Tackling the growing bad behavior in Indian men..

@vandana7 (57194)
India
August 9, 2017 10:22pm CST
It is not the dress. It is their inability to accept that Indian women can earn and leave them. That makes them feel powerless. That makes them fear they would be less respected. So they want to push women inside the homes. Then there are those women who, even if they stay home, start complaining because they can now compare with others who are better off. Outsourcing has brought changes rather rapidly in an otherwise conservative environment here. It has been both a boon, as well as bane. But there are many other reasons for such behavior.. a. Not having good role model in the family. That leads to isolation and consequent defiant attitude which says ..anyway I am bad, so it does not really matter. b. Inability of the woman having a say in the house while bringing up the child; c. Domination of the woman in the household, based on her earnings or dowry, and unwillingness to accept that her husband, brother, father, or son can do wrong. d. Lewd dances, thinking, and dialogues reaching the audience through media content, titillating others who are either sex starved or dominated at home. Most of such stuff is written or directed by people who are not well educated. While I cannot have answers for all problems, I do feel Indian government needs to tackle some of the problems differently a. The film and television censor boards need to further classify content in different categories after initial censoring. Based on that, if it is propagating wrong thinking or lewd songs or words, the central government should be entitled to first month earnings from the film, and the state government should be entitled to second month's earnings from the films. That way they can employ more police and pay better to control wrong things happening all around. b. Have stiff monetary penalties like 10000000 to be paid with annual increment at inflation rates, and six months public toilet cleaning. If the person does not have that kind of money, he cleans public toilets for six years. In addition, no rights to stand for elections, no rights to any government jobs for him and his family members. Will Indian politicians have guts to come up with such punishment or let half the population be pushed back inside the house?
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• Eugene, Oregon
10 Aug
You seem to have some ideas that might work. I hope they are considered by government.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
10 Aug
I think it is needed, when the children of powerful folks are behaving like rowdies and educated girls from richer and influential families are forced to take help of media. Ordinary girls would have no chance against such things.
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• Pamplona, Spain
10 Aug
Changes can take a long long time to work in any place but I hope they work for all of you there for the best of everyone.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
11 Aug
We need them...as of yesterday...people are so lost in their own lives that they are unwilling to spare time and effort to make world a better place for their own kids. Some of course are protecting their own kith and kin.
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• Pamplona, Spain
11 Aug
@vandana7 Its good that at least they are protective of their Family.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
11 Aug
@lovinangelsinstead21 ..No..not essentially family..their own materialistic desires and social fun. Only some of them are looking after family's immediate future.
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10 Aug
You should become president of your country. These sound like good solutions.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
10 Aug
I feel public toilet cleaning or sewer cleaning should be part of prison punishments...that would serve as a huge deterrent and couple that with hefty financial punishments ..parents would start focusing on what their kids are doing...etc., instead of socializing like mad.
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10 Aug
@vandana7 yes. That would also keep the country clean. I agree. Parents should always raise their kids first, and only socialize if there is spare time.
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@Hatley (157952)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Aug
wpw wish youi were a ble to tell thios to tjpse wjpo need to hear itt
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
10 Aug
I wish that too. But they won't implement it..because some of their own team members are bad in some ways.
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@Hatley (157952)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Aug
@vandana7 hat really stinks lol
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@hora_fugit (5435)
• India
12 Aug
I agree with the point 1.d. and strongly disagree with the last line of the point 2.b.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
13 Aug
Oh that can be negotiated...lol. You see, if I put five tough measures, I expect at least one or two to be moderated. lol. But what do you think about eve teasers, molesters, and stalkers getting away without any punishment? I would say they should do public toilet cleaning for a couple of weeks to months depending upon gravity of the situation. Then only things will change. Why should prisoners get free food, while scavengers struggle to clean the toilets...not ok with me.....let the scavengers have control over the acid being poured in the toilets, and let the scavengers get the prisoners to clean it perfectly. That way the only thing the prisoner would have in his or her and is the brush...and some mug for pouring water...and that too we can use scrub pads ..low quality not Birla 3M...solid...punishment.
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@vsai2008 (7632)
• India
10 Aug
Education and awareness is the key, but the solutions you have given are good for the society
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
11 Aug
I wish I could agree with that. But I can't. There are educated people who still feel that women should cook, have babies, and earn monies, while they take all the decisions. They will give preference to their need for privacy over the need of their wife for house help. They are so stuck in old fashioned thinking that they feel even if relatives beat up a girl or sexually abuse her, they still have all the rights to take a decision in respect of her since they are "relatives"...oh yeah..that is a 60+ lady Chemistry lecturer who feels what is there it is only your cousin who beat you up. She did put up with beating from her gambler husband. And then a much younger guy 42 years old ..voices the same thought some 10 years later...nope education is not the key ..waking up is...and strict punishments are the key. It is not like that with everybody. Some are alright..but many are abnormal. I would say 60:40. Sixty are bad, forty are good..among my contacts.
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• Lahore, Pakistan
10 Aug
Though Muslims, Hindus, and Sikhs have different religions but their mentality about women is almost same, especially in the subcontinent. The men are generally afraid of letting women go out with freedom. Their fears can be right and their fears can be wrong.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
10 Aug
I agree. Somewhere culture thing should take a back seat, and we as a group should move in step with times. It is not as if Chinese were not conservative or jews were not. But they have left some of those practices behind to move with times as it puts them at disadvantage with the rest of the world. Women in Japan used to wear kimonos. Today it is only worn on some occasions. If something is becoming a handicap, it needs to be revisited and shed. A stagnant pond can only gather filth, and river gets replenished with fresh, clean, sparkling and happy looking water because it lets go of the previous water instead of holding it back.
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@topffer (30037)
• France
10 Aug
A place where men are sweeping the floor, cleaning toilets and peeling potatoes already exists, it is called army. I am not sure that army advances the cause of women though.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
11 Aug
I wish Indian men would change their attitudes towards women. This is not how our culture allowed us to be. Wonder why it has become so bad...
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@kiran8 (14883)
• Mangalore, India
10 Aug
No politician will risk that .. however, I tend to believe that citizens can do a lot more by educating and training their children to respect all other beings and also make sure that they behave in a responsible manner while in a public place , most tend to buldoze their way .
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
10 Aug
I think cleaning public toilets should be included in the punishments ...and all those punishments are humane....if we expect scavengers to do it, human rights people cannot object to that. I would love to see people like Sasikala do that...it will prove nobody is above law...and people can see for themselves the prisoners cleaning. And repeat offenders would stop doing it...and policemen taking them to clean the toilets would have little choice but to be honest about it, as citizens could complain against them, and they would end up doing that kind of job. Caste system would also start disappearing.
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@dollaboy (6337)
10 Aug
I hope soon things will be better for you all
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
11 Aug
I hope so too..
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@dollaboy (6337)
11 Aug
@vandana7 have a nice day
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
11 Aug
@dollaboy .. You too. :)
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@jstory07 (57276)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Aug
Times needs to change and Indian man need to change the way they think about women.
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
10 Aug
It is a very sad state of affairs indeed.
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@jstory07 (57276)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Aug
@vandana7 Yes it is.
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@SHOHANA (7111)
• Bangladesh
12 Aug
same situation everywhere not only there in india
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
12 Aug
We need punishments that deter people from resorting such things. Even stalking and molestation should not go unpunished. Public toilet cleaning for a week if a person molests.
@sol_cee (13228)
• Japan
10 Aug
Vanny for president! ;)
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@vandana7 (57194)
• India
11 Aug
Aw...wish you were an Indian, I would definitely have you in my team. Evil Grin.
@ptrikha_2 (5698)
• India
19 Aug
Most of the Indian politicos are more concerned about getting bills passed in the state assemblies or the parliament to have their perks and salaries increased and do not care much about other issues. We citizens ourselves have to do something. One good initiative is change.org.