Half Your Age Plus 7

By Lori
@LoriAMoore (12150)
United States
August 13, 2017 8:30am CST
What does that mean? It's the formula for how old a person should be for you to date them. You can date anywhere within the half your age + 7 and up, just not below that number. So it's kind of creepy for a 60 year old man to be dating a 20 year old woman, right? Apply the rule - half his age would be 30, plus 7 would be 37, so a 60 year old man shouldn't date someone younger than 37. I think it should apply equally to both genders. It's a rule-of-thumb, going joke about how much younger someone can be for you to date them. Ever heard it?
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@JohnRoberts (32750)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Aug
Even for a person at 60, even 37 seems much too young.
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• Richfield, Utah
13 Aug
Yes, because as a 37 year old myself, I have a 63 year old father. For me, anything older than say, 50 or 55 ish is even pushing it.....
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@JohnRoberts (32750)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Aug
@librarygeek1980 Exactly. One must face the unfortunate reality of age and leave it to wishful thinking imagining that you are young. It hurts knowing that reality and the idea of being with someone half one's age is ridiculous in most cases.
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• Richfield, Utah
13 Aug
@JohnRoberts I know it hurts, and I'm guessing at the point past 50, you have to face the fact that life is getting a bit closer to getting over or slowing down, and facing life alone is not exactly ideal. Most of the ones over 50 that are alone that I've talked to are pretty lonely, and tired of it. I dunno, one of those things I guess.it would be interesting to hear from our older mylot friends on this subject of older and alone.
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• United States
13 Aug
@LoriAMoore I've heard of such formulas but find it concerning as many of those teaches dating students would be justified using this formula! I saw the example of a 16 year old which under your formula could date a 9 year old. I would rather consider this rule of thumb... If the person you date is an age that could make them your child, grandchild of other such thing they are too young!
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
Bernie, thank you for suggesting this post. I have already responded Elsewhere on the discussion. As far as your math goes, however, half of 16 is 8. Add 7 that would be 15. Which mean the sixteen-year-old could date somebody 15. I'm not sure where the nine-year-old came in.
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• United States
13 Aug
@CoralLevang I'm having a "senior moment" LOL
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
@Berniezeitler I hear you! Maybe the 38 year old can breathe some life into me! Because going out with somebody 115, just won't work for me!
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• United States
13 Aug
I have never heard of it. My husband is 19 1/2 years younger than me. I guess it is up to the couple and not some dumb formula.
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
*perks up* you mean there's hope for me?
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@mommaj (22659)
• United States
15 Aug
@ElusiveButterfly On the bright side, eventually one year, he will be half your age plus seven. . Of course he would be 33 and you would be 52. @CoralLevang There is always hope. Whether there is a decent guy is a crap shoot.
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
15 Aug
@mommaj most of it is just crap?
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@Asylum (45476)
• Manchester, England
13 Aug
I have seen several such formulae over the years, none of which are truly viable. This formula would suggest that a 16 year old male should date a 15 year old girl or that a 30 year old man should date a 22 year old woman. These figures seem fine, but it also suggests that a 90 year old man should date a 52 year old woman. If you take any couple, there is only one year during which such a formula would apply.
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@LoriAMoore (12150)
• United States
13 Aug
That's true, I guess maybe the formula starts at age 40 or something?
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
At 62, I would not date a 90 year old man! That's just icky!
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@SonjaRae (3470)
• United States
17 Aug
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@Kandae11 (19797)
13 Aug
Never heard of it, but I would follow my heart.
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@LadyDuck (103484)
• Switzerland
13 Aug
Never heard, but the most popular Italian politician (I am Italian) is 81 years old and her future wife 29... yes he is rich, VERY rich.
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@LoriAMoore (12150)
• United States
13 Aug
Ah, money explains a lot of things, doesn't it?
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
If I knew he had six months to live, I'd marry him.
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• United States
14 Aug
@CoralLevang That's about the only time I'd date that 115-year-old.
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@Chellezhere (1039)
• United States
13 Aug
Yes, and I believe I heard this when I was half my age plus seven. Most of the men I have dated have been 16 years older. But, according to this formula, I should either be dating an 84 or 31-year-old man. And, personally, I'd rather date the 84-year-old.
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@JohnRoberts (32750)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Aug
You give us old geezers hope lol!
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
Under the formula, if I were to date an older man, he would have to be 115! I think I'll go for the younger one, at 38!
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@LoriAMoore (12150)
• United States
13 Aug
@CoralLevang Silly girl, they can be any age, just not younger than 38 or older than 115 -- see now you've got plenty of options.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Aug
I have never heard of that but it's up to the ones in the relationship as to what age is acceptable for them. =)
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@LoriAMoore (12150)
• United States
13 Aug
I just think it's funny that there's a "rule" to keep old men perverts from dating young hot chickies.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Aug
@LoriAMoore Lol yes it is!
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
I have heard of this, and I think it's a good rule of thumb. However, I don't know that now at 62 I could date somebody in their late thirties. For me I could likely go mid to late 40s.
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@silvermist (14166)
• India
13 Aug
No,I have not heard of this.But then,I have never been into dating.
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@JudyEv (88084)
• Bunbury, Australia
13 Aug
I haven't heard this. I always tease Vince that he is my toyboy although he is only 9 months younger than me.
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
Oh to have a boy toy! Still dreaming of Idris Elba!
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@kobesbuddy (2593)
• United States
13 Aug
No, I've never heard of this before today. Older women who date young guys, need their brains examined! And for the old men who select their dates from the youthful chicks, that fella needs to guard his bank account, closely!
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@NJChicaa (23223)
• United States
13 Aug
Never heard of it.
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@BarBaraPrz (15863)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Aug
I've never heard of this. But then, I never was one for dating, either.
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@just4him (76021)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Aug
I haven't heard that one. With that kind of formula, I'd be dating someone my children's age. That would be too creepy.
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• Laguna Woods, California
14 Aug
@just4him - I agree that this formula could create some very uncomfortable situations. Perhaps half your age plus 10 or 12 would be a bit more appropriate.
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@just4him (76021)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Aug
@DeborahDiane I think I'll just leave the matter up to God, though I know I wouldn't consider marriage with someone my children's age.
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• Laguna Woods, California
16 Aug
@just4him - I've been married for nearly 46 years, so it all just a matter of speculation for me. I agree that I could not marry someone the same age as my children!
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@Courtlynn (31314)
• United States
13 Aug
Never heard of it but wouldn't follow it as 19 is too young for me. I like my guy to be 1-4 years older than me.
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
You'll get older! And so will they!
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@Courtlynn (31314)
• United States
13 Aug
@CoralLevang yes but that age gap will always be there and I don't like that.
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@CoralLevang (30426)
• United States
13 Aug
@Courtlynn if you use that formula, yes. But if you just look at the age difference, when you are 47 and he's 40, the difference isn't all that much. Even though it's the same age difference.
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@celticeagle (109433)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Aug
Yes, both genders. Never heard of it.
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@moffittjc (29479)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Aug
I've never heard of that rule, but should it really even be a rule? I mean, whatever makes people happy, right?
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• Laguna Woods, California
14 Aug
@moffittjc - You made a good point ... why should there be a rule? However, if someone wants a rule, I think a better one would be half your age plus 10 or 12. But, you are right, a rule really shouldn't be necessary.
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@moffittjc (29479)
• Gainesville, Florida
18 Aug
@DeborahDiane I think that if two people are in love, let them be. Let them enjoy themselves. Consenting adults can make whatever choices they want that makes them happy.
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• Laguna Woods, California
20 Aug
@moffittjc - I agree in letting other people be. I never understand all these laws regarding who people can marry ... except the issues with first cousins and things like that. Sometimes I think the government gets too involved in the bedroom.
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@Tampa_girl7 (20046)
• United States
13 Aug
That would be too young for me , because I am 54 and a 34 year old could be my child
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• Laguna Woods, California
14 Aug
@Tampa-girl7 - That's a perfect example of a situation which could be uncomfortable. I think adding 10 or 12 years to half your age would be better.
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@Susan2015 (16847)
• United States
13 Aug
Nope, I've never heard of it before.
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