When you talk to an old friend
By Cait Tallon
August 3, 2017 2:32pm CST
Has it ever felt awkward to talk to someone you used to be close to? I've had it where I start talking to an old friend and it's like no time passed and it's easy to talk to them, but then another time it feels awkward. This year I stopped being friends with a few of my best friends, the people I was extremely close to. Recently I started talking to some and it felt weird or awkward. I used to answer their messages pretty fast now I wait hours to get a response and to respond to them. I feel we don't have much to talk about because details I'd rather keep to myself or they seem uninterested. It's weird because these are people I used to be with 24/7 and now I feel we can't hold a conversation meanwhile I can talk to some people months after no communication and feel perfectly at ease.
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• United States
I totally get it. Happens to me too. I had 4 bestfriends in elementary school, after many years each stopped being friends with me over there own problems ; controlling bfs, my bf and theirs fighting, or one stopped because my ex and i made out infront of her . Now over the last 5-8 years 3 of them has been back on my social medias and once in awhile talk to me. One was just added back think last year. So weird talling to them, and it makes the past memories hurt cuz we'll never have that again. But its life. Have something now or have nothing..
• Agate, Colorado
That's true. I think i find it weirder because in the past i went months not talking to someone after a fight and when we started talking it was like nothing happened and we're best friends again but the girl i was close to with no fights now we talk and it's like i have nothing to say and I'm just like dang we used to talk 24/7 now i have nothing to say. Sometimes it does seem the have nothing would be better though.
• United States
@skydream oh i get it. I never fought with any of them before we stopped being friends. One of them stopped talking to me again the last few months, cuz i didnt want to put my address in a group fb message.. umm what. Really. Gtfoh.
• United States
This is lengthy, sorry, but I think I can relate..... I'm not sure if we were talking or if you would remember it, but back in March of 2014, a longtime online/offline friend of mine got into a fight. At the time, we had been friends for 15 years, and this was our first fight ever. She cut me off over that one fight, and even ran her mouth at one point after. She did apologize to me at the end of the year, and eventually followed me on Twitter. We're on each other's Twitter/Instagram, but not Facebook. We talk sometimes but not often, and I don't really open up to her like I used to. It's not that I'm bitter; but she really hurt me and broke a lot of trust. And even though she apologized, I cannot help but to keep my guard up. Plus, by the time she had apologized, I had moved on from it and was living my own life. Meanwhile, I got into a bad fight with my best friend since high school back in 2007; we didn't talk again until 2008, and it was like we had never fought. I mean, I'm close with her preschool son (he's the one I babysat for so long), and we hang out all the time. So I get it. When something happens and someone close to you hurts you, it's not always easy to just pick up where you left off. It takes time to rebuild a friendship. And some people can repair it and talk like they used to, and unfortunately some friendships just don't go back to the way they were. You should always do what you're comfortable with, and if you'd rather wait hours/days to write them back or only make small talk, then so be it.
Sometimes friendship dwindles. I used to have a really good friend and we lived together in the same dormitory back in college. Sometimes when we go home we would have sleepovers in each other's houses and didn't want to let go of each other. WE always wanted to be together. But in our second year of college, he decided to move to a different campus and we drifted a part. She met new friends that I didn't like and which I thought was a bad influence on her. But we exchanged letters and I would call long distance even if it means i have to pay a lot of money for the phone bill. But now we hardly talk anymore and the one time we did, it was awkward.