Is it blackmail?

@bunnybon7 (32503)
Holiday, Florida
August 16, 2017 12:52pm CST
So daughter knows I depend on her for things I have no other way to acquire. She asks me to borrow (more like give) her a few dollars a few minutes ago. I said I gave you money for gas and offered you money for cigs. and bought us all DQ meals. so what do you need. I will have to admit she tells me the truth at times even when she knows I don't approve. She admitted it was to keep him peaceful for me since she has to work from 4pm till 12 am. So even though I feel it's blackmail, I gave it her cause I really have not much choice as she won't give him up. Photo of my DQ meal. I love those crusty cheese nuggets they make and chili dogs, and I even got a root beer float. yum.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
16 Aug
That's the saddest thing I have heard. I'm so sorry. =(
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
thank you. seems like the harder i try to make our life just a bit normal around this guy, the worse he gets. thank goodness my daughter is back on earlier hours now
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• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Aug
@bunnybon7 I'm sorry but your daughter is very wrong too. She should not let him treat you bad because she loves you and she doesn't want anyone to treat you badly. Money should have nothing to do with it.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
@LovingMyBabies the reason for the money is because he wanted something and throws a fit if he don't get it and she had none. she wanted to make sure he doesn't slam doors and scream cuss all over the house while she is gone and make me miserable too
@vandana7 (57188)
• India
16 Aug
Sad..that is rotten...what kind of situation is that when you have to put up with somebody who does not approve of your parent...I thought it used to be parent not approving the boy ..or the girl, as the case may be. Things have certainly changed.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
yes they have. when you get old and disabled seems some just don't care. but their day will come
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@vandana7 (57188)
• India
18 Aug
@bunnybon7 ... Aw...hugs..I will pray things get better for you. hugs..love..tc
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
@vandana7 thanks sweetie. prayer is the best thing ever
@Gillygirl (15292)
• Sutton, England
16 Aug
It must be nerve racking for you.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
it is whenh e is like this. strange thing, he is calm a few days now
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@AmbiePam (45707)
• United States
16 Aug
Ugh. That darn boyfriend of hers. I guess you are right that at least she tells you.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
yes she knows i know her too well. and we probably know each other better then anyone else does. even if we don't understand each other
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• Lakewood, Colorado
16 Aug
Keep who peaceful?
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Aug
her bf while she is gone and i am left in the house alone with him.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
16 Aug
@bunnybon7 Helluva thing for you to have to put up with poor Brandy
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@AmbiePam (45707)
• United States
16 Aug
@TiarasOceanView That sounds scary @bunnybon7
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@1hopefulman (19513)
• Canada
16 Aug
Who is "him" that she has to keep peaceful and doesn't want to give up?
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
her bf Clay who is like a small child and slams doors , cussing everyone and everything loudly if he doesn't get what he wants. don't matter if it is your fault or problem or not.
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@1hopefulman (19513)
• Canada
20 Aug
@bunnybon7 Oh my! A little boy in a man's body.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Aug
@1hopefulman yes in fact very little. times i wonder how high his IQ really is
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@Corbin5 (78477)
• United States
16 Aug
It is sad that your money has to be used to manage the behavior of another adult.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
yes not much choice. just glad i can talk to some about it. maybe some time things will get better
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@marguicha (80231)
• Chile
16 Aug
It seems that you don´t have a choice.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
thats for sure. can only try and make the best of it. last couple of days he has been nice. wish i knew why. i would strive for that
• United States
16 Aug
I am not reading that there is a black mailing situation occurring, am I missing something in this short post ?
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
its kind of like a metaphor . you know, like i had no choice really but to give it or look forward to a scary loud annoying evening while she was gone
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• United States
21 Aug
@bunnybon7 is the other person you were left with that volatile?
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Aug
@enlightenedpsych2 oh yes. he goes around when he is upset slamming doors nearly off the hinges to startle everyone and yelling out curses that i think the neighbors can probably hear so loudly. i have no peace and thats not good for my health
• Pamplona, Spain
16 Aug
But I am glad you enjoyed the meal though even so. I would call it what you are calling it but without saying it outright.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
yes i came close but didn't say it to her
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• Pamplona, Spain
19 Aug
@bunnybon7 I know how you feel in a way but I won´t say it on here.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
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@alberello75 (12941)
• Genova, Italy
16 Aug
Your daughter may be spoiled. My brother is definitely worse! Spooky, pretentious, rude (this is also the fault of our parents ...), in short, does what he wants! His attitude, brought to me a lot of annoyance. Unfortunately, me and him, we live in the same apartment
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
so sorry. yes i try to do what i can to avoid problems with him
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@alberello75 (12941)
• Genova, Italy
20 Aug
@bunnybon7 My mistake? Always be "run away" without ever having the courage to deal this bad situation! I can not always avoid in my life! How can now defile myself in a situation where the person who creates me problems, lives in my home?
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Aug
@alberello75 yes can't avoid such things when no where to retreat,
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@DianneN (57243)
• United States
21 Aug
At least she is honest with you and hopefully he kept the peace.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Aug
he did but that happens sometimes for a couple of weeks then boom hes off again. just something i have to live with
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@DianneN (57243)
• United States
22 Aug
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Aug
@DianneN thanks
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@Hatley (157558)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Aug
looks g ood enough to eat
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Aug
we did lol
@Hatley (157558)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Aug
@bunnybon7 lol lol lol
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@SHOHANA (7074)
• Bangladesh
21 Aug
Some issues are really very common in family , so we can't call things like blackmail
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Aug
that is what we call it here when someone tells you they need something or else this will happen to you. lol
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@SHOHANA (7074)
• Bangladesh
21 Aug
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@Happy2BeMe (66531)
• Canada
17 Aug
Sorry you have to live that way with her BF.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
thank you. i know i keep talking about it but i only have friends here to listen. lol
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@Happy2BeMe (66531)
• Canada
18 Aug
@bunnybon7 it is good that you can come here and talk to us. That's what friends are for.
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@LadyDuck (118232)
• Switzerland
17 Aug
I agree that this is blackmail, I am so sorry for you.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
thanks. here is my place for ranting and friends. lol
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@LadyDuck (118232)
• Switzerland
19 Aug
@bunnybon7 This place is the right place for a good rant.
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@paigea (21011)
• Canada
18 Aug
Now I want crusty cheese nuggets. I have never heard of them.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug
they are really called cheese curds. like coated cheese strips dipped and deep fried. yum
@poehere (17261)
• French Polynesia
17 Aug
That is horrible. You need to pay her BF to keep quiet while your daughter works. That is a terrible way to live. So sorry to hear this.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
thank you. the thing is she is the one borrowed from me but i made her tell me why. i will get over it as long as he is as good as he has been the last couple days since
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@GardenGerty (90124)
• Marion, Kansas
17 Aug
That is exploitation. It can also be abuse and neglect. I am sorry that is how your life is, that is not right.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
i know. but i live with it and at least i know if i ever have to call 911 on him no one can blame me. they will definitely take him. lol
@Courtlynn (46909)
• United States
16 Aug
Not sure if it'd be blackmail, but doesnt seem right anyways.
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@bunnybon7 (32503)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Aug
in my circumstances it was the only thing to do. yet i did look at it that way.
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