November 27, 2006 3:05am CST
What is your views on age difference's whilst in a relationship! I am 24 and my faince is 30, But when my younger sis was 16 she was sleeping with a 30 year old guy which i think is disgusting but i dont blame her at all the 30 year old should know better then to be with someone so young, Not only is it disgusting but isnt it ielegal?
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• United States
29 Nov 06
i am 23 and my husband is 30 we married when i was 20 and he just turned 28. i think that once you are out of school and living on your own age doesnt really matter but when you are younger and still in school your life compaired to someone who is not is REALLY different. my husband and i laugh at how when i was 13 he was 21 and had his first kid. i could have been his kids babystitter and now im his step mom! its gross if you look at it like that but now that we both work and are adults living in the real world it doesnt really matter. the only time we really notice it is when we are talking about old tv shows or music. then we really see the age difference.
• United States
28 Nov 06
ive gotta respond to this one.. now im in a weird place on this discussion because in a general sense id say that 16-30 isnt right.. but heres my hypocritical problem.. i have been with my significant other for almost 11 years.. we raise 2 children together and actually started dating while i was 16 and he was 30.... i know i know.. OH MY right?.. heres what i truly believe... age between lovers is of no bearing UNLESS of course one is underage.. HOWEVER .. to stand up for myself a little here! i think that it TRULY depends on the people involved.. i mean i hate to say " a 16 can make that kind of decision" because i dont think that most can.. BUT!! some i think can!.. i think it has to do with your family, your upbringing, where you are in your life, amongst other things like culture and such.. now in my specific circumstance (not to say that i'm sooo much different!) i was pregnant at 16 and my mother threw me out! so i was forced to drop out of school and go to work so that i could take care of myself and soon support a child on my own.. (the biological father was on the abusive side, when i found that i was pregnant, i cut all ties for my and my unborn childs safety and have never seeked out support from him.. he does know) so at 16 my mentality was probably a little different from that of a "typical" 16 year old, and when i met Jim, we were completely honest with each other right from the start!.. i was 4 months pregnant and had decided to have a child by myself with ZERO support.. but let me tell you something.. he is a very caring, special, unique individual and helped me and supported me more than anyone else in the whole world... Im now 26 and hes 40... and since we have a had a child now almost 2... we still are not married however will be within the next couple of years.. we have live together for 10 years with of course our ups and downs as any family.. but we are still as in love as when we met! and he is the strongest man i know.. he has raised my oldest (austistic!) son as his own from day one and we have plans to make a final adoption over the next few months.. i apologize for the book here.. but i feel that this is a strong subject for me!!!.. please feel free to ask me anything.. and please dont take this the wrong way.. im not saying its "right" im saying this is my experience.. please look at all aspects before judging your sister and her significant other too harshly. ;)
• United States
27 Nov 06
There is nothing wrong with you and your fiance having a relationship together since you two are both adults already but your younger sister and that 30 year old is disgusting because she is still a minor and teengager and she should not be with an adult yet. She still has growing up to do. Yes, it is illegal. He could be arrested for rape.