Wrong number or wrong friend?

@1creekgirl (40515)
United States
August 13, 2017 3:22pm CST
Yesterday my cell rang and I saw that it was a woman I worked with for many years. We spent more time together than we actually did with our own families during the work week. She and I had children the same age, shared a faith in Jesus Christ, and encouraged each other when our kids broke our hearts through the ups and downs of growing up. When her first granddaughter was born with a very rare, life altering birth defect, I wrote a Christmas song about the little angel. Since I retired 14 years ago, I've tried to stay in touch. When she suffered through lasting pain and problems from a botched surgery, I took supper to her family, magazines, dessert, everything I thought might help a little. I'm not boasting, I'm just saying I've tried to be a friend. I haven't heard from her in many years now and it always saddened me that apparently our friendship didn't mean very much to her. So, imagine how happy I was to see her name on the caller ID! That is, until I heard her say, "Vicki? Oh dear, I was calling so and so. I must have called your number by mistake." It didn't take me long to end that call. My husband said I shouldn't take it personally, but I do. I guess some people are wrapped up in their own worlds. Pity.
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14 responses
• United States
13 Aug 17
Oh dear..that is sort of rude even to say the least Vicki. To say that she called you by mistake..oh no. Well that must have hurt. You did so much for her. Maybe you thought more of her than she did of you..this is always hurtful.
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• United States
13 Aug 17
@1creekgirl I had a long time friend that did this to me also so I know how it feels..long story but I sure dont care anymore and now I see her for what she is.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
14 Aug 17
@TiarasOceanView I don't hate her or anything, but she, like so many, is just in her own world.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
I'm not always the best friend in the world, but it wouldn't have bothered as much if she had called me once in all these years.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
13 Aug 17
Oh My! It hurts so much if I were you. Sorry about that. Maybe she just didn't deserve your friendship.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
Thanks, Thelma.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
15 Aug 17
@1creekgirl you are welcome
@AmbiePam (85483)
• United States
13 Aug 17
That's so disappointing. I would find it very hard not to take it personally. But it seems telling she had your number on her mind.
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@AmbiePam (85483)
• United States
13 Aug 17
@1creekgirl You're definitely going to be on her mind now!
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
I'd like to think that, but she said a name that is next on the list beside mine.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
13 Aug 17
I'd also be offended and hurt.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
I'm not easily offended most of the time, but that just felt like a slap in the face. Sort of.
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
13 Aug 17
How can you not take that personally? Shame.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
That's how I felt, too.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
13 Aug 17
@1creekgirl ugh. People.
@Kandae11 (53679)
13 Aug 17
Wow! that's cold. I wonder if she is still having problems and would prefer that you didn't know.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
I don't think so. I think she's not a mean person, just in her own universe.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Aug 17
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
Sorry, Patsie, it's hard when people disappoint us.
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Aug 17
That would have broke my heart, I'm so sorry. =( It's not easy to not take it personal, as I would have too.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
Thanks, Jennifer.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
14 Aug 17
if she didn't even chat for a while, then it sounds like she has moved on. do you ever bump into each other while out and about?
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• Philippines
14 Aug 17
@1creekgirl you're more like acquaintances now.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
16 Aug 17
I am so sorry, I feel like perhaps she opened an old hurt. It is sad when friendships end and we never quite know why. You were a good friend and it is her loss.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
17 Aug 17
I appreciate the kind words, Belle. She's not a bad person and we had a lot of good years working together. I didn't expect to be best buds after we retired, but it still hurt.
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• United States
14 Aug 17
I would not call that person a 'friend' by any stretch. She could have chatted with you a while and not let it be known you were a mistake.
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• United States
14 Aug 17
@1creekgirl I wonder if she is sorry now.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
14 Aug 17
@AbbyGreenhill I don't know. She's not a bad person.
@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
14 Aug 17
Guess she couldn't think that fast.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
17 Aug 17
That is so sad but unless you had a falling out I am not sure why she would act like that to a friend who was so good to her. But I agree with your husband, don't take it personally - her loss not yours.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
17 Aug 17
I think she's just in her own little world. I'm trying not to take it personally.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
13 Aug 17
It does hurt your feelings. If I had made that phone call I would never have said it was a mistake even if it was. I would have chatted and caught up. It sounds like you were more of a friend to her than she was to you. Don't let it get you down, it is her loss.
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
13 Aug 17
Thanks, Susan.
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@dollaboy (6048)
14 Aug 17
I'm sorry that was embarrassing a bit
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@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
14 Aug 17
Let's just say, I didn't linger on the phone.
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