today and kay has no money, if she stays with him they both go. But she will be right here till she can make it on her own. I am not putting her on the street unless she comes home and I find hr back with him. I won't et him come back.
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@Tina30219 (35847)
• Onaway, Michigan
22 Jul 17
And how do you feel about what she said? I feel you had to do your motherly duty he can't talk to her this way. Glad he is gone now Kay needs to keep at her schooling and finding a better job and a place for her to live. I wish her the best
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@Happy2BeMe (74936)
• Canada
22 Jul 17
Sadly she will keep going back to him until she has had enough. No matter what you say or do it will make no difference until she is ready to leave him on her own.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
I know she wants him but she knows that life like that will be hard. She can do what she wants with it all.. I already told him if she chooses abuse he can share a park bench with her. She already knows he won't house her if he finds a place to share.
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@Happy2BeMe (74936)
• Canada
22 Jul 17
@sharon6345 he is very selfish and mean. She deserves so much better. I hope she sees it this time.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
@Happy2BeMe All she said was mom I can't go through another breakup. she said she loves him so much. I said kay he has 0 respect for you. leave now before you end up homeless with him. I said you have to find your self-worth in yourself. But she knows if she goes back I won't be here.
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@celticeagle (119881)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jul 17
Mom is right. Glad he left humbled anyway.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
23 Jul 17
Yes he left and I will know soon enough if kay is with him.
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@celticeagle (119881)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jul 17
@sharon6345 ......? ? ?
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
23 Jul 17
@celticeagle Jay is gone now and if kay takes him back this time she will be gone for good. He called her a side chick and a slu. I cussed him good and put him out.
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@jstory07 (70063)
• Roseburg, Oregon
22 Jul 17
That is a very strange marriage that they have. I think they love it like that.
@sharon6345 (138801)
• United States
22 Jul 17
Kay thinks abuse is love.
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@jstory07 (70063)
• Roseburg, Oregon
22 Jul 17
@sharon6345 I hope she never gets hurt bad.
@prashu228 (25503)
• India
23 Jul 17
Soo sorry for that. Kay thinks abuse is love? Oh my ..
@amadeo (73525)
• United States
22 Jul 17
lot of people love this type of marriage.Not sure why but they dod