(I am) walking on a tight rope.
August 31, 2017 10:27pm CST
I and my son are feeling that we are walking on a tight rope. Why? It is because my sister is always checking on our actions in the house. An example is: just a few minutes ago, she asked me and my son who did not close the makeshift door on top of the stairs, because the dogs might go up and enter in any of the rooms. My son apologized, but he looked at me shaking his head. Another is: just several seconds ago, she asked where the floor mat is, when she knows Thor uses the mat to keep himself warm for the night. I try not to answer her in a loud voice. I try not to mind her, but she is provoking me and my son to answer her back. When she forgets to put back something in its proper place, I and my son do not ‘call her attention’, like what she does to us. Yesterday, she forgot the kettle near the bathroom upstairs, and I and my son did not bring it down. Sometimes too, she forgets to switch off the light at the back, and I don’t close it for her. She should know she has some mistakes too. She is not perfect, although she claims to be. Are you walking on a tight rope in your house too?
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My hubby used to say something all the days. He wants to keep everywhere neat and tidy. He does it every morning before going to office, and on returning home he can see children messed up all over. I try to make them understand to keep it in proper place, but he can spot the things are not in the exact place he kept in morning. I don't mind that much because children are children if they are perfect like elders then how they can be children. Neither I won't give lecture to my hubby nor I support him. I need peace at home. I can see children gets annoyed, but it does not matter, they also need to learn the lessons of discipline, isn't it. Now all changed, as his work changed and he hardly get time to do anything at home. So no complaints
• Hartford, Connecticut
I have the same issues with my roommate she leaves things all over. Most of the time I just fix it or move it or throw it away. But sometimes I get mad and tell her. It does no good though. but if she does one thing "right" or what she considers right.. she has to tell me about it like she is bragging... I don't even bother mentioning that it doesn't make up for all the things she doesn't do.
I am thankful I have my own house because no one can tell me what I should or shouldn't do. When I was still with my husband and we were living in his parent's house, we had the same sort of problem. Although my mother in law was always nice to me, there were times when parents will remark on the things that you do or buy or say. This has caused issues. Even with how to raise our child and if she deems something is too extravagant, she'll definitely say it out loud.
Be patient with your sister. She is just getting older that is why she is like that already. That's what the old people feel, they say and don't accept that they commt make mistakes, though they do most of the time. Anyway, we are all but human , that's why we err, and that's what you should just tell her everytime she calls your attention.
i have always expressed my rant in this site, my friend. i have posted so many discussions about my emotions to my sister, and i appreciate you all for sympathizing with me and giving me unsolicited advice. yes, i have to remain calmer in these situations, because if i answer back, maybe all h_ _l breaks loose.