Marriage and Why?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
July 22, 2017 9:31pm CST
How is important marrying someone?
So this friend of mine who I talked about my previous discussion - User 101. Well, she is going to marry the man of her dreams. But they are facing a lot of problems along the way. I heard that she was bashed my the former girlfriend of the boyfriend. And also she is pregnant now and the reason why they are going to get married because she is pregnant.
The guy shared to his parents that he doesn't want to get married because he still wants to save and that he wants to give his future wife a beautiful wedding. But things get complicated so the wedding is push through.
I wonder how sensitive marrying someone? Like do you marry someone because you love the person or because you marry someone because you felt responsible?
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
23 Jul 17
Im not planning on getting married but if i did it would never be because i got pregnant. I think its wrong to marry because of a child instead of because of love. But thats just me
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jul 17
I made this decision 6 years ago, I got pregnant and the boyfriend's family wants us to get married before my tummy get huge. Also, my parents want us to get married. I feel very secure about the thought. I asked myself, is he financially stable? No. Because the boyfriend that time was still studying and I am working that time. And turn down their offer and told them, I don't want to get married because I am pregnant. I want to get married because we love each other and that we are financially stable. Until now, we never discuss marrying each other because we understand that we are not yet ready but consider our relationship stable enough to be together and that we are already married in the eye of our mighty God.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
23 Jul 17
is she's pregnant now, then for me they should be saving up for her delivery and the baby's needs once born, milk, diapers, checkups, etc.
maybe they can have a civil wedding much later when they're both financially stable, or more importantly, if they still love each other and see themselves growing old together.
also, will he be signing the birth certificate when the time comes?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jul 17
Exactly my thoughts. They are not stable at the moment, but this friend (User 101) wants to get married right away without thinking the consequences. Like they have only been together officially for 6 months. But this girl is very eager to get wed soon while the guy who happens to be a friend as well don't want to rush things first.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
23 Jul 17
@JustBhem it's not a good start. i would focus more on the baby, than insisting on a wedding.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jul 17
@hereandthere
I agree. I made that decision as well 6 years ago. I focused on the baby but too bad we need to let the baby go.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jul 17
@MGjhaud
I think so, marrying someone who you only spent for 6 months is also not a good sign. At least they stay for a year to know each other well though they've been in a relationship for 8 years it is a long distance relationship. No stable communication ever since.
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@Humitex (171)
• United States
23 Jul 17
One of the things I have learnt is never to marry out of pity or get forced into it. Your friend shouldn't have got herself pregnant in the first place; if you are dating a guy, you should be able to tell if he is ready to settle with you or still want some time. I pray she won't regret her actions anyways.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
23 Jul 17
Personally I feel that marriage is necessary because it provides lot and security but comes with a lot of responsibilities which the couple fail to realise. Now that things did not go the way the man wanted, it is time to compromise and stand by his girl no matter what.
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@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
23 Jul 17
I have not yet married someone but I am not so positive when it comes to marriage. I have seen so many broken families.
As for User101 and her boyfriend I don't think that they should have got married as they are already having so many problems.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jul 17
Yes, I am with you. But the girl is so pushy though. They have lots of problems but the girl still wants to push through the wedding. If you are wise enough, you've known each other but not yet familiar with each attitude, why in a hurry.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
23 Jul 17
Been there done that hated it.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
23 Jul 17
@JustBhem Oh its okay it was all a learning experience Bhem. Thanks tho. I wish you luck if you ever do.
@sabtraversa (12832)
• Italy
23 Jul 17
I always believe and tell to myself that love requires no marriage.
Marriage is more of a deal, a way to get more reassurances.
It sucks when you're forced to sign a deal, and that's your friend's case. 
Some people don't accept families with the couple being unmarried, and that's what happens, last minute weddings. I'm not overly excited by the idea of getting married, but some other people surely are. I simply believe there can be many other good things in life.
Some people don't accept families with the couple being unmarried, and that's what happens, last minute weddings. I'm not overly excited by the idea of getting married, but some other people surely are. I simply believe there can be many other good things in life.1 person likes this
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jul 17
I agree if they are not yet ready or financially stable then why in a rush. The guy is having trouble about this and the girl just wants to push the wedding because he really likes and love the guy and the reason why she got pregnant right away.
Marriage is not like you have to talk about it the whole night. It requires a lot of preparation. It also takes a time to know the person you are going to get along for the rest of your life. But the fact they only have 6 months as a couple although they were in a long distance relationship for 8 years, no proper communication at all before for long 8 years.
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@aninditasen (15719)
• Raurkela, India
23 Jul 17
Both have to be there. You marry a person whom you love and you care and caring is a kind of responsibility.
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