I Blew It
Green Bay, Wisconsin
August 12, 2017 12:03pm CST
I'm not going to go into it, but suffice it to say, I'm at fault at the problem this time with my older son. My words went ahead of thought and my son left in a hurry, hurt, which I know also hurt me a lot. I had more to say, but he didn't stay to listen, which would have eased things and made them better. As a result I had a bad night's sleep, but did get up early and sent an e-mail to his girlfriend telling her she's the best thing to happen for him and I hope things go well for them. It gave me some peace, as I know she'll share it with him and hopefully the rift will be healed and things will be good again. I hope. For now, I need to leave for a while and get my laundry done. My notifications are finished, and I hope you all are having a good day and a great weekend. Thanks for reading.
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• United States
@just2him Yes, I've had a rift with my one and only son, at different times. In some ways, I was right to speak while the words were completely my own anger, venting out on a young adult:( He left for two years, with the impression that I was the meanest mother in the entire world! Even my apologies didn't work, at that time:( I learned a very big lesson that day, the human tongue is truly set on fire, from Hell. The book of James was written for me, Chad's Mother!:)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
@kobesbuddy That made it worse when his girlfriend lied about you and he believed it. He should have known, living with you all his life, that she had lied. I had that happen to me between my husband and me. His friends lied about me, and was the start of the downfall of our marriage.
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
It's too soon. He would either hang up on me, or not answer at all, which is what I would expect. I've had such a rough relationship with him and was happy when things started going right for a change, and then I opened my mouth. It's going to take time.
• Midland, Michigan
Well, if you and the girlfriend have a decent relationship, then maybe you cant talk with her a bit. Not about him, of course, but just to keep some communication lines open for when he finally is ready to listen. It's hard when discussing things with our loved ones as we don't always perceive how they'll take things and it's not uncommon for most of us to begin our well-thought out ideas in ways that turn the other person off even though that's not our intent. We worked through a book in Sunday school last year that was great. It covered something similar to your situation. I don't remember what was recommended though. I asked my daughter and she doesn't even remember what I'm talking about. I think it was in the Good and Beautiful Life I mentioned a few months ago. I'll try to look it up and I've not forgotten about the other study I was going to read up on too, although I did forget to do it when I was off last week. I'll be off for some extra days coming up to visit with family from out of town, maybe then. In the mean time keep praying for your son. Will he not even answer his phone when you call? Do you text? At least you can ask for his forgiveness with a text if he won't take your calls. You may not be able to share what you planned if he's not willing to hear it.
• Boise, Idaho
Don't you wish that you could have grabbed what you said and pulled it right back into your mouth before even an inkling of it was heard? I have gotten to the point of seeing red a few times with my ODD grandson and bi-polar daughter, so I know what you mean. I hope this can be healed. Sometimes such things take some time.