AN OLD FLAME
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (53538)
August 22, 2017 9:14am CST
Had a chance meeting with an old flame of mine - well, maybe I shouldn't say 'flame' - because I don't recall any sparks in that relationship which ended over eight years ago.
Thing is, he would like us to renew our friendship - but I don't think so. He has this weird habit of addressing me by my surname - which won't be all that bad - except that he puts 'Miss' in front of it.
Would you feel comfortable with a boyfriend who addresses you as - Miss Brown , Miss Smith or whatever your surname is? - seems weird to me . What do you think? Would you be bothered?
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24 responses
@TiarasOceanView (70040)
• United States
22 Aug 17
Strange...
I have heard of this however. Usually the guy is subservient, reserved.
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@TiarasOceanView (70040)
• United States
22 Aug 17
@Kandae11 No it should not, and I agree, something from his background or else he just simply thinks he is being respectful.
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@louievill (28859)
• Philippines
22 Aug 17
Maybe he thinks its cute when it's in fact it's not.
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@louievill (28859)
• Philippines
22 Aug 17
@Kandae11 I would ask him directly "why are you calling me by my surname?" If I were you and tell him that you don't feel comfortable with it, there's nothing to lose.
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@Kandae11 (53538)
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22 Aug 17
@louievill I asked him before when we were in a relationship but he didn't give me an answer - just smiled - and I didn't press on with the issue.
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@allknowing (130092)
• India
23 Aug 17
That is no criteria to judge someone's character. A simple request I suppose would right the wrong.
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@allknowing (130092)
• India
23 Aug 17
@Kandae11 If your name is something like Massachusetts which is not only difficult to pronounce but also difficult to spell then give him a break. There was a red line under that ghastly name and I had to correct it twice
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@Kandae11 (53538)
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23 Aug 17
@allknowing I have three rather pretty names - he could have had his pick. The shortest one has four letters and the longest six. My surname also has four letters.
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@jobelbojel (34707)
• Philippines
22 Aug 17
I would do the same thing with my ex to ask if we can be friends again. But to call her with her surname, I won't do that.
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@responsiveme (22932)
• India
22 Aug 17
Hmmm...Is he shy?
My male colleagues call me by my surname but that is not the case here.
In any case if you don't feel comfortable then there is no relationship to renew
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@Tampa_girl7 (48786)
• United States
23 Aug 17
I'm not really sure how I would feel
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@Tampa_girl7 (48786)
• United States
23 Aug 17
@Kandae11 did you ever tell him that it bothered you ?
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@Kandae11 (53538)
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23 Aug 17
@Tampa_girl7 I didn't actually say it bothered me - just asked him why - jokingly. His answer was a smile, so I left it at that. Not a very communicative chap, so I doubt I'll give it another go.
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@nanette64 (20368)
• Fairfield, Texas
22 Aug 17
I only call people that when I first meet them @Kandae11 . For someone that you dated; I think it's rude.
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@nanette64 (20368)
• Fairfield, Texas
23 Aug 17
@Kandae11 That is just weird especially when you told him about it.
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@FayeHazel (40250)
• United States
22 Aug 17
I like it, I think it's cute. Then again that's just me. I also wouldn't know how to address him, Mr.so-and-so? Aw, flattering compliment that he is still interested, anyway... :-)
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@FayeHazel (40250)
• United States
22 Aug 17
@Kandae11 Yeah... all of the time would be irritating
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@averygirl72 (37495)
• Philippines
23 Aug 17
Maybe he is trying to be polite and formal but I want somebody who is casual and not very formal to talk to
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@ridingbet (66861)
• Philippines
23 Aug 17
maybe he was already too personal that he wanted respect to still grow between the both of you?
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