Being snubbed....
@chrissbergstrom (10767)
Banks, Oregon
July 23, 2017 1:35pm CST
So I found out thanks to social media that my former best friend of 10 year pluss got married yesterday in our small home town at his parents place.
It feels so weird not even being invited to someone whom I was so close to from 6th grade to after graduation's wedding day.
Through a mutual friend I just recently learned he was engaged and was told about a bachelor party that was more like a mini vacation that would have cost me in excess of 200$ I told him did not have that kind of funds but would like to go to the wedding.
Never heard back then I see wedding photos this morning.
I guess I just have to realize some people are not lifetime friends, I have grown apart from almost all of my friends of childhood and high school.
Well congratulations go out to him anyway he looks very happy his wife is from another country very pretty, hope they have many happy years together.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
23 Jul 17
Sorry to hear that. It hurts to be snubbed by people that you considered friends.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
23 Jul 17
I just feel like weddings are a great way to reconnect but whatever I guess
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
23 Jul 17
You would think a friend of so long would invite you, so I'm sorry they didn't. But its true. Some friends are not meant to have forever. I've learned that from the ones i grew up with too. And thats why i dont want or need new friends. No point. I have who i need.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
23 Jul 17
@chrissbergstrom yeah sounds like the good friendship ended years ago, so maybe he didnt think of you for the invite. But still sad to find out like that.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
23 Jul 17
He and I really grew apart after high school but we would still see each other once a year for awhile, last time I talked to him he was with a ministry going somewhere overseas to teach English, I am assuming he met this girl there she has a unique name.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
24 Jul 17
Since the wedding was at a home, it may have been very limited on the number of guests. Yes, friends mostly are here for a moment, a few days, a few years,then they move on.
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@spiderdust (14741)
• San Jose, California
31 Aug 17
I was thinking the same thing, that it was just a small wedding.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
23 Jul 17
I guess since you couldn't afford to attend the bachelor party,your ''friend'' decided you wouldn't be invited to the wedding either.IMO,this is about as petty as it gets, so if i were you, i would wish him well then write him off, he's no true friend of yours
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
23 Jul 17
I kind of. Feel that way I mean maybe he was upset I said no to the bachelor party??? He knows I'm struggling I can't afford that....
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
24 Jul 17
@chrissbergstrom He might have been upset you couldn't attend the bachelor party,but,a true friend would understand why and invite you to the wedding anyway
@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Jul 17
That how life progresses. You can be close for years to someone and drift apart to being strangers. Thing about people who married then divorce and then never cross paths again.
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@shikharava (1838)
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23 Jul 17
I feel sorry for you. You seem like such a nice person. Your friend should've invited you. Nevertheless, you are truly his friend, to have prayed for his new life to fulfil. That itself is a goodness that cannot be measured. Bless you my friend. Have a nice day. \(*_*)/
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
3 Sep 17
It's sad that that happens but it does. Most of us grow apart from the people we grew up with. I still talk to some childhood friends but now they're more of acquaintances than anything. One of my former friends works at my son's school and she said she talked to him because she knew he was my son but I guess he didn't care as he never told me about it lol. I mean it's nice to see your former friends around and that you can still talk to them from time to time but sometimes we just aren't close anymore. I got married and didn't invite any of my friends and barely any of my family as it was a courthouse wedding. It wasn't personal but of course, some people were offended but I didn't mean to offend anyone. I didn't even tell most people I was getting married. A month later and I'm still having people message me about it lol.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
3 Nov 17
Ah, being snubbed. I think we all have felt that at least once in our life. I have a few times. But life goes on and people do change. Nothing we can do about that. That's why I have always said, if you have just one friend in this world, you are a success.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
23 Jul 17
He probably thought and felt that your friendship is worth something like 200 dollars, yes just wish them well and forget everything about it including being long time friends. Nice to see you here again here Chris.
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@spiderdust (14741)
• San Jose, California
31 Aug 17
Any chance that it was just a tiny wedding without many invited guests? Some people do that.
Still, it stings to have that happen.
@snowy22315 (169965)
• United States
24 Jul 17
It's true, some people are not lifelong friends. Sometimes people pass in and out of our lives.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Jul 17
I have learned through my life that some people are only meant in our lives for a season. We all change and growing apart at times happens.
I know it still hurts though and I'm sorry. =(
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
24 Jul 17
Time moves on, things change, people change. Don't put too much thought into it, move on. You didn't have to by a gift!
@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
9 Aug 17
That's too bad. :-( I'm sort of shocked that he would have not invited you to the wedding - simply because you couldn't go on the mini vacation bachelor party. Some people don't understand living on a budget. But if that's what he's like you are better off for the separation. You deserve real friends. If you have a mind to I think I would craft a well worded reply to him... but only if you feel like. Sometimes I write things that I never end up sending, too.
@MsBooklover (3974)
• United States
26 Jul 17
He knew you wanted to go to the wedding. It is a shame, but people are fickle.
