Back Biting and Two-Faced People
By SirenOnFire
@JeeyanDee (2692)
August 19, 2017 7:09am CST
When there are things we don't like, disagree or has been offended by some people's actions or words, why is it that many of us tend to talk behind their backs? Don't we realize that it'll just make the problems worse? Why don't we all just grow up, sit down and talk about it with that person we have a disagreement with?
Know anyone who is like this?
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@just4him (306113)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee She would look you in the face and tell you one thing, then when you weren't looking tell other's something completely different. Those people my parents played cards with on Saturday evening, and I went to school with their children. I heard everything my mother said about me behind my back and it wasn't pleasant.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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20 Aug 17
@just4him It would have been heart breaking for you. I mean it would awful if your friends did that to you, but your mother? I would not have been able to handle that if I were you. My mom and I may have disagreements more often than I wanted to (the normal mother and daughter squabbles), but I know she loves me beyond compare and she always brags about me to her friends.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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19 Aug 17
Well it's good that they are no longer in your life. These kind of people are nothing but sources of negativities that we don't need in our lives.
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
19 Aug 17
I guess it all depends on one's maturity and way of thinking. When I am unhappy about something or if I see someone making a mistake, I would talk to them discreetly and directly. I think there is an art to delivering negative news and a lot of people have not fully developed that skill which then would make the person involved angry and defensive... and then before you know it, it just becomes a cycle. I've known quite a number of people like this and even if you do talk to them in a mature manner, they still won't accept their mistake and would go around and tell other people how awful you were to them. It's one of the drawbacks of human nature.
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@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
20 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee Completely true! I wish everyone would think this way.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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19 Aug 17
I think what's important is being the bigger person. If you tried to tell them in the best and most respectful way, and yet they still get offended, that's no longer your problem but theirs. On the other hand, you chose to talk behind their backs because you are afraid of them getting angry, then the fault is on you.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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20 Aug 17
@rosedust82 We can practice this kind of attitude and hope that as other see the good effects of this, they will also do the same.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
19 Aug 17
There are a lot of immature people who resort to immature things rather than face the problem head on. When they have a problem with somebody, they are afraid to face that person. They'd rather talk behind that person's back. It's their way of fighting, a cowardly way.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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19 Aug 17
Immature, digusting and stupid attitude of people whose bravery is nothing but a facade, because deep inside they are cowards who cower in the idea of a confrontation.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Aug 17
@JeeyanDee Yes, and what they see in others that they hate so much, is actually what they want for themselves but they could't have. Insecurity and envy causes that.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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20 Aug 17
@toniganzon Insecurity and envy leads us nowhere but into feeling more miserable about ourselves.
@JeeyanDee (2692)
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20 Aug 17
I am happy that your god has kept you safe from them.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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19 Aug 17
Yes, these kind of people are everywhere and the most important thing is for us to not get infected by their unsavory attitude.
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@JeeyanDee (2692)
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19 Aug 17
I agree! Avoid them, we must. We don't need their negativities in our lives.
@Oshobu (661)
• Nigeria
20 Aug 17
Yeah, going to others won't solve the predicament, it will only make it worse. We should call ourselves together and tell our faults and the case would be settled.
